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Pals With Perks - Rules For Being Friends With Benefits

    Being in a long term friend with benefits situation with someone can seem like a dream come true, especially if you are not interested in anything more than a satisfying romp!

    But a few good movies, and a few bad stories from friends could have taught you a few things about the infamous FWB relationship. Watch out for the warning signs that your bedmate is craving something more.

    They say you can’t have your cake and eat it too, but if that’s exactly what you want, here are some things you need to keep in mind:

    Don’t Let That L-Bomb Drop

    Never fall in love with an FWB. This is the biggest rule and the easiest one to remember. But then again...it can also be the hardest one to follow.

    Have Emotional Maturity

    Understand what kind of relationship you’re getting into right from the start. There isn’t supposed to be a happy ending. Make sure you both stay satisfied with a horny ending whenever you hook up and leave the mushy stuff to the committed.

    Set Ground Rules

    How often should you call each other and how often should you meet? These rules aren’t set in stone, but both of you must make a conscious effort to follow them for the benefit of the other.

    Buddy Respect

    If you’re not feeling it one day then don’t just ignore their texts or calls. Just politely reply saying ‘no thanks’ in order to keep the relationship healthy. They might just be your friendly sexual playmate but you should still treat them how you would want to be treated yourself.

    Timing is Everything

    It’s not realistic to expect your bed buddy to drop everything when you are in the mood and vice versa. You both need to respect you have your own lives and not get frustrated or angry if you can’t accommodate each other's every need.

    Try Not to Get Clingy

    Your friend with benefits isn’t your lover. If they are constantly calling you or trying to make conversation when they have nothing better to do, it could be a sign that they are looking for more.

    Shush! Keep it a Secret

    Don’t talk to your friends about your shag buddy. Gossip has a funny way of spreading within minutes after you reveal something personal. You will end up angering your FWB or getting a bad reputation. Besides, having a saucy little secret between the two of you may make it even more exciting.

    Never Go on a Date

    You may be intimate with each other, but try to avoid doing too many things together before you hit the bedroom. You’ll give out the wrong signals and possibly ruin your non-relationship.

    Keep it Simple

    Why find out about their personal goings on or have conversations about life and its problems. You’re into each other for sex and you really should avoid involving too much else. Call for one reason and one reason alone.

    Be Honest

    If you’re falling in love with your bedmate or feel things are slipping out of control, you owe it to them to at least let them know the truth so both of you can decide the course of the relationship.

    Friends with benefits relationships have the potential to go very wrong and often aren’t all that successful. When people are involved, you are dealing with real emotions and expectations. Some might say that a true and long term ‘no-strings sex relationship' is impossible. Just remember that when you are looking for a bed buddy, what you are really looking for, at its very core, is a mutually beneficial arrangement at the simplest level and without all the complicated frills. Be conscious of sending out the wrong vibes, keep within the boundaries and the whole situation can be quite incredible. Enjoy!

    Ever been in an official friend with benefits arrangement? How did it go? Tell us in the comments.




    Comments
    submissiveserv

    I do want to be submissive to a very dominant and demanding woman.

    FelixAntonio

    good what do you think I'm good for you to do a crazy sex adventure I like a lot to have sex what you say

    Creampies2018Archbald

    Best sex ever..... she went home to her husband with a  sexy  smile 

    marqueeSantaRosa

    It went great 20 + year 

    gathmd

    very good.

    Baris2019

    Tanx , give us some practical advice aswell ????

    aj31ap

    I had a FWB for about 2 years. Still like her in memory. We would usually talk about work before lunch or dinner and about ourselves after sex. Except too often I was too tired and tended to sleep afterwords. I let her down. Still miss her. In sex we were always good to each other. As time goes by FWB's can make good memories. 

    BobbyE8a

    spot on!

    Bigbrown010

    Loved every benefits

    alan9919

    Hello 

    Clitlicker81

    I have had that only the catch was she was married and I was engaged.we knew each other for years,since jr high.we were very close to each other knew secrets that we never told to anyone.one morng she showed up at my house.i was on night shift so I just came home.She asked to use the shower and I said of course you can.I turned around and to my surprise she took of her top.she asked if I wanted to get in with her.and guys you know a stiff dick has no concus.so we showed and sucked and fucked for awhile.this continued for 2 yrs.when she was horny we hooked up.sad to say she passed away at 35 yrs old .but will always have those memories.

    lickemanstickem60

    I was in one for 17 yrs and we did what ever she wanted for the first yr and then the 2nd yr I asked her how much sex had she been around and I was her 2nd lover now we are both in our 60s she wanted to experiment so I lined her up with a another friend of mine and she got her to eat pussy lol then we got into 3 sums with guys and gals but we had a blast. but when she got sick with cancer she thanked many times over for the times we had together she pasted a week later. I haven't found anyone like her sence clint

    Fatmir44

    I searching a partner woman for girl friend, if you can connecting, I am ready. You can help for a connecting a partner??

    dannyknight1950

    ??

    Shane2316

    People tend to forget thumb rule never start loving your friend with benefits.

    JamesDeceptionBay

    Yes I have and the rules explained work very well as long as you follow them.  I did follow them and I can tell you it was heaven and very very sexual

    Leonardmacy394xaxsm

    ??????

    Lromeo

    I agree be honest , why lie of the start just causing a breakup and take time to know eachother inside out and the bond will last till end of time

    adlgarza849

    Muy bien. Me gustaria una mujer de compañera. Tengo educacion y me encantaria conocerte.

    gaterspa

    I'm in I'm in one now and it's great. As a matter  she's the one that started it. 

    DINESHKANDARI2009

    I m interested 

    appearlucky

    Yed

    balagag

    Thanks for your valuable information and advice

    rahulmature

    Had like that and enjoyed 

    Jimmerss

    Yes

    subreadyforyou

    So far, so good. This works out great for someone like me on the road most of the time. When I hit home I am ready and time is of the essence. I have always been single and able to date who and when I choose. I enjoy taking our time and making slow love, but then I have to be gone. So if loving life an every minute of it is for you, then we share a common interest.
    alisaeedi493

    T

    kumarr4840

    Hi 

    bhartiDelhiIndia

    Yes, nice rules everyone should follow, specially in India. One more thing never to do it in India is never share any type of contact details with FWB friend as there are high chance of it getting traded everywhere, so always be cautious. 

    mangoiceplus123

    Thanks for your Guidence

    mazerolle1135Fredericton

    ??

    Shuvo80

    Thanks for the article and guidence 

    varinderpalsinghmalhi

    Hi admin thanks for information admin i really want friends wid benefits can u help me for that i can get friend wid ben

    epatino93

    me exita dar masajes de pies y que me escojan pareja

    darrenowen445

    Hi imdarren in Bristol  looking for dates and fun 

    Vicky3212

    Interested

    gazzab126

    Yes please 

    gazh123

    Yes let's meet up for no strings attached fu

    topperxxx

    Very informative, like the initiative required by FWB n try to experiment, which I didn't know for all these years. Thanks for such a valuable direction. 

    lawandayounger1972

    ??

    sufirafique789

    We like it.

    menifee2016oso

    good advice

    cortonflyer

    Many years ago I had a one night stand with a married couple who I had befriended via a swingers website and they had agreed to visit my home for an evening of debauchery. They had made it quite clear that this was only to be a 'one off' arrangement because they were 'into' screwing with a complete stranger; a huge turn on for them. That night, we had a fantastic threesome where, initially, her husband only wanted to watch her at play with me, yet, in no time at all both of us guys were 'tag teaming' his very attractive wife. The following week I then received an email from them to say that they would like to see me again. I obviously agreed and we enjoyed a similar evening of debauched pleasures without boundaries. Surprisingly, I continued to see them for several years whereby we enjoyed a fantastic relationship. However, I then didn't hear from them at all for well over a year until her husband then contacted me to let me know that she had passed away with cancer. To this day, he and I have remained good friends. The same rules therefore apply, we never discussed individual relationships. We got together for pure sex as and when the three of us needed to escape the normal rituals of 'making love' within marriage. We all agreed that it was a very healthy arrangement to be able to turn fantasies into reality. Us two fellas now occasionally get together for a beer or two and are able to laugh about some of the crazy things that we got up to. It's clear that he loved his wife with a passion but with no regrets about involving me within their dark secrets. Whilst she was in hospital, he did reveal to me that his wife had asked him to say goodbye to me on her behalf. God, tears flowed down my cheeks!

    Himesa999

    Hii I'm from Mumbai and you can get the details whear are you meet me 

    chikuroy0004

    i am ready for sex to night 

    dik4free

    ok i am confused ... Sounds like taking the friend out of the friend with benefits and just having a sex buddy???

    pavforfun

    Best sex ever and  she went home to her husband with a  sexy  smile 

    roh895

    Hope girls in india read this.