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Beginning To See The Light...

4:42 pm Sunday, 8th June, 2014

"The Older you get,the more you realise that no one has a fucking clue what they're doing.
Everyone's just winging it!"

I saw this the other day and it made me laugh out loud (yes a real lol!) But after thinking about it I realised its probably one of the truest things I have ever read! I have no idea who wrote it, so not sure if its a wise (not so) old proverb or just an off the cuff comedy remark but god it rings true!

Haven't we all arrived here by bouncing off one event, into a crisis, ricocheting off a moment, slamming into a situation and eventually rolling slowly away from an incident to come to a rest in your present moment in space and time? Like being in an emotional pinball machine....

Did you envisage you would be where you are now years ago? Are you happy you've arrived there by mistake? Maybe there's a single random moment that you can put your finger on that steered you towards the hub and everything it brings? Or perhaps you haven't got the foggiest why you're here???

I'm guessing that this rings true for the vast majority of people but is there anyone out there who has planned everything, always knew what they wanted and have achieved their goals? If there is .... HOW THE BLOODY HELL DID YOU DO IT???

It would be interesting to see if I'm right in my assumptions or is it only me who's life has been dictated by random, unplanned moments and still has no idea what direction its going to spark off to next?

So..... are you winging it as well?



Comments
2:39 pm Monday, 9th June, 2014

Jeezo Joe how did this one get missed....

I suppose i'm somewhat a fly by the seat of my pant's Kinda woman now...
Life has taught me that the whole planningmy life and sticking to that plan wasn't always possible as the saying goes "The best-laid schemes o' mice an' men gain aft go agley" (being an Ayrshire lassie there will be no surprise that is from a Robert Burns poem ;-))

Yes i did have a plan in the past but alas as "Burns" so rightly wrote...that plan went awry!!

I joined this site be chance one day, i had in fact been looking for porn (yes some of us women like watching porn,not just a guy thing) I have been on here for a couple of years now.....Did i plan it - NO. Do i plan to stay here - NO....well i say no but what i truely mean is i haven't made any plans.

I will leave myself in the hands of "Fate". No doubt i will go through twists & turns, highs & lows and even Ups & downs ( some of which will be rather fun others sadly not so ;-))

As i said i'm a fly be te seat of my pants girl, so what wiil be will be....Damn i just hope my parachute works;-)

Very thought provoking blog Joe.x

3:37 pm Monday, 9th June, 2014

Joe, if the person exists who truely planed everything then they should write a book, they'd make a fortune.
No, have to say I arrived here confused, am still confused and even more confused as to where I'm going with it, but enjoying the trip nonetheless. Its always about the journey really and the people you meet on the way, destinations are only places were you can catch your breath.

5:46 pm Monday, 9th June, 2014

I know Sassy, I know, but it is such a lot of fun, would you like more cream boss lolimg src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

8:43 pm Monday, 9th June, 2014

It looks fate sometimes directs you to the places you should be ..... Maybe that's the way it should be.

I think some of us are still winging it and the dice are still rolling ............

6:26 am Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Came across something in Spam Mail some years ago,clicked on it and found myself in Never Never Land.I don't usually open spam mail,so I suppose fate may have had something to do with it.
It is fair to say that I had been " boozing at the Nappie and getting fou' and unco' happy " ( Bit of Burns there for Sunshine Girl )so signed up.
Now I just go with the flow and steadfastly refuse to initiate any plans for the future, just enjoy the diversity of the people I encounter.

8:24 am Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

I planned to do something after a damascene revelation - and whilst the determination to step outside the wire was certain, the destination was not and after a few trial runs elsewhere on the world wide web I ended up here. After a hot meal on the objective my am with Fetch - whilst I love to plan and plot adventures I am content to trust my existence to fate and enjoy the free spirited nature of - dare I say - swinging.

After a lifetime of conformity I have found that it suits me perfectly.

10:04 am Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Why thank you Fetch, you made me feel at home so i might stay here a while longer.... then again i may not will leave that to fate ;-) (Fetch have you watched Karen Dunbar reciting Tam o' Shanter?x)

1:51 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Sunshine girl .No,I haven't sorry to day,but a life long friend David ( middle name Fraser ) whom I used to play rugby with,is brilliant at Burns recitations. i have had the honour of reading one of The great McGonagall's poems at a Burns Supper,even though I'm only half Scottish xxxxxx

2:26 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Star Girl. His work is so bad that it's absolutely brilliant ! Much the same as Andy Stewart's songs were so cheesily Caledonian that the Scots hated them but the English loved them at Hogmanay .. xxxxxx

3:05 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

"Donald Where's Your Troosers"......

In fact I got here through design rather than accident. I'd decided it was time for a change, and had used another site for several years before discovering this one (which I joined mainly to keep up with UK culture - with varying success :-) I suppose I sort of reinvented myself in mid life, but in response to feelings I'd harbored for years. There was certainly nothing random about it, and the people I met had to fall within my criteria. So yes it has been a planned and controlled process.

6:01 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

I plan everything with military precision.
I'm boring like that.

6:10 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Military precision...that sits in my little phrasebook alongside military intelligence.

Anyway mwah sexpot xxx

7:45 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Luv2Suc.I have no doubt that you are one of the most organized ladies around, but " military Precision" ? If you knew of all the near-disasters and " hit and hope " attitudes that prevail, I'm sure you would find a better comparison.xx

7:48 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Well, ooo, erm ... clearly not that boring.

Some planning takes time to get it just right ;-)

7:50 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Fetch, if you had any idea of the well planned, organised chaos that is my life, you would understand exactly why 'military precision' says it all. x

10:08 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

Yeah think that sums it up nicely Ealish. Maybe we need to believe we are in control when in fact everything around us in chaos....

Wb Luv2. Agree with Fetch that I always have the impression of you being in total control as you sit on your throne and your minions answer to your commands ;-) Don't tell us we've all got it wrong and you're just the same as the rest of us???

Good to see a few members who had planned stuff and looks like you achieved it. There's hope for the rest of us yet!

10:23 pm Tuesday, 10th June, 2014

That John Lennon Quote couldn't be more true in my case Ealish...
I spend all day making plans for meetings and scheduling appointments and making travel plans at my work as well as dealing with a mountain of paperwork. Meanwhile life goes on else where. Hmm probably one of the reasons i have decided not to try stick to a plan for my "real life"

The biggest reason of all for me not making plans just happens to be that when things don't go according to plan it can leave a somewhat bad taste in your mouth and feeling rather dispirited. Though i have become adept at picking myself up,dusting myself down and starting all over again :-)

8:02 am Wednesday, 11th June, 2014

Without wishing to extend the military analogy a moment longer than necessary my experience of military planning and precision is that the earnestness, conviction and determination on the faces of the steely eyed planners is matched only by the look of incredulity when the whole thing goes Pete Tong.

I do like having a bit of order though - especially where others are involved.

6:53 pm Wednesday, 11th June, 2014

Is manipulation like organised chaos Lilith? Can't hurt tilting the odds in your favour ;)

FF I'm exactly like you. Never have known what path to take and still take a random path 1 step at a time. No idea where it will lead?

10:45 am Sunday, 15th June, 2014

" ... always have the impression of you being in total control as you sit on your throne and your minions answer to your commands."

Joe, I was left with little option than to sit back whilst my inner bitch had many of them flogged and beheaded for their incessant failure to meet my expectations.
She's good at doing stuff like that.

7:30 pm Sunday, 15th June, 2014

I'm thinking Luv2 that your inner bitch would be one hell of a date lolimg src="imagesadultemoticons022.gif" That is, if one survived the meeting lol.

9:42 pm Sunday, 15th June, 2014

A hard but fair mistress Luv2. If they can't stand the heat they should get out of the kitchen.
Did you have to employ new minions to fan you with Ostritch feathers and feed you Grapes?....

Lilith you're a pussy cat compared to Luv2..... ;)

1:12 am Monday, 16th June, 2014

Well Joe can honestly say your blog is great, i think if u over think these things u never do them and if i hadn,t found hub i wud never have met such diverse people, i stopped planning years ago and now just go with the flow, live everyday like it,s your last much love x

6:33 pm Monday, 16th June, 2014

Thanks MrsJ... Now why am I not surprised that you don't plan anything & that it's all spontaneous?.... Hmmm Can't imagine lol

Thanks Newbies looks like we are all in the same boat. Long may randomness and chaos reign!

Very true StarG. You have to make your own luck sometimes :-)

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