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Benefits and downsides of anonymity

6:30 am Thursday, 1st February, 2018

The advent of technology, internet in particular, has really connected people from all over the world and has made communication a lot faster, not to mention cheaper. Depending on the type of connection we desire, be it social media or swinging sites, communication has never been this easy for matured and young folks alike. But what is the difference between these two types of pages?

Various social media sites were created with the intention of connecting peoples of different cultures from all walks of life to interact with each other thru image postings, status updates, messages and chats. Swinging pages on the otherhand, have the same concept but with an added allure of possible sexual encounters, sometimes...even romance!

What differentiates these two sites however, is that those who utilize social media pages use their real identifications whether as an individual, couple, entity, or trade name but on very rare occasions, aliases are also used. Swinging groups on the otherhand, by its intention, basically use aliases, handles and profile names to protect the real identity of the members of these groups because of the sexual nature/overtone of the sites.

Now unlike social media, the assurance of anonymity is where the dilemma lies in distinguishing real people from posers in the swinging scene. Of course, legitimate members or swingers would want to keep their anonymity intact since the activities practiced in this lifestyle are not the norms of society. To these people, as productive members of society, remaining incognito is the only way to protect one's family and social stature or reputation from the prying eyes of bigots or conservatives at the very least. The fact remains however that the very nature of the incognito lifestyle is what makes legit members susceptible to pranksters. For no matter how prudent or careful we are in selecting prospective playmates, there will always be posers lurking in our midst who are just out to waste our time, or try to embarrass us thru any means of misrepresention or deception. To these types of people, everything is but a sick joke! For what will you get from asking someone to get all dressed up for a meet and greet then you don't show up? In all likelihood, the malefactor is just watching you from a distance and is grinning from ear to ear on the prank he just pulled off. Others would go the extra length of agreeing to a hotel room meet, then is nowhere in sight.

These kind of experiences put a dark cloud over the hopeful real swingers for they have to exert extra effort to prove the legitimacy of the person they wish to connect with. For the guidance of everyone, one way of checking out the authenticity of a prospect is by asking leading questions to satisfy your curiosity. Posers are not really smart people you know...... so by going back again to previously tackled subjects in chat exchanges, they will always slip in their answers and offer information that contradict their premise. Of course, each individual has his unique way on how to go about this so choose a method that would suit your inquisitive nature. Once you are satisfied with your queries, photo exchange is in order. Some would argue that a rogue person would use another's photo and pass it out as his own. The only remedy to this scenario is an actual face to face coffee meet. The one stupid enough to employ such tricks would definitely not show up. For sure, you don't consider wasting your money on coffee right?, you time....maybe? Another way of checking is by reading reviews by other members. This only applies to those with successful hook up. The new members must simply rely on their instincts or gut feeling in gauging potential playmates.

There is no foolproof way of identifying a real person from a poser, but simple lies like misrepresenting himself/herself as single when actually not, or pretending to be a couple then later on declares to be playing solo are clear signs that trustworthiness is not one of his/hers/their ideal trait. To avoid becoming victims of predators, we should heed our elders' advice. “ If you feel something is not right.....it probably is! Trust your instincts.



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