I'm probably what could be referred to as an adult dating "veteran", and have been using this site (and a couple of others) for a long time. I really have no complaints and can place hand on heart and say I'm glad I took the plunge when I did. And I say that with the accent on "when".......because I really believe things were much more fun back in the day than they are now, at least in terms of finding genuine, chatty contacts who *actually wanted to meet* :-)) When I first got started, the term "unsolicited dick pic" had not been coined. In fact, it seemed that when these sites were still a novelty, women were thrilled and excited to see photos of erect penises, and were falling over themselves to communicate with their owners. However, the zeitgeist moves on and women have become bamboozled and punch-drunk by a vast sea of phalluses. It is no longer politically correct to send - or even display - such photos, it seems, even within the sexual ethos of such sites.
I get the impression that what has happened is that sites like this have simply become a general forum for sexual expression of all kinds, rather than a tool for finding flesh and blood contacts. These days people are here for exhibitionism and for peepshow thrills. They are here for strutting and preening, for showing off their tats, piercings and "washboard abs", and for trying to convince unsuspecting gawpers that they have Christian Grey-like pseudo-attributes in order to exploit the current juggernaut wave of "dom-sub chic". Sex has as many fads and fashions as haute couture or pop music styles......
Adult dating sites have also become another victim of the "post-truth" era. As with most other internet sites, people can no longer trust content or believe what they are seeing/reading. Just as there is "fake news", there are "fake profiles", and even if profiles are for real people, just how much of the info supplied is actually kosher?? At the inception of such sites, people were less inclined to use fakery, and the membership was generally more trusting. Now everyone glares at each other suspiciously through a filter of distrust and (often justifiable) scepticism. The "AM hack" was a watershed moment because - as well as scaring the shit out of people whose data they thought were discreetly tucked away out of site on the ether - it proved that many sites were not operating honestly, some actually employing staff to concoct fake profiles and keep fee-paying members titillated. But again it goes back to what people want from a "modern" sex site: maybe they just want to be "entertained", and even fake profiles can be entertaining for some 🙂
I guess in the era of Tinder, adult dating has seen a huge sea change. However, I always feel that a site like this one still has, potentially, a much broader range of appeal for people who want more cerebral or artistic forms of sexual contact. The reality, though, is that I seem to be drowning in a sea of "cam whores", broadcasts featuring point blank shots of dildo insertions, and women who are either wanting to "enslave" me or who seem incapable of interacting with a man unless she is "owned". Whatever happened to the free-spirited, fun-loving women I used to meet on here a decade ago ??
