How Do You Make Sure You Get Yours?

Good first blog SunShine .... Not sure this one has been touched on before (pun intended)....

Don't think anyone could ever take offence or be upset if shown what turns on their partner or brings them to orgasm... Everyone is different and people like different things. Don't think you'll need to be told more than once when the results become immediately apparent ;)

Joe: thank you angel too kind as always ;)

BBW: sorry huni i hadn't noticed "fake it,go with the flow
or do it yourself"

GDU: now that does sound like fun what flavour jelly? lol

Avocado and pickled onion I got a job lot going cheap!

Didn't see yours bbw but glad you agree with me. Does everyone else?

Would agree with Joe Sunshine, every day should be viewed as an opportunity to learn something new :)

i would like a lady to say what she likes as i receive great pleasure from seeing and feeling a lady having orgasms,especially when she masturbates,this to me is a great turn on,as you know ladies ,it seems you all have your own preferences!!!

Roger: i agree we are never too old to learn new things and i am
alwasy a very willing pupil lol

Friday: very good point, most men i know enjoy watching a female
pleasure herself to the point of orgasm.

I am with Joe . Always willing to learn.

IanCaisteal:thought i should make an effort as i have enjoyed
reading and commenting on others blogs.

Very true that not all women orgasm through penetration alone,
only reaching climax with other stimulation.

Some guys assume that they made this one girl orgasm by doing this one thing and now they do it to every woman they get with. If it doesn’t work on you, then something about you must be broken.

The second orgasm has a biblical connotation.

Good grief, I wish *more* women would be proactive in encouraging their lovers to find the best spots for them. Why waste hours doing trial and error? The fact is that women have such a massive variation in their responses in comparison to males, and yet I think many feel they want men to read their minds :-) Naturally, every man likes to see a woman in ecstacy, and it leaves *both* partners feeling good, so why be coy about what gets you off?

Ronald: AWH bless you

BBWlovingUK: why thanks for your input and being brave to admit being selfish when younger, but as i have said we learn as we get older that speed is not alwasy of the essence.

Skebbie: Here,Here well said, my sentiments exactly. Although i
tend not to be that coy about showing or telling what i like to
get me off anyway ;)

Why does Medic think he can "answer the original question"? Such arrogance!

CurvyB: open and honest as always. I shall admit that i fall
into the lucky bracket. If enjoying time with someone who has taken the time to find out what makes me tick then i can be left totally exhausted by experiencing multiple delicious orgasms.

Lindross: Glad to hear you are a considerate lover. It is Deffo a two way street a case of listening and watching each other to bring a happy ending to both.

BobbyB: Simultaneous orgasm can be the sweetest, mind blowing experience.

Do women always bring each other to orgasm?

Mac: all cummers welcome late or not lol (pun intended) ;)

Always better to take a little bit longer to get there Mac but ultimately leave very satisfied.....

Aren't we all kind, considerate and willing to learn :)

I always put my wife first and learned what worked. If she had less than 3 it was because it was her idea. Her record was 17.

I guess I'm a lucky girl and never had a problem in this area, but if I needed to, I wouldn't have a problem in telling (or showing) a guy what does it for me.

The key is finding a guy who ... well, just knows. They are out there ;-)

" ... when done gently and as an add on to oral sex it can be enjoyable."

Amen x

CurvyB:"most men rummage around as if they've lost their car keys" tears streaming down my cheeks here lol.x

KnG2013: A big thanks for your very open and honest answers.x

My god it's what drives me the most ! To see u cum ! How is it not a turn on for everybody ? Rather it as my partner than me. Offended ? Just a small thanks for the advice from me

It is the excitement of exploring and finding what a new partner likes to feel.. and how... that gives an encounter the thrill and joi de vivre.

xx

Paulo: Here,here i agree very well said.x

A question for you then

... is it more exciting.. erotic.. pleasurable.. having a partner bring you to orgasm, or when you play on your own?

So women have orgasms too eh??

You live and learn........

Paulo: While self gratification serves a purpose, for most women
myself included a skilful patner who knows "what does it for me" is
deffo more pleasurable.
Also i happen not to be too shy about telling or showing them what
i like or need to help me reach the point of sheer extasy.

??? Some guys seem to be saying that they bring a woman to orgasm so that they themselves will be turned on!! Something wrong there, methinks.

Randy, I'm interested in why you think there is something wrong with that. Do men not enjoy watching a woman reaching orgasm?

Curvybird and Luv2suc. Never mind rummaging for the car keys ! Have you seen my Range Rover anywhere ?
Some people on here are taking a very academic view on the question of orgasm.Is it really as complicated as they make out ? .It's supposed to be fun. Relaxed laughter I find usually leads to a satisfactory conclusion, not serious,in-depth analysis.
Mind you, I won't in future respond with " a Cheese and Pickle sandwich,please " when a lady asks me if there is anything else she can do to please me ! A slapped face cured me of that !

Curvybird and Luv2suc. Never mind rummaging for the car keys ! Have you seen my Range Rover anywhere ?
Some people on here are taking a very academic view on the question of orgasm.Is it really as complicated as they make out ? .It's supposed to be fun. Relaxed laughter I find usually leads to a satisfactory conclusion, not serious,in-depth analysis.
Mind you, I won't in future respond with " a Cheese and Pickle sandwich,please " when a lady asks me if there is anything else she can do to please me ! A slapped face cured me of that !

There is a lot of difference between enjoying something, and using it as an avenue to self-gratification. Between wanting your woman to orgasm for her own sexual fulfillment, and treating it as some kind of achievement. Between being passionate about the woman you are with, and seeing her orgasm as some kind of goal regardless of affection. Between going through the mechanics, and actually participating.

So let's get this straight

Is an orgasm when a woman rolls her eyes and sighs?

And does she normally say "is that it?"

Just checking....

You think wrong.

Only one way to find out Gilli. Back soon.......

Gillibean. I was talking Branston Pickle. is that I went wrong ? Perhaps I should have asked for Gentlemen's Relish but I didn't want to give the wrong impression !!

Strangely erotic it was. Not sure about the lumps though. Smooth peanut butter might be a better idea. Lol

Its all a matter of taste.

Thanks everyone for your input.

Sorry i have been tied up with work so have been unable to pay
as much attention as i would have liked to your comments.xx

Ealish, "Would the girls be offended if a guy points out the relevant places where he would like to be stimulated?"

Not at all, but I'd like to make it clear that this has NEVER been necessary. That's my story and I'm sticking to it.
;-)

Not sure about the male prostrate though. I'd have to think ... long and hard ... about that one.

perfect g spot manipulation, :-) gushing squirting every time, but many men stop too early and dont keep going to make sure she comes in explosions, big no no to the guys, do not stop until she tells you to! lol :-)

MasculineGuy: very well said!!!

Where you been all my life lol ;-)

Nutella is the same company as Ferrero Rocher. You shouldn't have Mr Ambassador!!

HomelyBoy: May just have to try being your homegirl sometime lol ;-)

Ian: I take it you mean perineumtaint stimulation or
teased by a pleasing tongue?;-)

Homelyboy: Mmm "Cream Egg" but how would you eat yours? ;-)

Oh Er Mac lol

GDU: have some chocolate, having
something sweet is good for
people suffering from shock lol xx

Famine: that did make me giggle lol

Famine: Hmm i do think maybe some time on the naughty step is in
order lol ;-)

There's always room on the naughty step for two. Naughty is MUCH better with company.

Paul: I take it i have to spend some time on the naught step, i
don't mind as i will be in good company lol ;-)

Homelyboy: hope you get well soon huni.x

GDU: hope that went some wat to easing the shock Mac caused lol.

Tom: Hmm stale "Santa" Yuk
This naughty step getting rather busy. Although i do nibble
sometimes, i much prefer to lick and suck it as it has a more
satisfying feeling Mmmm yummy.... Chocolate lol ;-)

BBWloving: Thank you!
Your too kind but compliments are always welcome.xx

ealish: your claim has beed granted....x
Either that you could open a shop with all the items lol.

I was sent to the naughty step for the first time last night, i do hope you and Luv2 will be gentle with me as i am a first timer.;-) xx

Mac: Ooo er Mac you naughty man.
Hmm or is that just my mind having naughty thoughts,AGAIN ;-)

Dungeoneer: "at least once befor i do"
Hmm i must be a greedy girl as my needs require more than once ;-)

hi sun shinegirl the thing is every girl is different and i think the truth is a lot of women dont really achieve orgasm there are many ways to do this,depending on the situation ,ive found that softly licking and taking time is the best way to bring a women of,with the tongue messaging everylittle area,plus there are other ways as well

I feel in order to get the best satisfaction. i will ask my partner during foreplay, what turns her on . and where is the spot that gets her the most intense orgasms,and her likes and dislikes. and i am able to satisify her every time!!!

Homely: i did wonder where you were going with that for a split
moment lol ;-)

Forgive me if someone has mentioned this but wasn't there an episode of friends (I know I've embarrassed myself now) where the girls drew a diagram and numbered the erogenous zones and then like a bizarre game of bingo called out the numbers in order of where they like to be touched to reach climax. Maybe it's something Mattel could look into sounds like there could be a market for it, instead of bingo it could be called "FUCK YEAH".

But seriously if I don't make my partner cum I feel like I haven't done my job properly.....hang on let me try that again. A guy I know (not me never happened to me) says that if he doesn't make his partner cum he feels like he hasn't done his job properly.

Personally a lot of the time the action of my partner cuming is what sets me off. I think it could be skebbie who inferred that to many women want guys to be mind readers, I think that's true and as most of the guys seem to be saying if they did take the time to give a little guidance we'd all be happier. Having said that there's nothing that kills an erection faster than having a woman sternly in a disappointed tone bark out instructions. If she whispers them sexily in your ear it's a totally different scenario.

Mac: we are clearly on the same wave lenght as that was exactly
my thought lol

Tom: I am perfectly good at being bad ;-)

Thank you compliments are always welcome lol

With a new partner I try the places and techniques that have worked with others and see how she reacts, returning to the ones that get the best response. If she asks for something that's a bonus and a turn on. Seeing her or feeling her cum is often enough to send me over the edge too. With my ex we worked out that she needed oral till a certain point then in I would go and hold back till her scream told its own story then I could release.

good company is nice x

Interesting blog and very interesting replies. One main problem I have though is that the main theme raised by the author has greatly dictated a bias towards the female gender. Pressure, pressure? Let's just say great expectations, we men always in the spotlight when it comes to love, relationship and sex issues. The reality is that things like these should be judged 5050. One person rightly pointed out:"what's good for the goose is good for..." This argument concerning female orgasms, stimulation, man hitting right spot, man not hitting right spot, female pretending to have had orgasms, etc, etc. On the contrary, plenty of these for instance: sex and relationship issues--men have problems with also. For e.g. man in bed with a woman and she does not know how to give a proper blow job, man having difficulty maintaining a hard erection because the woman is not stimulating him enough as she should be, etc. etc.
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The focus here.. on SunShineGirl... and her confirmation of male attention to female pleasures...are definitely more entertaining.

Ray: nothing simple about you huni and i totally agree. They should know better than to stop before we tell them to.

I'm very late to this one but on the initial premise of should we be offended if given advice to improve.

Who wouldn't want to improve how they pleasure someone.

For me it's a no brainer

XX

I do not think anyone should be offended if instructed on how better to satisfy. I have done some research in this department over the years and have come to the conclusion. All woman came orgasm, whether they have experienced it or not.
There are many different ways to make a woman orgasm, and therefor many types of orgasm. (around 10 i believe).
I also do believe all woman can squirt, Its just a matter of taking the time to do it and find the right spot, Which is fairly easy.
It can take a while to achieve this and some woman find the build up uncomfortable as it can feel like they need to urinate before where as this is just the build up of the female ejaculate, It is generally different for all woman and have had some doubters in the past but have tried and tested with some doubters and proved victorious, even if one of them did have to be tied down.
As im sure many people with disagree with me on here also.

Sorry just realised i got too caught up with my self there i didnt answer the question.
Firstly like i said there are many ways to make a woman orgasm so a bit of guidance is well appreciated. After all theres is no point spending time on something that she doesnt like. So no offence here.

Secondly and i know this is the wrong way around to to the questions ask but it has a point.
I would take it Mabey not personal but a little disheartening if i didnt make a woman orgasm after all all the time i have spent loking into the best way to please and with her guidance, Which i would ask for if she didnt give.
So no not personal.

Shy can be shy in different ways.

I find chattingsmall talk difficult but writing seems to flow much more readily.

As with everything - shyness is overcome with familiarity.

Not all of us are looking for the breast - but if it is offered - well!!!!

XX

Shy can be shy in different ways.

I find chattingsmall talk difficult but writing seems to flow much more readily.

As with everything - shyness is overcome with familiarity.

Not all of us are looking for the breast - but if it is offered - well!!!!

XX

Shy can be shy in different ways.

I find chattingsmall talk difficult but writing seems to flow much more readily.

As with everything - shyness is overcome with familiarity.

Not all of us are looking for the breast - but if it is offered - well!!!!

XX

The site thought it was so good they let me post it 3 times.

xx

@ BBWlovingUK wrote on 2:33 am Wednesday, 12th March, 2014. Yes of course some woman have medical issues that prevent them from orgasm, the same as it is for men who are imputant or have erectile disfunction. This does not disprove my posts in any way but mabey i should of been more clear in stating the fact that if a woman hasnt experienced an orgasm before they have got some thing wrong with them inside. LOL. But okay lets say the majority of woman can orgasm. Those with out a medical reason. But some woman who have yet to have an orgasm they just need to experiment with the different types and try and find one that works for them.

How was today? x

GDU bit slow on the response - but yes if offered very rude to refuse.

HAve to admit am a bit cheesed off that my first blog on this topic seems to have gone blank!!!