When is a coffee a coffee and not a hook up?

If it *is* indeed daytime coffee as opposed to an evening drink, I would interpret that as merely an introductory "interview" and assume that both parties would then just go off and think about whether there would be any mutual motivation to proceed to the evening drink stage :-)

If people can accept that, then it avoids a lot of faffing around and "what it??" preparation. I would assume that most normal people are capable of sizing someone up in a calm frame of mind without lunging across the coffee table and trying to get them into a clinch :-)

Ronald you crease me up :-)

Firstly, "I'll meet you by the canalside" (OMG) would mean, in my book, "Then afterwards you'll end up IN the canal with your thighs around your neck" Would anyone here meet by a canal side?

Never in a million years I hope, lol.

Secondly, meeting for a coffee is just that, I'd have thought.
Unless...
One or the other thinks you have had long enough to chat, and to avoid an "all day in the café" thing, asks if you'd like to "have coffee in my room?"
Then it's more than a coffee, maybe.

Clean pants and condom at the ready? ;-)

Wow, I only had a day or two away and there's loads of new stuff here, lol.

I never lurk... can't see in the dark well enough ;-)

I'm more of a "club 'em and drag 'em back to the cave" type.
For one thing, the hit rate is higher, lol.

Coffee is coffee - simple as that. In my experience the difference between a coffee to see if there is a spark and a coffee as a prelude to something more physical should be clear from the outset, even if that clarity is implicit rather than explicit.

Or as one fab lady that I met quite a few times in the past succinctly put it "I don't fuck on hello"

For the record we went at it like rabbits on the second and subsequent encounters, but the first was a 250 mile round trip for me - for coffee.

As an aside I wonder if Shroom fancies meeting for coffee?

Coffee is just that in my experience, it has led elsewhere sometimes but I don't expect it and having looked at your profile submissivelady, I wish I still lived in Kent

Coffee is never just coffee, especially when served with a side order of rumpy-pumpy ...

Ohhh I'd LOVE to see Rumpy Pumpy as a side order choice on a menu.

Come to think of it...

A starter could be "A kiss and a squeeze"
Closely followed by " A fondle and tweak"
With perhaps "Second base with custard"

Now THAT'S a restaurant I would invest in !!

Anyone got the number for Dragon's Den? ;-)

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I always figure a coffee is a coffee and a drink is a drink. no matter the time of day (or evening).

"More" is more only when both parties agree to it either before or at the time....no assumptions, EVER.

"the first was a 250 mile round trip for me - for coffee"

I salute your sheer doggedness :-)

Coffee and a size-up chat is all fine, but for me - at any rate - there would definitely be a travel limit for that (i.e. relatively local-ish).

If, through communication, it were to become obvious that we could skip the coffee stage, then of course trips to far-flung locations would present no obstacle (pant, pant.......) :-)

"They do a mean long sausage roll"

Or perhaps a 2-hour roll with a long sausage ? :-)

I have been inviting people for coffees when I go to the UK and I really meant coffees...and if I said dinner I really meant dinner....

I think it is quite obvious from the time you chat with a person if you would be interested in more....If a couple of people here would ask me out for dinner and implying dessert, I would be clear and tell them, dessert could be a possibility but not to expect it in full delectable quantities...;)

Wannawatch, you defo know women...lol..or at least some...

Meet for coffee is exactly what it means as I found out to my cost !I have been banned for life from Starbucks due to my precipitate behaviour !
As for coffee in a hotel.Not always a good idea when the object of your desire is sitting only a few feet away,but due to circumstances one is unable to do anything about it it ( you know who you are! )img src="imagesadultemoticons016.gif"

Always safest to apply the cuprinol formula to the headline reason for a meet...a brew is a brew, a travellodge is an infestation and a canal is a major police investigation

Yes for sure there are a whole load of time wasters on here and those who say one thing and really mean something else.
I am guy who also has been succored in by the gals a nd too am more wary. Still, if asked a question I give an honest answer what I would say is don't ask if you don't want to hear the answer. Coffee meets in public place are best staring points. If the chemistry is there, it will be apparent if both people are honest about their desires. Open conversation is a good guide but evasiveness or eye contact being avoided for me, says, look out here, something is either not as it seems or is ore than is obvious. READ the body language as well as listening to the voice.

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Need more coffee

Submissive lady. I shall make a point of visiting Gravesend.We shall take coffee together, I will pay my respects at the grave of Pocohontas ,then we re enact the meeting between her and Capt. John Smith. Shall I bring the totem pole or will you ? xx

For a first-time meet with someone I *alsays* assume it's a coffee--meet. That way there's no pressure, no let-downs and you have a better chance of enjoying the time.

If more happens then great but I never expect it to.

oh boss, you make me soo happy, extra frothy from now on lolxxxxxx

Agree entirely with most of the threads that a coffee social meet is just that.
Coffee is too extreme for my tastes. A good tea bagging though, I can accomodate.

Tetley?

lol@mugwump.....

How !Submissive Lady. Me Big Chief, Tomahawk Chopper Which Points At Sky, you my squaw ! I speak to you with forked tongue !...but don't knock it till you've tried it !img src="imagesadultemoticons030.gif"

Wifeuser: Being rather naive and a relative beginner in sexual matters, I was wondering if you could enlighten me as to the ideal criteria for a 'Master of suitable quality', as I am somewhat in awe.

Some profiles do not adequately describe some people and many are lacking in any photos (although I can never understand why?)) So coffee or social drink is a good first step for us anyway we may like to sleep around but we do not sleep with just anyone

Hi sexy where do you live

Being a "normal" sexually rapacious man I always linger for hours in Costa or Cafe Nero looking for suitably vulnerable and needy women who I know for sure would welcome the Donald Trump-like approach, and would whisk me off to the ladies for a quickie before you can say "chai steamer". All I have to do is mention the fact I'm a famous sex blogger, and an instant look of desire comes over their face. As Trump has observed, fame is a wonderful thing and entitles a man to do just about anything and women will let him get away with it. Never mind "Tea Party": bring on the coffee I say 🙂

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Er....thank you for your valued input.

A coffee meet is the start of a mutual meeting without the extension of anything else except a meet between both , in order to analyze each other's mutual understanding,  in order to expand the coffee meet into a mutual relationship.  👍👍👍🌹🌹

Testing the water, as you wrote, does make sense but, to be fair to some (not all) that you meet, this site's main title is shag so sex is absolutely in the air at some point.

If I were meeting a lady who absolutely loves sex (as you say here) I would assume that my hormones were at least bubbling a bit when I walk in the door for the coffee.

It may be not what you want but there it is; in my case at least I'd be a bit turned on because I'm about to meet a woman who is highly sexual and that in of itself is arousing.

I'm also nervous because I'm concerned she'll find me boring.

I'm no virgin, or I wouldn't be on this site, but meeting someone new is always, at least for me, a bit unnerving.

But nervousness can be mastered a bit.

A coffee date should be an introduction in a safe place.  If BOTH parties want to proceed, they can either on that day or in the future.  Be prepared either way.  You don't want to not be ready and you find the hottest sexy man who wants to have sex today and you say, "maybe another time".  You might leave him not wanting to call back for the other time.

a coffee is a coffee a chance to meet and see if you click.

I would say it's not so much what you expect the other person iso implying but more about what your expectations are. If you think you want to go all the way then be prepared. If you only expect a cup of coffee only prepare for that. You are reading far too much into a simple statement.  Much better to use you time to interrogate their personality and their endeavors 

I would say it's not so much what you expect the other person iso implying but more about what your expectations are. If you think you want to go all the way then be prepared. If you only expect a cup of coffee only prepare for that. You are reading far too much into a simple statement.  Much better to use you time to interrogate their personality and their endeavors 

a straight person woman lol I like very much. Sorry new to all this but looking for good sex .

Hah, yess, always a tricky one.. To me a coffee meet is just that, time to get to know and see where to take it further. But then there was this lady who was very hands-on during the coffee meet.. It shows that not everybody thinks the same. Fun tho.. .lol xxx

The distinct lack of "likes" on comments is a bit worrying. Does anyone actually look at the blogs now? I hope so.

A coffee is coffee unless you are both or all happy to go further.

Nice one if that were me keep mouth shut let you know you are gorgeous then go home n bash one out X

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coffee is coffee...
and if its good coffee, I aint gonna let sex get in the way of it... I don't care how good you are in the sack, no ones gonna put me off my cremalata!!

A coffee is a coffee, and nothing more.
I usually suggest going for a coffee first because you'll be meeting someone in a public place and there is no pressure. It give a chance to chat, sound the person out, answer some questions the other person may have and to see if there is any chemistry.

If things don't work out then it is the best choice to part ways. Nobody has lost a ton of money by booking a hotel or gets stung with a big dinner bill.

However, if there is chemistry and you both get it on than you can decide where you go from there. Hotel, someone's house or near by. One of my personal memorable experiences was meeting up for a coffee with a lovely lady from here who ended up giving me an amazing blow job in the car park behind Costa because she couldn't wait.

Agreed. Great to meet and have a coffee and I feel it it suits both of you sexy fun folllws😊