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Ok - so we met in a public place for a drink, got on OK but no attraction whatsoever on my part. I'm not picky (tall, short, young or younger lol) and I know I'm not perfect but I'm not a mean person. How do I tell them I am not interested?

RE:how do I politely say no thanks?

Just be honest as this is better than giving false hope....maybe you should cam with them in the chatroom first you will know very quickly if its going to work or not. Good luck
Stormcrow2013

Your corundrum.

Firstly has he contacted you? Are you sure they're still interested in you.
Secondly If he contacts you again youre just going to have to tell them. Hopefully one message and it'll all be over.
liana

be honest

I think, the best way is to be honest.
juilysmall

be a bitch. and tell then yr have what u want

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RE:how do I politely say no thanks?

Just tell you are only interested in socialisng and it was great to youimg src="imagesadultemoticons018.gif"

SirFoggy

RE:how do I politely say no thanks?

Swinging is all about consenting adults having fun, no need to spoil it by playing silly games. If you don't click just say so. If the other party is not happy about it, tough luck. If they take it personally and are offended by your honesty then your gut feeling has served you well. They wouldn't be fun to be with anyways.

RE:how do I politely say no thanks?

Well had similar but it was in private chat on here. It is very tricky as it seemed fine for 2 weeks then a sudden switch and told to F off.
Basic rules of boundaries are important for me now on here cyber wise as well as in real.
For a woman I would suggest a first meet take a friend. If he is genuine he won't mind. in fact even for guy that may also be a good idea in some cases depending on confidence.