I am the male half of PhilHappy and this is my thoughts on the parties we have hosted. My wife may (does) look at things differently and may interject as it suits her.
A bit of background, we live in Angeles City, Philippines. Angeles is a city that grew around a US Air Force base. It is primarily known as a party city, where older guys from all over the world come to play with younger girls. We kind of knew a bit about it before we moved here, but had no idea on how prevalent it was. We moved because there is a International Airport, and it is not in the gates of hell .... I mean Manila.
We have been in the lifestyle for 9 months and done mmf, mff, small and medium groups. We have attended parties and hosted as well. This is what we have learned from hosting.
We started with the dates and venue. We have played at quite a few hotels, but there is one in particular that knows its clientele and caters to them. In this case, they know that people in Angeles like to play in groups so their suites are really set up for it. The cost is more, but the aggravation it saves is worth it. Venue size will determine party size. In a larger one bedroom suite with a full living area we find 5 couples ideal, but I do like a bit of space. One you have your venue is settled, then the hard stuff begins.
The hard stuff is finding couples that all fit. In our area we have a couple issues that pop up fairly consistently. the first is older guys and younger women. It is very common to get couples that the guy is heading into 60's with a 20 or 30 year old companion. Let's face it, by 40 us guys are heading downhill. A lot of us exercise regularly and stay fit but we are not 20's or 30's anymore, so even if well maintained we cannot perform like we used to. I am 42 and have been to parties where I was the youngest guy. Younger guys will think I am lucky, older guys will think you poor bastard. I am definitely in the poor bastard category, it was not a encounter I would care to repeat. Ideally you want to find more age appropriate couples, both for the social aspect and the performance aspect later on. We mitigate this somewhat with inviting an extra single male.
We will touch on the extra male now. His role is to keep the women happy, all the women. We always look for them mid 20's to late 30's. Any younger and they really do not know what they are doing, and older, what's the point ...... they are a piece of fresh meat for the girls and the girls like the meat to be young and tender.
The next issue we have is that Pinay's (Philippine women) that are in a relationship with a foreigner will not play if a Pinoy (Philippine men) is in the group. There are some cultural issues that would deserve an entirely separate blog. This restricts your pool of couples. We have played with Pinoy couples but we seem to be the exception.
Okay, now you have lined up your couples. You did invite a few more to make up for the no shows? It is a fact of life in hosting a party, less an issue with experienced couples, but with newbies we fully expect a no show. We rarely invite newbies anyway, a party is not a place for them to start. Once things get rolling, the expectation is that everyone is game and if someone gets cold at the last minute it quickly damages the mood.
Next is communication leading up to the party. It is critical to keep in touch with the couples. We found the more we kept in contact the less no shows we had. People instinctively do not like disappointing people they are in close contact with.
You made it to party day. We like to have plenty of water, vodka and mix (Redbull seems to be the favourite), snack foods (chips and chocolate seem to go quickly) and condom's.
Our usual evening begins with supper with some participants that are friends outside of the lifestyle as well. We then head to the actual meet at a local bar nearby. The meet is for people to get acquainted, have a few drinks for social lubrication and flirt a bit for some tension. If the girls feel like dancing we head to another bar, if not it is back to the suite.
Once at the suite, it is polite to actually wait until everyone cleans up before the fun actually starts. It is jarring to come out of the bathroom and seeing naked bodies all over the place going at it. Also no sex in the bathroom, someone may actually want to use it for its intended purpose.
The actual playtime lasts around 3 hours and usually happens in 2 parts. Only once have we had to suggest it was bedtime, most people know it is time to go after the second lull. We actual cap our time to 03:00, usually by 02:30 people are spent and heading out.
It was a bit of rambling, but if you have any questions feel free to ask.
