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Thoughts of history in BDSM

2:53 pm Friday, 9th November, 2018

I am Dominant. No kidding. I do switch in a relationship as it takes trust and time for that situation to be realized. Being Dominant does not mean beating or cruelty in itself. At times, in here and other places, it seems a few confuse domination with the pure state of SM. That is not my thing personally and I question whether if it truly is anyone's thing sensually! The mental games we play for arousal in BD or SM are the same as in vanilla life. The difference between us and them, we are honest about are roles and where we stand on the issues of sexuality and sensuality. Vanilla pretend and posture. Hey, I did that too, most of you did as well.  Don't get me wrong, the history of BDSM joined at the hip confuses most people. Some of us remember the magazines and ads that were the only way to get in contact with each other (beside Munch etc).  Even then there the boundary was grey.

I don't gather at bars or homes anymore as that social gathering became politically weird.  That is my preference but if you are new, then honestly it is the best first experience for most.  So, I came back here to be who I am, a male dominant with a female.  A Dominant should be passionate, caring, loving, and most of all engaged with the exploration of a woman's pleasure sensors. Historically he/she wants and needs to tease and stroke every possible nerve that may make a woman/man have pleasure to point that they submit to a dominants needs and wants. That is the premise of what we are as dominants. If I missed the point then maybe I can go back to some vanilla dating site. NOT!  The history of each dominant is unique as with each sub.  The psychology and interaction is special and as varied as we are people. Each team must discover how it works for them.  There is no pattern or set of rules written in a manual.  Those who write the manuals are NUTS. A relationship in BDSM is the same as in vanilla.  It takes time, trust, sharing and a thousand interactions just like real life!  Duh, it is real when you give control of your body to another human being.  I am assuming the Dominant is human. Some are not, be careful.

Whether it be medical, latex, or whipped cream, a dominant's purpose is to achieve their pleasure through the edged denial, control, discipline and various other methodology to gain your submission. This process can be stretched and warped in various directions to over stimulation or complete denial, but it still comes back to the same pretense complete submissive control of you over time. That only occurs with your trust that I will not HURT you in the end, but rather satisfy a sensual desire, want or need you have for the Dominant to be in your life.

Hope this helps anyone new or old in the game. I hope to post more when I have time away from my horses.

Gordon.




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10:15 pm Saturday, 10th November, 2018

Very in lightening, interesting and intreeging. Exactly what I expected from a true dominant.

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