Once a first impression has been made, it's a done deal. It will stick, and it will take a whole lot to undo that first impression. So why am I writing this, you might ask?
Let me elaborate a bit more. On a site like this, your profile is your first impression. So when we look at it, we really look at it! Analyse it, and from there we will decide if your profile is worth a second glance from us or not.
So please take note.
1. Personal Details - When your personal details are not completely filled out, we don't bother because this means, either you are not really interested or not willing to put in the effort into filling out your profile, so why should we even bother getting to know you? Or are you not comfortable enough with yourself to honestly disclose that kind of information? Guess what, we are. What is the point of trying to hide something if you are really into this? Because it will always come out in the end. All that you are achieving with this is to increase the chances that you and the other party put effort into the whole thing only to look at you at the meet and go well, no thank you, you are not what I'm/we are looking for. Either way, you not filling out your profile completely is not helping you in any way.
2. Your introduction statement - Wow, write something interesting, if we can put in the effort, so can you. I'm so bored looking at the profiles on here. I think that I only came across 3 profiles where I was wow, I think I could see myself meeting them. These two line statements, what a bore. This is an adult site, do not just write that you want to bone someone else's wife, that's pretty much why we are all on this site to begin with. Excite us, write something on there that gives us a feel of who you are. You do not need to disclose your identity, but heck, show us that you are a real person behind that profile.
3. First Contact - Call me old-fashioned, but I still believe in written etiquette. Don't just go "Hey". Hey what? What am I supposed to do with a hey!? Get excited? See me jumping up and down running to my partner going, can you believe it, We got a "Hey". No... That is not how it goes. Instead, I open the message, look at it and read "Hey". That's it. I will feel nothing, I will look at it and be wow, once again no effort from this person, go out of the message and never think of it again. So please, make a mental note of this, when you write someone, put some extra time into your message, think about what you want to write, tell us something about yourself and bring something to the table so that we have something to respond on. And then we will. It is really not that hard. Grammar and spelling, guess what, it counts. I'm not a linguist, but I do try to get my sentence structure right. On a second note, If you write us in a different language, and we respond in English, do not continue writing in that language. It's weird. We might be able to understand your message and answer, but there is a reason why we respond in English and it will most definitely be because we are not good at that language. So to improve communication, just write in English.
If you have made it this far through my rant, awesome. I really do hope that you will take my advice to heart.
P.S. If someone wrote something on their profile, they wrote it for a reason, do not go ahead and ignore it, you will just be wasting your own time.
P.S.S. Adding a picture or two can only help.
Take care and happy humping 😀
2:55 pm Friday, 21st September, 2018
Onduri
Hello let’s meet for an deal...discreetly, open minded & trustful... |
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8:43 am Friday, 26th October, 2018
guywindhoek
Good morning let's meet this weekend for an drink at Oktoberfest! |