Ooh Good. You set the boundaries. Which are they?

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Open relationship establish boundaries that forbid emotional attachment, no exes, never see the same person twice, extramarital sex in the marital bed, extramarital sex with those known to both partners, or extramarital sex without the use of barrier contraception.

Couple usually started with very few boundaries and few more that devised along the way. There have been instances where something has felt uncomfortable, or times felt hurt, or adventurous so it's modified.

One shouldn't get mad at each other if something happens that feels uncomfortable as long as it’s not a violation of an existing boundary; learn from it, and make a new boundaries.

# 1:
This is primary relationship. Make a point not to spend too much time with secondary partners. Couples can, and sometimes do become friends with them, especially if they hang around for a couple years, but have to cut it off if it becomes more than that.

# 2:
Honesty. Always. But that's something Couple never really had to make an effort for.

# 3:
Establish who it’s cool to hook up with. Always get consent from the person who’s getting involved. And of course, let each other know when you will be seeing someone else.

# 4:
Don't date friends or anyone that you know—including anyone- friends with on known media. Once, your partner saw a profile of someone he ended up sleeping with known, and your playmate was absolutely stunning. That was hard for other partner because it couldn’t help but compare herself/himself to how one perceived other playmate online (most of which was just illusions filled in by your very own brain, of course). But have to got through it together. Just because that was the cause of hurting other, it didn’t mean one couldn’t wait to run into other's arms. Thus new rules encapsulated :-No sleeping with friends, no friending lovers.

# 5 Set Limit:
Is penetrative sex okay? Oral? Kissing? Are you allowed to explore things like BDSM that you don’t do with your partner? In the heat of the moment, things come up.

# 6: define how often you will check in.Two different lovers in one week is a little much, so try to avoid that.

#7:
ALWAYS use protection. Nobody wants infection.

You should discuss boundaries, but remember that boundaries are about your own body, mind, and time, not anyone else’s.

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