MY MISTRES****OMMANDS
This is for new dominants. Secrets. Shhhh… no telling.
So you’re a new dominant and you’ve met a submissive someone who you really like and click with and you’re heading into your very first ever play session.
You’re probably frightened (it’s okay, I won’t tell). Nerves are normal: taking something that has lived in your head as a fantasy out into the real world with an honest-to-god real submissive partner is scary as hell. Trying to hang onto a ‘dominant headspace’, all confident and sure of yourself, can be really hard when the voice in your head is all fear and doubt.
When I was a baby despotic and didn’t have a clue what I was doing. I really wanted someone to just tell me how to do it right’ and what I got instead was ‘you’re the dominant, you get to do what you want’ which was rage making and not at all useful.
So here goes:
