1. Being too goal-oriented
"Fixating on having an orgasm or a simultaneous one with your partner can put so much pressure on you that it'll block your sexual response," warns Carol Queen, author of
Exhibitionism for the Shy. "Remember, you've got your whole lives together. What's the rush?" So if that little voice inside your head tells you that you're taking too long (a guaranteed buzz kill), silence it and shift your focus by forcing yourself to relax and enjoy the moment.
2. Keeping a leg up
If your legs are angled up toward your torso during intercourse, you may be sabotaging your own sexual satisfaction. "This prevents your clitoris from receiving adequate stimulation," says Sandor Gardos, sexologist for My Pleasure. Instead, make sure your legs are flat on the bed during the missionary position or stretched down toward his legs while you're on top. This will guarantee you're getting maximum impact where you need it.
3. Bringing your to-do list to bed
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