The 4 Lies That Could Be a Good Idea to Tell a Hookup
4:07 pm Tuesday, 2nd July, 2019
In short, it's none of their business. You're an adult, you have a past, and that past is for you to decide if you want to share. Whether you have slept with one person, a hundred or more, you should never feel you have to explain yourself to someone that you are only hooking up with, even if a relationship forms with that person. If the question is brought up, simply say, "I'm not comfortable talking about that. Why do you ask?" If they admit it's about safe sex, offer to provide them with your latest STI test. If they're trying to get to know your sexual history, then if they do not accept your response, then do you really want to continue things with that person?
No two people are the same. We all have our own needs and desires, so if the person you're chatting too, has a kink that you aren't into then that is completely normal. You do not need to express your disinterest in their desires, instead, find a kink you are both into or take the time to understand their needs and then decide if they cross your boundaries.
Yes, your ex may have fucked your best friend when you were out of town, but that is not information a potential playmate needs to know. All respect for your ex may be lost, but you need to keep your head high and have respect for yourself, so no bitching about them, the past is the past. You have a chance for a new start, new sexual adventures, so don't start things off on a negative note. If the conversation of why your last relationship ended, all that needs to be said is "We weren't right for each other, we had different needs"
You're on a hookup site, chances are, you're speaking to other people, and so are they. If you have a kinky connection, then things will progress naturally whether you are talking to others or not. You can't expect the first person you message to be the one who is going to make all your fantasies a reality, it takes time. Focus on each individual person, get to know them and don't threat about how many people you are messaging, it's all part of the process.
Do you believe that honesty is always the best policy or a little lie won't hurt? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
Being honest is the best policy...except when it isn't.
Lying is bad, obvs. But on a few occasions, the truth just gets you into unnecessary trouble. Here are a few harmless occasions in which we think it's perfectly fine to fudge the truth to a potential hookup.
Don't worry, it'll be our little secret.
How many people you have slept with
In short, it's none of their business. You're an adult, you have a past, and that past is for you to decide if you want to share. Whether you have slept with one person, a hundred or more, you should never feel you have to explain yourself to someone that you are only hooking up with, even if a relationship forms with that person. If the question is brought up, simply say, "I'm not comfortable talking about that. Why do you ask?" If they admit it's about safe sex, offer to provide them with your latest STI test. If they're trying to get to know your sexual history, then if they do not accept your response, then do you really want to continue things with that person?
Your feelings about their kinks
No two people are the same. We all have our own needs and desires, so if the person you're chatting too, has a kink that you aren't into then that is completely normal. You do not need to express your disinterest in their desires, instead, find a kink you are both into or take the time to understand their needs and then decide if they cross your boundaries.
How shit your previous partner was to you
Yes, your ex may have fucked your best friend when you were out of town, but that is not information a potential playmate needs to know. All respect for your ex may be lost, but you need to keep your head high and have respect for yourself, so no bitching about them, the past is the past. You have a chance for a new start, new sexual adventures, so don't start things off on a negative note. If the conversation of why your last relationship ended, all that needs to be said is "We weren't right for each other, we had different needs"
That you are talking to other people
You're on a hookup site, chances are, you're speaking to other people, and so are they. If you have a kinky connection, then things will progress naturally whether you are talking to others or not. You can't expect the first person you message to be the one who is going to make all your fantasies a reality, it takes time. Focus on each individual person, get to know them and don't threat about how many people you are messaging, it's all part of the process.
Do you believe that honesty is always the best policy or a little lie won't hurt? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.
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