Dirty Talk - 5 Tips to Get Your Tongue Wagging Like a Pro

1:32 pm Wednesday, 13^th January, 2016

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When we’re getting sexy, we’re all about taking the seduction and anticipation up a few notches, and talking dirty can be a route to whole new level of excitement.



Dirty talk can get both of you hotter than ever, but it can also lead to confusion, missed signals, and awkwardness— meaning we have to tread carefully. When it comes to talking dirty, you’re really addressing one thing: how much can you get away with?



Most people err on the side of caution, possibly leading to boring, platonic, sanitised conversations destined never to lead to an orgasm—or even an elevated heart rate. On the other hand, some people are so brazen, they turn off the majority of people they’re trying to turn on. The secret is to push the boundaries of what you can get away with without crossing them…by too much.



The foundation for good (and fun) dirty talk is the same as other components of a healthy sexual relationship—good communication with your partner up front about what you like.

1. Word choice matters.

Talking about Dirty Sanchezing her bearded clam or using red flag words is a bit of a no-no. Word choice matters. Don’t be unnecessarily clinical or explicit; nothing is going to make a guy softer (or a girl drier) than talking about volumetric blood flow to the genital region. Do be descriptive. Details make stories come to life, and essentially, talking dirty is all about details.

2. Timing is everything.

Like with anything, when and how you do it matters. Do be humorous, but strike a balance. If you’re too serious, it’s creepy. If you’re too funny, you’re a clown. Don’t incorporate dirty talk too early—such as to a total stranger or someone who hasn’t given you signs that he or she is open to it. Subtlety, word play and cleverness go a long way. But don’t force it. You should talk dirty because you’re in the mood and feeling it—not because someone told you to do it. It has to have soul behind it. While you are at it, be aware of the other person’s response to your dirty talk. If the person you’re with gives you a red light, respect it.

3. Repetition is also a good trick.

If you are in the heat of passion and land upon a phrase that turns them on, simply repeating it can give it a great sexual intensity. Even something as simple as “Don’t stop! Don’t stop! Don’t stop!” can make you sound crazy for them.

4. Make the talk all about him/her.

Talk about how he tastes, how she’s the perfect dirty girl—be specific. Don’t freak out if your partner tries dirty talk without the pre-conversation and you don’t like it—just talk about it, regroup and get it on.

5. Explore.

Learn some new dirty words —erotic fiction is a pretty good place to find new words to add to sexy times; porn videos tend to be a bit short on good or realistic dialogue.

Now get those tongues wagging!

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