Why I’m So Passionate About Helping People Getting Into Kink and BDSM

7:11 pm Wednesday, 27^th January, 2021

I will never forget the day I entered the local kink community. I found out that there was a weekly kink meetup happening a few blocks from where I worked. For over a decade, I had been yearning to explore kink. There was this desire, this fire inside, that kept growing day-by-day.

This gathering I heard is where kinky people can hang out in regular settings, generally with food and socialize. I love this idea because it brings the kink community closer together. There’s nothing like making friends and creating great relationships with a community that strives to get to the same place: unapologetic acceptance and freedom of who they are.

I had also just got out of a really unhealthy long-term relationship. Can we say fresh start, anyone? I remembered telling myself that if I didn’t go, I’d regret it immensely. What I was feeling as I grabbed the door handle to the meetup—heart pounding, mind racing, sweating, anxious, worried, nervous.

“What if I wasn’t good enough to join? What if I’m not kinky enough? What if I’m TOO kinky for their liking? What if everything I dreamed and fantasized about kink isn’t what reality is at all?”I almost turned around. But, I swallowed my inner gremlin and walked in. Looking back now, little did I know that decision I made to go coupled with the action to enter the scene set my life on a course that would transform my way of life for the better in every way.

I felt like I had found my chosen family. I always felt like the odd one out my entire life. Ever since that day I walked into the kink meetup, I’m finally living the life that I was meant to. The love, acceptance, and freedom I surrounded myself with trickled into my life, helping me thrive unapologetically and confidently as exactly me. I didn’t realize I had so much shame, cultural expectations, societal expectations, and stigma to shed. No wonder I couldn’t fly and thrive…I was weighed down underneath all those layers.

What does this mean for you? It means that you must go out and do your own thing. Do the things that make you happy, even if it’s not kink-related. Okay, if you need a little nudge: I give you full permission to go out and explore what makes you happy, kinky or not. Life is to short to hide behind what-if’s and maybe’s.

You want to know the best part about all of this? The transformation I felt from the permission I gave myself to explore kink and BDSM has positively affected other areas of my life, too: my career, my ability to communicate, and my romantic and platonic relationships to name a few. The joy I feel from the freedom and acceptance to show up exactly as I am thanks to BDSM has helped shape me to be the person I am today. People ask me all the time why I’m so passionate about helping people explore kink and BDSM. This is my way!!!!

Love to all. Peace and KINK to ALL!!

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	9:31 am Saturday, 30^th January, 2021 Littleladylove Morning , love your story 🌻💫⭐️☀️
	1:45 pm Sunday, 31^st January, 2021 jennr80 Love this! When I found the kink community I felt much the same! I haven’t been able to meet anyone in my area since my master passed away I have not been with anyone even just as friends that is in the life style. He passed a few years ago and I feel empty like something is missing and I think it’s the community that I was part of before. We shall see if I can find any one local enough lol
	12:43 am Monday, 1^st February, 2021 tonigur1 id much like to meet people of similar interests. im ready to toss off the layers that have been holding me back
	2:18 am Tuesday, 2^nd February, 2021 Lmat123 Love this thank you
	4:24 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 allyjack847 Thanks for this much sppre
	4:26 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 Daddisavage502 Where else can you find an abundance of gorgeous sluts begging to be punished and degraded like the filthy nasty sluts they truly are..........with their deep wet throats and tight wet holes begging to be pounded and had
	6:27 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 tac754jfezs I really like the way he shared. He's had a good experience. Maybe one day I will have an experience like that.
	6:29 pm Wednesday, 3^rd February, 2021 genevil813 hey
	12:05 am Thursday, 4^th February, 2021 steelernatio344 That sounded great and would like to be part if this community as well and have great friends who are like minded. Lou
	2:43 pm Sunday, 7^th February, 2021 zir294 Thank you i am going on my first meeting tomorrow night. I have a similar story. Ready to be my true self. So you have encouraged me to go forward. I will have to let you know how it goes.
	4:12 pm Thursday, 25^th February, 2021 lauraallem550 I want to go to meeting where do I find 1
	9:52 pm Saturday, 27^th March, 2021 NikkiwantsToBeUsed69 How do I find meeting's im a single mom looking for excitement
	7:58 pm Sunday, 25^th April, 2021 Sindeesmith Thank you for for your story , and thank you for choosing to help those that can't find , or are afraid to participate in our community . It is important that those that have a place in the community mentor those who might be lost or starting out.
	2:47 pm Monday, 10^th May, 2021 kaseylov172 👄🤞😈I’m very intrigued by you
	5:02 pm Tuesday, 25^th May, 2021 dul548 So where do I go? 😛
	11:31 pm Tuesday, 27^th July, 2021 transkittenstepha993 I am so jealous Dr hands ease show me the way.
	3:45 am Thursday, 29^th July, 2021 shyandsa222 This is all wonderful , and I'm not sure about the " munches " in my area , but the closest local play club was in Ohio I filled out the app and they said it was full and could not join , so disappointed again , not sure who or where to turn ...apologies for listening ...Rn
	7:51 pm Thursday, 29^th July, 2021 hic858 👍👍👍
	6:55 pm Friday, 6^th August, 2021 FEMDOMINANT 😘 I've "ALWAYS" been BossyControlling but even more so now. I'm able to express the Dominance in online Second Life game. In there, I'm able to meet Submissive men all around the world but most are Married. Hopefully, my avatar Amina Wetherby will connect with someone there within the BDSM community. Thanks for bringing such a story to the forefront.
	10:39 pm Saturday, 7^th August, 2021 petersone455Sarasota Help me I need new Owner
	12:36 am Friday, 20^th August, 2021 NewbieFireFreakz2 I would love to find like minded people hear in Champaign Illinois.
	7:15 am Sunday, 22^nd August, 2021 Valentinec736 Sweetie, our sexuality cannot DEFINE us, n'est ce pas? I am another one. My preferences are clear and founded but Im looking for a whole person. Kink, as you refer to it, is something I thought was original to me. I haven't had many men. Lots of women. From a very early age.. Im ridiculously sensitive and most men have been conditioned to gnaw, grind, bang and chew.. I could never tolerate this so.. Men don't like directions.. I am of the 'to the manor born' and of great genetics. I never had to ask for anything. It was served to me. I lust to be tied and made to beg. That would require a gentle but firm touch. I have a secret..
	10:43 pm Saturday, 28^th August, 2021 billbeauch711 thank you
	3:06 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 Amy2Spirit Beautifully said. My experience is similar. Thank you for sharing. You have helped many.
	8:37 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 msrachelmv621 I am curious but unsure of all of it. I do not want to be abused, as. A woman but I do enjoy Dirty talk, and mild rough sex. I understand my place with a Man, as a Woman and I love being a Woman, so much, i relish it! 💕
	9:27 pm Tuesday, 31^st August, 2021 Kinkybrat6018 I have just started that journey myself. I stayed in the car fighting an inner battle and like you I almost turned around and left. Too early for me to appreciate the results yet, but I am proud of myself for having had the courage to step out of my comfort zone and search fir my freedom and happiness.
	1:39 am Tuesday, 7^th September, 2021 Sexymissyflavine Nicely said, thank you for sharing your experience
	8:33 am Wednesday, 8^th September, 2021 howyours255 I need to do that, I hate the shyness or nerve aspect that's keeping people fearful of ridicule or rejection
	3:58 pm Thursday, 16^th September, 2021 mailasr256 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
	11:59 pm Saturday, 18^th September, 2021 mailasr256 🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈🙈
	7:43 am Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 Baymatt Great story about breaking out and finding self and special friends 😃
	8:01 am Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 mailasr256 👅👅👅👅👄👅👅👅👅👅👅
	3:58 pm Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 joelcochr998 Help me
	5:25 pm Saturday, 25^th September, 2021 mailasr256 👄👄👄👄👄👄👄👄👄👄👄👄
	12:02 pm Saturday, 9^th October, 2021 Angel21Sacramento Very well said . Love your passion for the lifestyle . I myself have never felt comfortable as a woman fo go alone to a lifestyle function . I have explored over the last decade . Its felt more normal to me then dating in a vanilla way . It does help you grow in other areas of your life I whole l heartedly agree . It opened up a whole new world for me. Thank you for sharing your passion . I wish it was easier to find partners in this lifestyle that matched up easier . Truly want the basis of what this lifestyle is . Really enjoyed reading what you wrote .
	7:49 am Tuesday, 12^th October, 2021 semiglos251 Oh I have to agree with all said. Itt's not easy being trans and trying to find like minded people. I'm not sure this is the place, but maybe it's a start.
	3:45 am Saturday, 23^rd October, 2021 cufa014 I'm a Tampa native, born literally in hospital that was eventually in shadow of the old Sombrero...miss how much more open minded and sexually adventurous people are there
	11:26 pm Thursday, 11^th November, 2021 chadtuc093FondDuLac Help me
	3:46 am Tuesday, 7^th December, 2021 jsol417 Interesting article! I never thought about doing with opening mind and growing from there!
	10:00 pm Friday, 10^th December, 2021 AmberAsh222 Where do I sign?
	6:25 pm Wednesday, 5^th January, 2022 cannon316 I'd love to get with you
	6:03 am Monday, 10^th January, 2022 rickskins203 Great advice cause this is new to me but have always had the urges ready to expand my sex life what is easiest way
	12:55 am Tuesday, 11^th January, 2022 rodneyreyno166 Would you show me how to be good slut
	12:55 am Tuesday, 11^th January, 2022 rodneyreyno166 😍
	3:15 pm Monday, 17^th January, 2022 sschoo028 Where can I find a kink meet up around prairieville, la
	7:38 pm Tuesday, 25^th January, 2022 JayneCastltn I myself, have thought long and hard about taking that first step and opening the door. The uncertainty of whether you're too vanilla is my worry. Thanks for the motivational perspective.

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