Been thinking about why other people venture into the swinging scene. I swing because mutual sexual pleasure is a hobby :-) I think some couples try swinging because one or both of them have misplaced their mojo and they hope that swinging will help them find it again. In many cases this works, it just kick starts things again and hey presto the mojo is back. Sometimes just looking and talking to other swingers also works. I think that where its a case of one partner losing the mojo swinging probably won't work and that the reason for the loss of mojo needs to be found and a solution found before one of them starts looking elsewhere with or without the partners knowledge! I've come across good reasons why people lose their mojo and both partners have discussed the situation and have agreed that the "oversexed" partner is given a license to satisfy the cravings! This can create an "awkward" situation in the relationship though and needs to be monitored and discussed regularly (its good to talk.)I've known couples that eventually split because of this arrangement. Of course swinging is a good place for singles to get some action! Feedback welcome.
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3:56 pm Thursday, 7th June, 2012
Having read this I think I have got a hiding mojo. Being rejected after 24ys has really given my self esteem a rather large blow that I am struggling to come to terms with. That and the crippling shyness of not having been on anything like this before is also a very difficult proposition especially with how my emotions are all over the place and I struggle to communicate through a fear of failure brought about by years of feelings of low self worth brought about by a cold hearted woman who would never show any emotion (that was always done by me). Even the simple three words "I love you" were always one way from me and very very rarely reciprocated. No matter what I did it was wrong and since that was a constant thing my downward spiral continued and so here I sit wondering about the future for the first time in 24 yrs, about whether I can make it on my own. As for swinging, I wouldn't even know where to start ha ha I feel like I have been in a box for a long time. Maybe one day soon my eyes will be opened and life will be good once more. I live in hope. |
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5:24 pm Thursday, 7th June, 2012
Well you got me thinking and I started my own Blog too. I thought that maybe I could use it as a sort of self help thing. A place to put down my feelings etc if anything maybe it will stop me going bonkers ha ha |
