Being a member of a swinging site, has its ups and downs for all of us. Some...may have been more successful than others in terms of meeting the right playmates. For those who were not very lucky, they may have even doubted the authenticity or genuineness of the people they've chatted or interacted with in the site. This skepticism is what drives some people from totally leaving the site, thus, missing out on the wonders the lifestyle has to offer.
Instead of doubting every member you come across with,.....Have you ever thought that the problem lies with you? Do you have the ingredients people are looking for in a playmate? I may not be an expert on the subject, but with your kind indulgence, I will share with you some of the traits that, we as a couple, look for in prospective playmates in the form of “famous quotes” that we like:
Thomas Jefferson once said that, “Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom”. One might argue that in this incognito lifestyle, we can't divulge all the personal information about us for security reasons. I totally agree with that! But honesty is not limited to just that. A simple truth on your marital status or a little information about your personal circumstance would go a long way in terms of goodwill. If you can't even be honest with little things like that, how do you expect other members to trust you, right?
Another, is a sound advice from Charles Spurgeon, which goes like this, “Sincerity makes the very least person to be of more value than the most talented hypocrite”. The problem with social media sites is that we sometimes project ourselves to be somebody we are not. In the same manner, some of us, may have been guilty of trying to put ourselves on a high pedestal to the point of flaunting our wealth or looks just to be noticed by others. The above quote clearly suggests, that with sincerity, we are more likely to be attractive in the eyes of other people despite our modest social stature, than poseurs in our midst.
With the initial two traits abovementioned, your foot is already in the door, so to speak. Of course the next logical step for anyone is to have a face to face conversation or meet up. This is where it becomes tricky. It is here where your actuations, communication skills/wit or lack thereof comes into play that would either make or break your chances of a successful and meaningful encounter. The renowned Philosopher, Rene Descartes, had this to say,: “It is not enough to have a good mind, the main thing is to use it well”. All of us have the God given gift of intelligence. It doesn't mean that just because a person is eloquent or has command of the english language, that he is better than you. Being witty doesn't mean that you are the most intelligent, but rather, that you get the message across. You might ask, how do I do this? By mixing up charisma and humor and sound knowledge on the subject, even the simplest person among us can beat the most loquacious speaker out there.
Once you've accomplished this, the likelihood of being invited to a more intimate setting is on your side. For this stage, Joyce Meyer's advice is, “Integrity means that you are the same in public as you are in private”. We all hate being stood up or be kept waiting by someone who made an appointment with us, correct? Integrity means keeping your word. If you agreed to meet with someone on a specified time and date, make sure to be there and on time. This holds true most especially to the initiator, since you are the one, wanting to interact with singles or couples of your desire.
The final ingredient according to Lucius Annaeus Seneca, “Luck is a matter of preparation meeting opportunity”. We should hope that luck is on our side. That the person/s we are communicating with are in the same page as us. That we have the same wavelength and that our desires, wants and needs jibe, otherwise, we have just wasted our time. One positive aspect of the swinging lifestyle and this site is that, we can start anew!
Happy swinging everyone!
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9:16 am Thursday, 12th July, 2018
Very well said, as always on point you nailed it. |
