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8 Spanktastic Tips To Accepting Your Kinks And Finding A Playmate

Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world, but it can seem impossible in the realm of kink. You want to find someone who shares your unique sexual tastes, that you enjoy spending time with, and also doesn’t mind you calling them a dirty little slut from time to time...if that’s what you're into.

But finding that perfect blend of kinky and acceptable mate material can be a difficult job, so to celebrate the fact it’s National Tattoo Day this week, we have some spanktastic pointers to finding that special someone who accepts you for you and your colourful array of kinks!

What Role Do You See Yourself In?

Before you go diving into the deep end of intense fetish play, make sure you know what you are getting yourself into. There are such a dizzying array of sub-fetishes that you could find you don’t know which path to choose. Are you a meticulous master or a timid submissive?

Know Your Own Kinks.

What are your fetishes? Do you crave to be in control or to be controlled? Do you have soft and hard limits? Are you willing to be whipped, or is a firm but gentle spank from a hand enough to drive you wild? These are all questions you will encounter after a few dates so start experimenting on your own until you have a partner to play with.

Get Involved In Your Local Fetish Community.

In this digital day and age you can find like-minded, kinky people with a simple search on the internet. To boost your chances of finding a playmate, be sure to fill out your profile with as much information as you’re comfortable divulging and don’t be a stranger in chat rooms, groups or forums. You can also find local events by doing a simple search of fetish clubs in your area.

Talk And Explore With The New People You Meet!

When you’re meeting kinky people, it’s important to keep an open mind. In the Fetish community, you will meet a large variety of different people who are into things you may have never even heard of! Developing these relationships will lead you to meet more and more people, and that creates a greater chance of meeting a partner.

Don’t Be Discouraged By The Advances Of People Just Trying To Get Their Own Sexual Fix.

Take a firm, respectful stance against unwanted messages, pictures or friend requests. There are plenty of genuine individuals who are open to mentoring and guiding you through exploring your raunchy kinks without any kind of sexual favours needed in return. Surround yourself with these people. Keep a positive attitude, and you’re sure to find someone who is attracted to it.

Be Sincere About Your Kinky Role Expectations.

If you feel more submissive than dominant, but are interested in both roles, or if you’re only interested in a bedroom relationship, then tell potential partners that during negotiations. Don’t try fooling anyone into thinking you are a servant when you know full well you only want to try some fun, dominant stuff now and then.

Choose Your Meet-up Location Wisely.

If this is your first time meeting a potential playmate, we suggest meeting in a public place like a coffee shop or similar venue for a relaxed vibe. When it comes to meeting up to play with someone new, a kink club is ideal the first few times. These venues have staff who will jump in if you signal for help. If you aren’t fortunate enough to live in an area with access to a fetish club, look for home parties in your area. Home parties don’t typically provide the same level of safety that you’ll find in an organised club, but they are a far safer option than meeting someone at your home or hotel.

Don’t Over-think And Have Fun.

Experience new sensations, and have fun getting to know who you are as part of the fetish community. Of course, this is not a foolproof way to catch a partner or a way to hook up for a one night stand, but it can help you to find someone to compliment your kinks while having a fantastically naughty time.

Do you have a kink you crave to explore? Have you met your ultimate kinky partner and want to share advice for anyone looking to do the same? Let us know in the comments below.




Comments

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