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Thoughts of you at 3 am...

1:34 pm Wednesday, 14th November, 2018

Imagine waking every day thinking of someone so intensely that you cannot help but text or call them immediately.  You hesitate.  Are you being too fast at the draw or just showing how excited you are to have met them? 

We all go through this thought of the person we have just met on line or in person for the first time.  There is no right or wrong answer.  It depends on the people involved and what each is looking for in that moment. In general patience is better but to be honest, as a Dominant, I want my submissive to be impulsive.  I want the excitement of wanting and needy in their character.  At times it may be bothersome, so what, over time you can control this creative nature through rules and obedience training. Edge training can also work with these types of 'thoughts of you'. The compliment of someone being excited about you at 3 am is far more valuable in training a submissive than your sleep. The punishment possibilities are endless the next day.  Developing a strategy can be the negotiating process that must exist between any relationship between D/s. Too often Dominants forget there is a negotiating process that must be in place otherwise they will look elsewhere. Many young Dominants I worked with at a community Munch found that they went through Sub after Sub before they realized that the late night input of the sub was essential to their personal pleasure the next day.  

A Dominant who is not thinking of his submissive all day and ways of enjoying her should consider why he is still with her?  If you think vanilla life is that far from D/s watch old shows like Ozzie and Happy Days and you might change your mind.  The pretense of submission is sprinkled throughout the 50's and 60's literature and movies to ensure we still have it today.  Thinking of you dreams of submission should be encouraged with the habits that follow. Even if that means a Dominant looses a bit of sleep or gets messages all day long.  Design a strategy for dealing with it and work the plan for her and she will appreciate the structure.

I had a thought of you...



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