Load-Blowing Delays - 5 Things that Might Help You Enjoy That Quickie

12:27 pm Tuesday, 3^rd May, 2016

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Men and women both struggle with experiencing orgasm when they want to. Most often, women worry that they take too long. Men, on the other hand, worry that they come too quickly and would like to last longer in bed. However, a small percentage of men - an average of 8% (estimates vary) which still ends up being millions of men in the US alone - find that it takes them far longer to ejaculate than they would like, as in 45 minutes or longer (an experience sometimes referred to as “delayed ejaculation”).


For many couples it is a source of pleasure, not a problem, because it allows prolonged boning sessions and happily say goodbye to the bite-size big ‘O’ that is the quickie. However, in some cases there is an expectation for men to reach the finish line every time they have sex, resulting in males feeling exhausted and embarrassed, and women mistakenly feeling undesirable and unskilled in the bedroom.

The truth is that there is no reason to feel that way. There is nothing defective with these men and they have no issues attaining or maintaining an erection. It’s just one of those things.

By understanding delayed ejaculation and by communicating with your bedmate, you can overcome these insecurities, leading to better sex for both of you.

What’s the Cause

A combination of technique and attitude issues can lead to delayed ejaculation. For instance, many men learn how to perform sex by masturbating. When they bring themselves to orgasm, they may agitate with their hands far more quickly than two people can ever have sex. Thus when they start making love, the sensations seem under-stimulating.


If he is not feeling a lot of sensation during sex, he may find it hard to reach orgasm. People experience pleasure in different intensities, and he might be at the lower end of the spectrum.

Sensation Temptation

You can each make an effort to engage more of your senses when you’re getting down with each other. You can add more stimulation to your sex life by talking dirty to each other, watching yourselves in a mirror, using lubricants, lighting aromatherapy candles, listening to sexy music, using a vibrating cock ring, or watching pornography.

Paradise Passage

One of the most effective ways to get men to orgasm faster is to incorporate a little anal play into your sex sessions. Although the anus is still taboo, it’s a huge source of pleasure. Often just pressing a finger against a man’s anus can help him ejaculate much quicker. You’ll have to discuss your comfort levels with each other, but knowing how effective anal stimulation can be might motivate you to give it a try!

Hooray for Play

Sometimes guys need foreplay too! It’s possible that your guy needs more stimulation before the two of you move on to a full dose of penetration. If you don’t typically engage in a lot of foreplay before sex, try giving him a hand job or blow job, then start having sex after he says he’s ready. Most men these days feel a tremendous amount of pressure to ‘perform’ in the bedroom. He might be focussing so hard on being a good lover that he is not paying enough attention to his won pleasure.

Inspired Desires

There are a lot of people out there having sex that really doesn’t do it for them - make sure you are not one of them. You might be interested in exploring fantasies or power dynamics, you might want to be stimulated in a different way, or you might simply want to change up your epertoire of sex positions.


All the above might set you off like a cannon, but if not, why not take pride in your super lasting power. Remember, most things are a marathon, not a sprint, so have fun with it! ;-)

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