THE ART OF SWAPPING !

Stepping out of our boundaries, has alwas been something that we have been proud of, be it in the world of sex, sport, parenting et al !!! Looking to approach everything we come across, in an out of the box way. We are proud of what we are becoming. We are proud of kicking societies oppresive behavioural practices and expectations on the butt, finding contentment with what we are achiving with every boundary broken. Lesser phobias and greater selfconfidence has been the result.
We have both been swinging when the opportunity arose, as we travelled in India and the world over, sometimes alone, most times together. We have learnt, that it is not necessary for someone who chats, laughs, drinks and eats with you to also sleep with you. That is the cardinal rule of swinging. It is not a sin to swing, it is beautiful and as another blog mentions, humans are not meant to be monogamous and multiple partners is a normal thing. It is prudent to practice safe sex at all times. That is another rule.In a trio or more, always remember that you must respect the core, i.e. the couple. That doesn't mean that you should be disrespected. Just remember, you are lesser of the equals, unless the couple wants you to dominate them.Never be in a hurry to talk about the flesh and this style of living, explore conversational boundaries, travel, hobbies, sports, politics, economy, humour and local gossip around you.Easy, nice and slow, enjoy the conversation over drink and meal, be attentive to the man or lady in your conversation, never ignoring any one for a long period. You may prefer facing one person, but shift focus to all the others every once is a few minutes. Leaving out or ignoring anyones presence is a put-off and also insulting if I may add. Even your servant needs this attention.Being shy is fine, but expecting someone to overcome your shyness, deserves an Oscar !!!! You are swapping because you want the experience, to explore, the excitement, et al. Where does shyness fit in ?My wife and I believe that swapping is not about sex but about experience, about pleasure about titillation and yet ones right to privacy. We never go with pre conceived ideas, never with this is what we want or this is what we need. We see so many posts, putting so many conditions, as gory as some of the matrimonial posts one sees on a site. Fat may not be pleasing to the eye, but fat people are know to be pleasers, because the lack vanity, so don't shoo them away, you are missing out big time. Pictures are great, but what are we achieving. We believe pictures are our private property, we will share it with whom we want but not publicly for nutcases to comment, vulgar or otherwise. I respect and love my spouse and she, me. When we do message and proceed to meet another prospective swinger, we meet in person and it goes back to the social skills mentioned above. What does one achieve, with verifications, because we ultimately meet and then decide !!!!! Isn't all this verification, taking things over board ? Many say, it is just to make sure we don't know you !!!!! hahahaha...........and if you do know us, next what ? We know you and you know us, so !!!!!! We would love to know a good friend or families like us, in this lifestyle, we choose to proceed or not further, that's where it ends.Why keep pseudo names after meeting and sleeping ? We can't imagine the disappointment in our friends when they find that that we have become good friends, they know everything about us, but they don't know our real names. We don't believe in disappointing our friends.Trust and truth between partners is paramount ! Appreciate the enjoyment and fun your partner has and never let jealousy creep in to your relationship! This lifestyle is not about an ego trip, it is about your way of life. It is not for you, if you seek it to elevate your boredom from having the same partner, multiple partners out of boredom, spells disaster. Love your partner, to share them.Like every walk in life, you will meet a few fakes or crooks, but remember, for every one, you will probably meet fifty genuine folks. So stay alert, but be bold and go forth and have fun.

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