....Sex and love....
Sex has taken a long-lived breath in Indian and worldly context, the most desired subject, one could call it.
Religions are not done unless they talk about sex; politics is not favored if it does not include sex and its symbols; social leaders and moralists cannot complete preaching without having said a word about sex. Negative or positive but sex has taken most of the ink in this world to rewrite the same again and again. May be in different forms and approaches, may be in different words and languages, and may be in different eras and epochs.
Why not? We are a product of sex, we are here because somewhere someone had done sex to create us or merely we are by-product of the act done by two people.
What always amazes is not the appeal that sex has and will be, but the way we have treated sex in our lives.
Two people come together and they fall deep in their subjective reality, travel the distance of each other’s personality; sometimes it does not happen, two people just come together and cannot face the reality of each other and merge in each other’s physical boundaries, this is what sex means.
Sex is an act which two people do merely to forget each other, when there is no room left to remember each other, this is when sex happens; sex is the disconnection of each other’s reality or as in hallucination, whenever it is done, it happens because something has been forgotten.
Love is the remembrance of each other, while sex happens when one loses the grip on other or lets the other to tighten the grip.
Just go deep in your reality of sex if you had an experience of it or just remember whenever you enter in sex, it happens when we have lost control on us, when there is no control, this is when the act is done. It does not happen if one remembers what one is.
Sex is the subject of dilution of oneself.
One would call it meditation, one would call it madness, one would call it passion, and whatever words one can put in about sex, but it will be always- all about forgetting what one is.
Sex is the forgetness of our own world.
Sex never happens when one is in love, in fact love happens before sex or after sex, just go back in your mind and try to remember the time you had sex and that before or after sex can you love your partner, at the time of sex no two person love each other. We are simply animals at the time of sex, usually prejudiced about our own behavior while having sex.
Sex is the extreme of two lovers, when they cannot control each other, fall in the physical realities of each other, adjusting to each moment of that great ecstasy, with no self-control left then one loses oneself at the hands of sex.
Sex is the fusion of two aspects of our existence where one dives each and every moment of our lives.
One aspect of it is survival and supremacy, and the other is experiencing and ecstasy. Sex falls in the category of survival and supremacy.
It is not easy to be in love, it is not something that any education institute could provide you with a degree; it is not any news item that you can read and understand, it is the approach and experience to live in it, to be filled with it.
Love is the measure where one stays in the ecstasy of another and it is not what the universities taught us. We have been taught to live in the ego of our own pride and love says to live, to be proud of another who stays in front of you, you may have no relation with him or her but one feels the ecstasy and joy of it. We are not trained and we do not want to be trained to fill ourselves with joy. This is unfortunate but this is what truth is.
You could see thousands of examples near around you; people have birthday parties to enjoy their birth and they are drunk.
People have parties to enjoy their marriage anniversaries, they are drunk with others. Each and every act of enjoyment is filled with alcohol and mind-altering techniques and uses. Why? Because we cannot keep joy clutched in our fists for long and so resort to these methods to slow down or to control oneself.
To retain the ecstasy of our happiness these days we need so many things from drinking to smoking. Love is the extreme of any kind of happiness and when we cannot control the ecstasy of our own existence anymore, this is when sex appeals.
One can argue but what about ra..? What about molestation?
Yes, for sure, it is not sex; it is simply the perversion of our own attitude. In love; we appreciate the existence of someone else and go for sex and in ra..; we dishonor the existence of someone else that we cannot accept.
There are those who see the beauty of flower and let it for everyone, for others who can also enjoy it and there are those few who see the beauty of the flower and pluck it to have it in their hands.
In love; one gains the surrender of sex and in rap.; one insults the honor of sex.
Sex is the extreme of our approach after that nothing is left. We are created by sex and at last we lose ourselves in sex. Still there is another way where one can live in sex and this is the pure joy of being in it but that only happens when we do not surpass it as a process, but when we live in it.
One can ask then what about those who just meet each other to have sex? if sex happens after love? Sex has nothing to do with love; being in love does not create sex partner, in reality we have sex partner because we are not in love. Sex is the disappearance of love. Whenever the act of sex is performed, it shows that there was no love for that time instant. It could be a short time when it happens between very close lovers whose time-lapse is very short for love to disappear between them or it happens between those who never love each other but just go in sex to have the instincts work.
Love is the beauty of universal existence, which corresponds to the idea of being. Sex is the correspondence of selfishness in which we live and one way or the other, one has to live with the choice of fusing together.
Sonty24
