I am fascinated by the communication skills of the male species. Sorry, to generalise guys as clearly this doesn't apply to you all.
One-lined emails from guys will not get any points from me and hey, NEWSFLASH, cutting and pasting the same letter to every girl on the site is not a wise move either. Us girls can tell they are recycled.
Seriously, is it because they don't want to risk losing precious online hunting time by writing a personal and well-thought out message? I have had messages that say, "Hey!" That's it, nothing more. And the flirts ... come on! If a guy I have never talked to before walked up to me in a bar and said, "Would love to see your private pics." then showed me a picture of a pink dancing willy before he walked away, would that do the trick? Erm, yeah, no chance.
What am I supposed to do with a one-line message or a flirt? I am confused by this. Do I write back? Do I flirt back and cross my fingers? Or, do I send up smoke signals ...?
I know this is not an on-line dating site but I'm curious ... are guys still supposed to be the pursuer? It seems so many are happy to sit back and make the girls do all the work. Ok, I'll admit that it's been a while and I may be old fashioned but, I, like lots of girls, like to be pursued. It doesn't matter how successful, professional, or independent I am, I am still a lady and I want to know that a guy thinks I am interesting and attractive enough for him to make an effort.
So guys, don't complain if I blow you off too easily and never reply to your messages. It was probably not something you said but more likely something you didn't say. I get so many messages and unfortunately I can't reply to them all. Ask yourself if you took the time to read my profile and then wrote a nice, well-thought out email or did you say, "Hi hottie, I like your picture, have you got one of your pussy?" I kid you not ... that was a real message!
Anyway, I was wondering what the general feeling is on this. Is it still important for guys to show that they can communicate with and pursue a girl? Isn't pursuit from the male species, after all, the natural order of things?
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11:24 am Wednesday, 17th July, 2013
I've always had confidence with the written word, and enjoy communicating in a creative way. If ever I approach a woman here she can guarantee that she'll get some quality mails, and I don't jump straight into the sexual "deep end" unless her profile suggests that she would be receptive to that. |
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6:11 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Skebbie, not all girls are fixated on abs and youth :) |
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6:47 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Luv2sucU: Yes, but if on further perusal you discover that your correspondent is 15 years older than yourself, I'm willing to bet your interest will dissipate fairly rapidly, especially when one considers the wide choice available for women on this site :-) |
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7:01 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Skebbie, with age comes maturity :) |
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7:12 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Luv2sucU thats funny img src="imagesadultemoticons008.gif" |
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7:45 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
L2SU: Very true, but sadly so does decrepitude (and I don't think Groucho had much to say about that angle, or how it affects one's physical desirability :-) |
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9:27 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Kinky: Maybe you should resurrect my blog about whether age "is just a number" :-) It seemed to sink without trace at the time, which suggested to me that people were a bit reluctant to discuss the issue 'cos it made them feel uncomfortable. Are you up for it? :-) |
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10:40 am Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Lilith: Could I interest you at all in a 10-inch-long cylindrical bottle of gin with a beefeater embossed on the side? (Limited edition) Unsure whether it knows much about religion, though. |
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12:36 pm Thursday, 18th July, 2013
Has anyone ever seen the advertisements to these websites? They suggest after a couple of messages you will meet someone in no time and this is after a one word message. So yes it has recruited a line of small minded men. |
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12:54 pm Thursday, 18th July, 2013
I always understand why someone doesn't reply to a message. Women must get millions. I'm tempted to open a female account to just to humour myself. lol |
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10:10 am Saturday, 20th July, 2013
TwilightSex |
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4:49 pm Saturday, 20th July, 2013
I think my favorite 'useless man approach' I've had since I've been on here was the time a guy said he'd like to come and meet me if I paid for his train fare... Bwahaha!!! Nice one mate :-) |
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11:49 pm Saturday, 20th July, 2013
@Darren12 - I tried x |
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6:08 pm Monday, 22nd July, 2013
Wilf - will you be renewing your library membership anytime soon? |
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7:01 pm Monday, 22nd July, 2013
I admire your honesty Micktattoo. |
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8:25 pm Monday, 22nd July, 2013
What ... she gives you directions to her own cave?
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8:39 pm Monday, 22nd July, 2013
Wilf you are so right. Some blogs are a joy to read, including your own. |
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9:27 pm Monday, 22nd July, 2013
mmmmmm odd..........
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12:14 am Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
BTG: Looking at the women on here, this particular bloke would probably find less than about 15% shaggable, but I am, admittedly, a fussy old get :-) Yep it's a swingers' site but everyone has their own standards and attitudes, and I suppose I've always strived for connections that are "memorable" and (dare I say it?) slightly "romantic" :-) If you remove all the "greedy girl gangbang" enthusiasts, the doggers, the swing-club aficionados and women who are massively tattooed or exceed my upper limit for body size, then there are not that many to choose from, and among those, only a tiny proportion are likely to find me interesting. I'm not complaining though, because it's kind of fun waiting to see how the dice will fall, but knowing for sure that if I'm sufficiently patient, someone really attractive is still out there and I will eventually meet her. |
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2:02 am Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
Hello, |
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10:11 am Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
BTG: If you're passing through North Yorks at any time in the last 3 weeks of August, I'll be happy to take you up on that. Can even accom (don't worry I'm not gay :-) |
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7:10 pm Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
CumfunforU - Oh dear, I did try to reply to your message but your settings wouldn't allow me to.
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7:15 pm Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
Kinkygirl .. I hope I am as cool as you when I grow up lol xxx
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7:18 pm Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
Skebbie - 15%! Really? Oh dear, now I am depressed.
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10:16 pm Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
@Throbbin0, Not sure you would get a dancing pink willy in the envelope ... Although, you could always send it by Parcel Force ;-) |
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11:57 pm Tuesday, 23rd July, 2013
@Roslyn: Yes they were still there last time I looked, although it's more than 3 months since I was in UK. In the meantime maybe Donald Trump has turned them into Disneyland with Baseball Caps. |
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7:28 am Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
Skebbie, you've made me blush ;-) I'll listen out for those horses ... |
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10:01 am Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
kinky my lengthily comment was not approved. bah! i guess i put too much focus on the contact restrictions even though the were briefly commented on in previous posts........ expecting an email any minute now confirming the deletion of this one too. |
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10:03 am Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
ill take your sound advice board though lol |
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4:08 pm Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
@Wilf, I know what you mean about being attracted to well-written blogs and profiles. |
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7:01 pm Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
BTG - shame on me for not marking your homework. This was an oversight ;-) |
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10:18 pm Wednesday, 24th July, 2013
You might find yourself on detention BTG |
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5:46 am Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Giggles BTG. Quote " ... but in honour of good deeds not bad." Now that is a shame ;-) |
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7:25 am Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Kinky: Like Curvy, maybe you're not fussy enough lol. |
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7:56 am Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Mmmm I think our first lesson will be on the correct use of a mobile phone. Are you finding the crrect use of your fingers on the keypad a challenge?
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11:47 am Thursday, 25th July, 2013
***ps, just emailed you directions to Stratford. Problem is, they were designed for Japanese tourists so you may not be able to read them :)*** |
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12:52 pm Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Skebbie |
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9:47 pm Thursday, 25th July, 2013
Looks like my appointment book is a bit jammed for next month :-) |
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10:34 pm Thursday, 25th July, 2013
No Wilf ... I'm saving that for you x
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9:10 am Friday, 26th July, 2013
One can live in hope Fallingangel I think Skebbie and BTG make a lovely pair ... () |
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11:52 pm Friday, 26th July, 2013
Hahaha ... I can just picture you both.
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12:13 am Saturday, 27th July, 2013
BTG* Reminds me of Uncle Monty in "Withnail and I" recalling "sweet crimes in a punt" with someone called Norman :-) |
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8:02 am Saturday, 27th July, 2013
@BTG Are you really leaving us (sob)? Hope it wasn't something I said ;-0 |