The Art of Reconciliation Sex
11:30 am Monday, 9th September, 2019
Minor arguments are normal in a relationship, whose turn it is to pick up the takeaway, who is doing the dishes afterwards. Some arguments can stir up emotions that make it hard to move past and only intensifies the more you argue - creating a surge of adrenalin that makes you all the more determined to win.
Sex may be the last thing on your mind as you argue, but sometimes, when you're both standing very close and in each other's personal space, the surge of rage and heavy gasps can suddenly turn into a sexual fever.
Many couples have never experienced angry sex, and honestly...they don't know they are missing out on. But if you have ever ended an argument abruptly and both end up in bed, chances are you will agree that you've had an incredible sex session, filled with a passionate rage.
So what makes makeup sex the best kind of sex?
Well...let me tell you
Let Your Anger Arouse You
For many couples, an argument is verbal foreplay; they're sexually aroused by debate. This isn't surprising. The adrenaline rush accompanying mild anger creates a response in the brain that is similar to sexual arousal. To use that rush to your advantage, avoid uttering the harsh words and accusations that turn a little fight into a big standoff. Don't be cruel to each other. Instead, feel the erotic possibilities in the energy pulsing through your angry body.
Take a Laugh Break
During an argument, find that perfect moment to make a joke at your own expense, never at them. Laughter is healing. It can also be erotic, like champagne bubbles bursting in the brain. So laugh with each other - but not at each other.
Close Without Clothes
Some people need to make a closing "anger statement" before they can move on to lovemaking. Keep it brief. Encourage them with your eyes as you express your feelings. End by saying in a suggestive tone of voice, "But we can talk about it another time" - a sentence most of us always love to hear.
Establish a Makeup Ritual
The makeup ritual, a bridge between anger and loving, is a way of calling a truce. It can be as simple as taking a shower together or exchanging a kiss. Both of you recognize that it also means no more arguing.
Take a Time-Out
Most people need a time-out after a fight. Take 15 or 30 minutes, even an hour alone to take a walk, exercise, bathe or have a lie-down, any activity that restores your equilibrium. Don't promise sex when the break is over, but let them know you're receptive to affection by being the one to give the first hug.
Give a Virtuoso Lovemaking Performance
Sex, especially makeup sex, isn't always an emotionally intense experience. Use the distance you feel between you to practice virtuoso lovemaking, the kind of performance that improves with a certain degree of distance. Pull out all the stops and remind them of what they could miss if they ever make you really mad.
Make Them Worship You
If makeup sex still seems like something you're doing for them, turn lovemaking into your special-request session. Ask them for extended foreplay, an erotic massage - whatever you want, you can probably get it now.
As passionate makeup sex can be, avoid creating conflicts just to have that wild sex. While an in-the-moment fuck during a fight can be a fun way to end the argument, it is not the solution to the underlying issue. If you are unable to talk through the problem, it could end up creating further issues, or worse, tearing the relationship apart.