I’m the first to admit it. My bad relationships with women probably started as a very young child when my sisters and I got into all out fighting matches (2 to 1, guess who was the one?). This was compounded by the fact that my best friend (a boy) moved away when I was 6 and I no longer had anyone to help me fight off the bullies (girls with perfect hair, all the “right” clothes, and personalities to match their catty attitudes). I learned pretty early on that girls were not to be trusted.
Yes, I had girlfriends. A group of us hung out as teens and partied; I sat quietly in the corner watching them flirt effortlessly with all the guys and wishing I could just Think of Something to Say. Jealousy was rampant. On my part, not theirs. Sure, they claimed they wanted to be able to ace that exam next week without much effort, but in reality, they shone while I gathered dust.
In college, I abandoned my shyness as a worthless artefact of childhood, and discovered the joys of boys. Women avoided me. Women clung dearly to their bed partners (as if I’d try to steal them away....I never did). When I walked into the room, whispers started and faces were averted.
Why am I telling you this? Because that has been my experience of women for most of my life.
Enter the Hub: hunting grounds of the rich and famous (or at least of the hot and horny).
Women scared me.
For ages, when I first started chatting, it was to men only. I assumed women were there for one purpose only—to chat up the men. That was, after all, my intention, was it not everyone’s?
A few recent events have turned my mind away from men for a while. Yes some are great to talk to, flirt with, possibly even meet at some future date but I have discovered something even greater....WOMEN.
No, I’m not talking sex here. I’m talking about women I can chat with, laugh with, cry with....in a way that is quite different from any of my previous experiences. Far from the dancing around that goes on in my real life relationships with women these days, I have found that women are a lot like me. Sometimes confident, sometimes not, sometimes sexual as hell and other times just ordinary women who might need to do the laundry and cook dinner.
Yes, I’ve found a bit of the cattiness that I learned to cope with long ago, but for the most part, not. Maybe it’s the mode of communication--being online it’s easier to be open--but I’ve met a few women now (with plans to meet more) and found the same to be true in real life. Honest people.
Truly amazing. To all of you I’ve come to know, even a bit...thank you.
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5:56 pm Thursday, 24th April, 2014
Interesting blog EG. I've had a similar experience with girl friends in the past. Maybe that's because I'm a slapper who sleeps with their husbands behind their backs ... (joke!!). Seriously though, there are times when male friends are so much easier and even I will admit that women can be hard work at times. I just don't do 'bitch' that well. |
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6:40 pm Thursday, 24th April, 2014
"They are more than just pretty faces and sexy bodies . They are clever funny and caring." |
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10:30 pm Thursday, 24th April, 2014
Have not had ANY issues with women here regarding sex-related confusion. The ones I've met in person are as genuine in real life as they were online. Whatever their orientation.... |
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1:07 am Friday, 25th April, 2014
I tend to find that women are more judgemental than our male counterparts. Which i think is rather a shame as in a "perfect world" us women could learn from each others shared experiences, rather than competing for superiority. I always try not to judge anyone male or female, prefering to be supportive of others regardless of gender. |
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6:33 am Friday, 25th April, 2014
Hmmmm. I see this as somewhat of a dichotomy.As a casual listener or eavesdropper on conversations between ladies,I can understand why some are saying there is a covert edge of cattiness andor competitiveness ,just below the surface that I do not detect when groups of males are chatting.Much of their talk is centered around " Blokish " things,which I am bound to admit, I enjoy. |
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8:14 am Friday, 25th April, 2014
Jeezo MissG i shivered when i read that. I could never treat anyone in such a morally reprehensible manner.img src="imagesadultemoticons026.gif" |
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8:34 am Friday, 25th April, 2014
Good blog EG. Has already generated some very interesting comments. |
