Threesome advice: Do’s and Don’ts

Threesome advice: Do’s and Don’ts

1. Figure out if you’re ready. If you have a partner, bear in mind the sort of person who survives this has a high trust level. When it goes right, it’s with people who aren’t madly in love, casually having fun, interested in exploring. Singles who sleep with couples or people they’re not going to see again fare really well in threesomes.

2. Never, ever do it with a friend. Answer an ad – that’s a far more honest way to do it. Then you don’t have that jealousy. Or take yourself off to a swingers’ club. Everyone knows what they are there for.

3. If you’re not entirely sure of what you’re doing, another option is to pair off and watch while they get up to something, then they watch while two of you get up to something.

4. Be very specific about what’s allowed and what’s not. Most of the time when it goes wrong it’s because people don’t talk it through. Noses are put out of joint because one person gets into it a bit too much, or women are astonished the boyfriend is kissing the guy.

5. If you see your partner looking anxious, even if you’re about to have the best orgasm in the world, you need to stop and think: ‘This is going to last about 30 seconds and the repercussions are going to last the whole of my life’.

6. Load on the reassurances: any sexual compliments need to be paid to your partner not to the other person, though you need to be polite! You need to say to your partner: ‘You look sexy’.

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