Moving Up to Level Three...Some

(Gosh I've missed writing for you all!) 

Over time, some of my male friends from the site would break the news to me that they finally encountered their first ever mmf threesome. Mind you, these are not the shy types --- they take all when they play solo, but just had no idea how to make the most of a thirdy arrangement. 

You will always find couples here who will look to pop their threeway cherry and are on the lookout for hard, hungry, but respectable men. 

Maybe you can take some advice from someone who was once hesitant when it comes to joining couples. Well, technically, couples are still not my priority because I like the intensity and focus of one-on-ones. 

My first couple experience took place with a pair from the UK. Very experienced swingers who were laid back but accommodating. They understand the awkwardness of having to undress for two people, a situation where you get momentarily anxious if they find you attractive or not. 

A good starting point for you bull wannabe's is to play with people who have had enough experience under their belt. They possess enough emotional intelligence to make you feel included in the fun as well as capable of communicating clear expectations from you. 

I always think it's important to be able to communicate with both, to see if they are both interested. Often, one partner may be more invested in making an encounter happen. There is a risk that it's not going to be so much fun when one partner loses interest or falls into a bad mood. Again...listen to the voices of their experience. 

A confident husband will have no problems having the wife talk to a prospective bull, especially if it's her pleasure that's the main reason. But by no means, do not seek to talk with the wife solo. Even if you know you could not have said something wrong, it can be misconstrued. And people with LESS experience need MORE time communicating. Some people like to have casual chats on the side in order to remain connected. Avoid the chatty ones. Less talk,  more action. Lol

And there are a myriad reasons for different arrangements: a hypersexual wife, a husband who wants to take the backseat in bed (could be performance related or not),  a fantasy involving a role play (thirdy plays hostage taker),  or the more interesting situation where the husband is bi-curious and wife is into seeing some of that action. Okay...this might be scaring you. 

Don't leave any stone unturned when you are at the stage of discovering expectations whether it's favorite positions, conditions, and need for protection. Don't hesitate to say what's on your mind as well, or else be prepared for surprises. 

I had a friend tell me how the husband had his face so close to his c.ock just watching him thrust. 

Another guy felt bad after the husband walked away annoyed at himself for losing the moment. It was awkward to be feel left alone with the wife. I mean, he could be selfish, but he wasn't one to take advantage of that situation. 

Another guy spent too much time with the getting-to-know-you stage. Looong conversation. He had 3 beers, then had coffee after they played, which went okay. He ended up having palpitations. Oh my... 

Another guy, sadly, lost his mood when he found out from the wife when they had a moment alone, that it was really the husband's idea and she just wanted to please him. That's a 9-inch tool that lost its cool. 

Sometimes you can't avoid that you feel like you are doing a 'job'.  Yes, the obligation to perform is there. As a thirdy, you'll find it unlikely that the husband is going to finish up for you. Go in there and prove yourself! This is a good chance that you'll get laid more because of the recommendations and not just reviews. 

Now don't be too cocky thinking that your equipment is all you need for the deed. Please remember that when couples are looking for a thirdy there is some expectation that the guy is physically at a better advantage than the spouse, whether it's age, build, or stamina. Do not flaunt. Be the humble guy that will not cause anyone to think you are acting like the king of the jungle. 

And sadly a-hole spouses do exist. They can be bossy and demanding. But if they are offering their wives to you to please, just be the better man and let the other guy think he's the alpha. Make the lady happy. 

Even if fantasies reach no limit, remember that no matter how inclusive they make you feel, you are still the outsider. Yet, with communication, chemistry and compatibility, you can be treated like their guest of honor. 

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