my sexual fantasy with couples

10:03 pm Wednesday, 30^th January, 2019

hercules2318

undefinedSometimes right from the hatching of a threesome (think chatting online), it’s obvious that one person is doing the emotional labour of threesome strategizing. While it’s great that someone in the group takes initiative for the ‘social lubing’ of the situation, the connection can feel unbalanced in a budding threesome. It’s easy to forget that as we pursue a sexual fantasy, that the fantasy itself isn’t the only socket we can plug into for seduction and pleasure.

My worst threesomes have been where it’s obvious one person isn’t into the scenario, but wants to fulfill their partner’s fantasy. Their focus often ends up being on performing for their partner and the tension is obvious around unspoken boundaries, insecurities or jealousy. This can create an awkwardness around sensuality and affection and may end up making the Unicorn feel like just an extra vulva for the night.

My best first date with a couple felt like they both flirted with me as individuals *and* as a couple. I could see their connection and affection for each other, and for me. They both asked me engaging questions and flirted with me using eye contact, touch and humour. I felt they were both on board equally for themselves to play with me, and also to enjoy the pleasure of watching each other with me.

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