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The Raunchy Roles You Need to Know in the BDSM World

    2 weeks ago we gave you the chance to decide the theme for our next blog. The results are in, and you voted for... BDSM roles for beginners!

    Perhaps you’ve been thinking about darker fantasies for a long time and are finally seeking that moment to indulge, or maybe you’re newly curious? Finding your place in the world of BDSM can be daunting - with a multitude of different relationship power dynamics and role-playing that can be sexual, non-sexual, or a mix of both!

    We’ll ease you in with the most common types (for now). But remember - all BDSM roles rely on mutual trust and consent, as well as satisfaction. ??

    The Dominant (Dom / Domme) 😈

    This person has all the power over a willingly Submissive partner during playtime. They take control, make the rules, create the structure, and direct the experiences. In responsible BDSM play, everyone involved will agree to the ‘negotiations’ involved - which are essentially the limits, safe words, and acceptable ‘punishments’. Although in charge, it isn’t all about the Dom! Doms must maintain a balance and protect their Sub, so both parties have their sexual fantasies fulfilled during playtime.

    The Submissive (Sub) 🥺

    This person enjoys handing over power and control to a Dominant partner. Subs get their pleasure from ‘submitting’ to and fulfilling the desires and commands of their Dom. Although they do not give any instructions or commands during play (except of course using safewords if ever required), Subs do make choices, input ideas into, and agree to, all initial pre-play negotiations. While some Subs may be naturally interested in pleasing others, others may purely only get a thrill from being overpowered by someone during sex.

    The Switch 🔀

    Being a ‘Switch’ means that you enjoy playing either the submissive or dominant role during sex, depending on how you feel! Not everyone likes to be exclusively a Dom or a Sub 100% of the time, so switching it up enables people to experience new sensations and experiment with different levels of trust. Sometimes a person can be a Sub to one playmate, while being Dom to another. A person could also use this term to describe being both a Bottom and a Top.

    The Bottom and the Top

    The ‘Bottom’ is the person on the receiving end of physical sensations administered by their partner (the ‘Top') during play. Exhilarating power exchanges can occur here when a Dom becomes a Bottom by ordering their Sub into administering sensations on them (such as whipping, etc) as a ‘Top’.

    The Mistress / The Master and the Servant

    A Master or Mistress (gender preference dependent) takes a Dominant role of ownership over their Submissive who takes on the role of the ‘Servant’ or ‘Property’ of their Mistress/Master owner. Sometimes, the Master/Mistress and their Sub will take part in collaring rituals, or sign a contract, to formalise their commitment to these roles - although these are purely symbolic and not legally binding. This type of relationship may extend outside of playtime activities, and into other, or all, areas of life.

    So, which role do you love playing most? Have you tried out a few? If you’ve got any stories, experience, or advice for newbie kinksters, we want to hear! Just use the comments area below. 👇




    Comments
    eamonn191

    Looking for my Queen my Mistress, your pleasure my only goal make me your property

    submissiveserv

    Definitely Servant

    georgica3671Mannamead

    I have had this dream for well over 20 years now and although I have never experienced it or even spoken to any of my partners about my desire I have become to learn from sites like this that some fantasies can never become a reality, many people I have spoken to on this site and others are always looking for domination, all I am looking for is a woman who would want something like what I am looking for for themselves but in some kind of normal relationship, I have even written up a story about my fantasy and even I know it sounds like an impossibility but it does not have to run the way I've written it, for me I guess I'll have to just keep looking and hope that one day I will find the woman who is interested in doing what my profile and story says for themselves.

    bins4u2

    Lots of roll plays have been explained.. it can even be more exploring to make it more worth and interesting depending on the rolls they chose and convenience they have while have sex... again kudos to writer..

    wingnut52

    I have Submissive tendencies, and would like to find the right Misstress for me

    Submissivepenis4u

    Erotic submission to bsdm

    nicknichols150rzyft

    Me and my wife or also interested in these things

    nia1960

    switch

    littlewolftoo

    I am a submissive bottom all I can say is make sure this the roll you want and live it to the maximum and commit and enjoy.

    Paddlepegmyass

    Im a submissive looking for that sexy female to be submissive with.

    rahulrks

    so beautiful i love it

    littleboy1960


    i have been a Servant before and i did fill out a signing a master/servant contract and fore filled my contract and was dismiss from my contact by my master he told me it was nothing that i did wrong just that he felt that he needed to be moving on with his BDSM lifestyle but he had me switch roles and he found that i was just as dominant as he was perhaps that made him a little nerves or frighten that made him let me go for the reasons i just do not know  but i do know i live pain and pleasure and i love to give the same back i would say i am a switch  ??

    trjsurpaliya1970

    Sex tips 

    ipalyitallFlaglerBeach

    Switch in palm Coast, very goodnight in either role

    kangaw219

    Great advice. I still need to know more but at least you have pointed me in the right direction 

    skunkmink

    more about bdsm
    fareedkhan0976

    Hey

    Blackspankerman

    I would suggest that those new to the BDSM lifestyle take the phrase "Trust, but verify" very seriously! Which ever role you identify with realize most of us are not 100% dominant or submissive. While I identify as dominant, in some activities with a female partner I become submissive... Ladies not giving up the goods on what that activity is!

    mrsmith3676houston

    I’m definitely a bttm looking for a woman to be in control

    freerider1957

    I want to try it all master and slave 

    plowplanter201RockIsland

    How do you know others want to try this?

    roylopez09

    wanna try that

    glwright4102

    I would like beginners submissive role

    isharasthkx

    Hi I like to it

    ronniewarnerii2019

    Got to sample all the goods.

    Oldham1234

    Hi  would  lovetio 

    thehoneybadgerLeander

    I've been around long enough to have experience both side of the D/s equation based on the partners involved and have enjoyed all of the variations.  I wouldn't get too caught up in the labels and maybe consider just following the old sayin' - "If it feels good ...do it!" 
    ????

    scotto1234

    Kinky party 

    massagewala05

    I was master for 2 years... My servant wished to go back to normal life, so I let her go... Since then I am looking for new servant... We have enjoyed a lot in 

    adman99Bentley

    Gives me tingles all over thinking about how naughty it would be yum

    twk1955

    i want to join

    ronsted996

    I want CBT i can take an 18 inch tube down , like electrics(strong) ok with pain

    beorne

    I want to play the subhuman role the submissive role is to mild for me

    Mr1Runboondk

    Dominant, always hunting the girl who loves being tied up in rope as much as I love doing the tying.

    dkholland61

    I am a str8 man but one night I went by a local gay mans house. I pulled in the back and he came to see who was in his yard. He invited me inside and I told him to tie me up immediately and he did. Next thing I know I am on my knees with 5 men around me and I have a dog collar on and they are pulling me from cock to cock

    claud728

    Sumiso

    shamimansari

    I want you sex .i. am. Boy

    siddharthsanklecha

    i'm submissive

    vaughanrichm046

    Looking for dominate mistress to fulfill my sexually dreams

    davisandr832

    I don't really know about all of this? I know I could never be a submissive I do think I could be a dominate. Most of my relationships have been pretty equal relationships but I would like to meet a submissive who could kind of show me the ropes without her being the dominant if that's possible or a girl who wants to be a submissive but who is new to all of this like me and we could learn together or from an experienced couple? Ive been the one in charge in most of my professional life and I like being the responsible one so I would like to try this I hope I get the chance?

    vidura201

    Really like

    mukundamandal832

    more about bdsm
    EnigmaAddict

    An enjoyable read!

    Jackspar13

    Definitely sub I want not have ant decision responsibility or control as ever aspect of life I've had to always be the one now I want ti relinquish control

    Dd1981roc902ron

    This turns me on… 🔥

    Nastylilslut

    Yes, please!

    stephencar163

    Yes, please!

    pantyhose844

    A sub for a dominant male female couple in which female is the boss

    thisoneisblankonpurpose

    I remember making out in the back seat in high school, i always tried this technique of with each kiss I would back away each time until I was laying on the seat and she was on top of me. Every time I did that the girl would make a sound of enjoyment at

    thisoneisblankonpurpose

    I should have learned to communicate, I had know idea what I was doing, or why, it just felt natural.. now it took me 40 years to figure out what I already knew back then.