Soft Swapping: Your Intro to the Swinging Lifestyle
3:51 pm Tuesday, 16th April, 2024
Testing the waters with your partner? 💧 Nervous about swinging, but wanna see what it’s all about? 🙋
Read on to learn more about soft swapping – your ticket to the saucy swinger lifestyle. 🙌👇
What is a soft swap? 🔀
When it comes to swinging, a swap involves couples playing with other couples. Everyone has their own limits (which we’ll get into later), but a soft swap tends to mean penetration is off the table. 🙅
Soft swapping is a lot less pressure for couples that are new to the lifestyle. With your partner there with you, you know there’s someone you can trust – and you know there’s someone you can get off with. 😜 Anything you do with someone else is a bonus. 🌟😉
Unsure about how you’ll react to seeing your partner (or yourself!) with someone else? 😬 You can always start gently – a sensual massage, a slow dance, a naked dip in the pool or the hot tub… 🛁 You know what they say about bubbles in a jacuzzi: they hide a multitude of sins, and suggest a multitude of others… 🫧😏
So… What can you do in a soft swap? 🫦
Kissing, making out, using your hands to explore each other’s bodies, fingering, hand jobs, oral sex, rimming… All of these could be on the cards for your soft swap. 👅😝 Penetration tends to be off-limits, but some couples will allow anal sex (but not vaginal) in a soft swap. 🍑 It’s all about what you’re comfortable with. 🤗
💡 Soft Swap Tip: Calling it a ‘no sex’ swap isn’t super helpful – we all have different definitions of what we mean when we say sex, for a lot of us that includes oral and hand stuff anyway. 🤷
Remember the power of allllll the senses – especially the visual. 😍🤤 Fucking your partner with another couple watching can be such a turn-on. Or sit back and watch the show!🔥 Take it in turns to watch each other, or lay down on adjacent beds so you can watch and fuck – at the same time! 🤯
Soft swaps are a good time to experiment with something you haven’t tried yet. 😲 Touch things you haven’t touched before, taste things you haven’t tasted before – safe in the knowledge that your trusted partner is there alongside you. 🤝
Let’s talk through an example of what a soft swap might look like… 👉
Let’s say you start with a drink or two at a bar, where you can meet the other couple in person and get to know each other better. After some fun chat, loosened inhibitions, and heavy flirting, you go back to their place. 🏡
Back at the house, one couple starts making out and fooling around, and then the other joins in too, desperate hands exploring sweaty bodies. 🥵
Eventually, both couples split off, and you’re each going down on your own partners, relishing in the thrill of watching the other couple at the same time. Slowly, you start to merge and swap partners, and all of a sudden you’re eating out someone else’s wife or sucking off someone else’s husband! 😲 But you’ve got your partner by your side, and you can see they’re loving every second just as much as you are. 🤤
To finish off, you go back to your own partner feeling super horny and ready to fuck. 😈 You lie down next to the other couple, and then you’re fucking your partner with two other hot bodies writhing around next to you, hands reaching out and heartbeats racing as you all explode in erotic ecstasy. 😩💦
Let’s talk through it together 😋
It’s all about communication. Make sure you have conversations about boundaries before you jump into a swap. 🖐️
What is everyone comfortable with? 🤔 What are your hard and soft limits? As a reminder, a hard limit is something that’s absolutely off the table, and a soft limit is something you’re cautious around, but willing to experiment with. 🚦
If you realize partway through the sesh that you’re uncomfortable with something you’d previously agreed to, it’s still okay to pull back. Remember the golden rule of consent: you can stop at any time, for any reason. 👌
Communication doesn’t stop when you’ve finished fucking, either – talk it through with your partner afterwards. What did you like? Do you wanna do this again? What can we add or adjust to make it even better. 😈
If you’ve had a red-hot time, debriefing together will be such a turn-on. 🥵
Bring up your soft swap next time you’re getting down and dirty one-on-one and see if your partner likes it. 😜 Remembering that tantalizing time you shared together will add another dimension of pleasure to your sex life. 😩
“Hey baby, maybe we’re ready to kick it up a gear…” 🏍️🔥😏
Have you tried soft swapping? Did it turn you on? Tell us all the dirty details in the comments… 🤤👇