I am sitting here at home looking at my wife whom I adore and just wondering is what I am doing wrong? I am not a bad guy and if she was into the lifestyle I would love for her to join however she is not so I am compelled to be secretive. I told her I was orally bi and that if she was comfortable I would not be opposed to her coming along but that went like a lead balloon. I need to be able to share but if she is not ready then I guess it is a journey I will continue alone for now.