I KNEW I WAS BI WHEN...
5:02 pm Friday, 23rd September, 2022
✨🏳️🌈 IT’S CELEBRATE BISEXUALITY DAY! 🏳️🌈✨
Every day, we’re here embracing and celebrating who we are, who we love, and who we fuck. But today, the world joins us here at the party. 💕🌍
To shine the spotlight on all you beautiful bisexuals today, we asked some of you to share your stories about the moment you knew you identified as bi. 👇
🌈 “I’d been fantasising about being with other women for years…”
“I’ve always dated men and been satisfied, so I never thought to question anything else about my sexuality. I’d always been curious about sleeping with women, but I knew I was turned on by men so didn’t consider it seriously - I wish I had sooner! It wasn’t until last year that I acted on my sexual attraction to women and slept with another girl after a night out. I felt so free, and pretty much changed my preferences on my dating profile straight after so I’d see both men and women. 🤣
Thinking back, the signs of me being bi were always there. I think because all my girlfriends are straight, I was slow to realise. I’d been fantasising about sex with other women for years - starting with female celebrity crushes (usually queer too - Ruby Rose, Kristen Stewart, the list goes on 🙋♀️) ... and finding boobs really hot... and then watching lesbian porn... TRIBBING though. I should have known I wasn’t just ‘straight’ when I was masturbating to queer sex really!
I honestly love the differences between sex with men and women. Although I can easily orgasm with both, the sensations of a woman going down on me is just as sexy as a guy going rough inside me with his cock. Who knows who I'll end up with long term? For now, casual sex is for me and I'm so glad I followed my desires for women, because it’s just as am-a-zing.”
- Jessica, 25
🌈 “I thought all women secretly fancied women!”
“Can you believe it? When I was younger, I thought all women secretly fancied women, like you know, girl crushes? I know now there’s a big difference between a straight person’s ‘girl crush’ and what I was getting actually turned on by.
Being 23, I feel lucky as I’ve grown up in a world that’s way more open than it used to be and there’s tons of info out there about sexuality, so it didn’t take me long at all to ‘know’ I was bi. I’d always relate to bi and gay social media influencers I’d watch when they’d talk about their experiences.
I only started watching porn a couple of years ago, and from the start I mix it up with either lesbian or straight - whatever I’m feeling like! Usually, the type of porn I watch and the fantasies I’ll have about sex will depend on who I’ve matched with and been chatting to most recently (male or female).
I didn’t need to have sex with people of either gender to confirm my sexuality, but I have done and both do it for me.”
- Ellie, 23
🌈 “ Me and my girlfriend went to our first swinger’s party…”
“I’m a queer, cisgender male. I didn’t start exploring my sexuality until I was 30, and now I’m 34. I’d had feelings and been turned on by men before, but like a lot of people, I just hadn’t acted on it because I knew I was sexually active with women and happy with that. When me and my girlfriend went to our first swinger’s party, she was actually the one who encouraged me to first make out with another guy. She’s open to anything - I was a lot less experienced.
That make-out with him changed my life and has led me to so many opportunities (with sex) that I can’t imagine ever missing out on. We ended up getting it on with a few other couples at that party as the night went on, and we regularly do now! Everything felt natural with the guys I was doing stuff with, just as natural as it did with my girlfriend and other women. It was an unforgettable first time.
Without the encouragement from my girlfriend to open up, I wonder when I’d have had the realisation - but I’m sure I would have had it later in life because now I know it’s such a huge and natural part of who I am! Sex has never been more satisfying yet relaxed.”
- Marcus, 34
🌈 “I was just as keen to sleep with women as I was with men”
“It’s only with hindsight now that I can see that I’ve liked women for as long as I can remember. I identified as straight until my mid-teens, which was when I realised my feelings for women weren’t just ‘I want to be like her’ but ‘hey… actually… I want to be with her’.
When I left home to go to college I used my new freedom (moving out!) to explore my sexuality - which is a good way because you’re grouped with a bunch of other people with the same freedoms. I was just as keen to sleep with women as I was with men, so you could say I knew before any sex actually happened. But actually doing it with a girl for the first time? The intensity of foreplay just hits differently, you know?
The 2 guys I’m fucking regularly at the moment are both cis male, and neither care about my sexuality - why would they? We’re having great sex! But I am still and always will be bisexual. When I do talk about my past experiences in bed, they do seem to get turned on. I’m hoping a threesome might be on the cards!”
- Megan, 29
🌈 “I ended up in a friend group with a gay couple…”
“I’ve always managed to believe I was straight - purely because I had no issues being with women. I had an idea in my head that unless something was ‘wrong’ when having sex with women, then I must be straight and any other fantasies that popped into my thoughts weren’t anything to think twice about.
When I was in my mid-20s, I ended up in a friend group with a gay couple, and that’s when my fantasies really hit another level. After hanging out with our group, I’d go home and think about them having sex with what felt like an envy! I ended up watching guy-on-guy porn and getting really hard looking at their big muscles, hairy chests and of course their dick. As you can probably imagine, I ended up on dating sites to look for men as well as women - and I haven’t looked back since. 👀
I’ve had casual flings with both genders, although romantically, I’ve only ever ‘loved’ women, but I know not to rule this out with any other genders. I keep an open mind, but I do tend to go for casual sex as I definitely at the moment value my sex life more than romance! My sex life has been electric since I’ve had the confidence to explore men as well as women, I just wish I’d realised sooner!”
- James, 41
🌈 “In a steamy threesome situation with a girl and another guy”
“I had my ‘lightbulb moment’ 2 years ago when I found myself in a threesome with a girl and another guy. I had always fantasised about threesomes, but was surprised when I realised I was focussing on the guy just as much as the girl we were spit-roasting. I was turned on by them both.
Before we started, me and the guy decided on a no-touching rule between us, but I had the urge to break it pretty quickly. I respected the rules we already made, but after that I started having other threesomes where everyone could touch everyone. This really confirmed that I was bi. Let’s just say that group sex with men and women where everyone plays with eachother has become my go-to way to spend a Friday night!
Now I just like who I like, date who I date, fuck people I found hot or have a connection with, and that’s ultimately what makes me feel fulfilled.”
- Josh, 27
❤️ Do you remember the moment you realised? Did everything start adding up (we allll say the same thing on this one!)? How did your world change, if at all? We love hearing from you. Comment below! 👇