3:03 pm Friday, 6th September, 2019
Online hookup sites are one of the most popular reasons society uses technology today. It's fun, time-consuming, and for some of us, it's pretty effective. However, for others, it could be a destroyer of their hearts, bank accounts, and even their time. As much fun as the online hookup sites are, it can be scary if you don't take precautions.
We have three warning signs that your online hookup is bad news and three tips to make sure you find your match made in horny heaven instead.
Red Flags
If your online hookup prefers that you text all the time, then this is someone that you need to be careful when starting a relationship. They should be calling to talk on the phone or even video chatting, especially as the relationship grows over the months. It should be something they actually want to do more than texting. If this is something they don't do at all, then this is a red flag. You will have to play it by ear to see how this will work out.
If the person you're messaging is continuously asking you to send them money or to come to see you, then you should block this person completely. Remember not to give out any of your personal information to anybody, ever. You need to wait to give out information about where you live and work until you really know someone. Most scams involving money occur within the first month that you start talking online. They will say they had to visit family in another country than a few days later contact you asking for money to get home. They spin elaborate stories that are very sad but not true. What kind of person asks for money from someone they have only recently met? The only person that does that is a mooch, and they will keep asking you for money until you end things with them.
This is a classic red flag. If someone can't be bothered to post accurate and representative information about themselves, even if they're not a scammer, do you want to associate with them? Since pictures and profile details are the basic features by which you learn about people online, if someone's dishonest or you think they're deliberately withholding information about themselves, take it as a sign that you probably shouldn't communicate with them.
Green Flags
When taking online, you'll encounter a lot of people who are good at pulling the disappearing act. You'll be mid-conversation, when - poof! - they disappear for days and then appear again as if nothing ever happened. If you're talking to someone who is very consistent in their frequency of communication and that frequency is frequent, that means a few good things. First, it means you are probably the only person they are talking to. They don't have time to message a dozen people multiple times a day. Second, the biggie, they are into you. They don't just forget about their account because work got busy or guests came into town.
You both hit the "Perhaps we should meet" point at the exact same time. This means, you act on the same instinct - your instincts respond to the same stimuli. Something about that last conversation you had said to both of you, "It's time to meet this person." Odds are, if your timing matches up on that, it will match up on other things, like your sexual interests and needs.
When you ask them questions, they'll answer them honestly and tell you everything you want to know because they have nothing to hide. It won't feel like you're pulling teeth the whole damn time. If it feels like they're not telling you the entire truth, there's probably a reason for it - always listen to your gut.