9:51 pm Saturday, 29th June, 2013
I want to understand the desires behind this fantasy: He wants to be controlled. He wants me to order him around, demandcommand; including anal sex with a strap-on. Many men want this, and I understand the desire: to let go, push the limits, feel open, vulnerable, exposed. |
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3:52 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
Re:Explain thisthis behaviour pattern is really about the eroticpsychological desire to be 'humiliated'. it is easier for the psyche to abandon itself to humiliation is it can be convinced somehow that the 'punishment' is deserved. more than that perhaps it is about 'earning' your punishment - in all things rewards are more valuable when earned... so there is a more natural progression from 'bad boy' behaviour' to 'punishment'.. than there will ever be from 'good boy' behaviour |