importance of reading another member

I can't reiterate enough the importance of reading another member's profile before initiating contact thru chat. Why? So that you don't waste each other's time because of mismatched desires and wants. Let me elaborate! There are instances when single males, even some couples, would send chat messages but upon checking their profiles; 1. They live in Manila or elsewhere,(which requires them to fly to our area for possible meet up). 2. Age; 20's-30's,( but are looking for couples within their age range). This already eliminates the chances of playing with matured couples like us. Then, why contact us in the first place? 3. Only interested in meeting couples for SRS or voyeurism, married women for solo play or as their “thirdie”. As thirdie? That I cannot understand. C'mon people.....DREAM ON! Do you really believe that you'd be that lucky to set aside a married woman's able husband for a 3-way play? And I emphasize that with this follow up question: Is there an, “ABLE BODIED BUT SANE ” husband around who'd agree to this arrangement to begin with?

Now as the recipient of a cordially prepared message, we are sometimes compelled to reply to the message despite our reservations since we're thinking that they might be genuinely interested in us, assuming they have read our profile, and that their specific wants are still flexible and would adhere to ours. But lo and behold, after a few pleasantries in the chat exchanges they'd ask; Your ages please? You're from where? Are you single or married? Would you be willing to travel to our location? What's exasperating to us is that, the answers to these questions are readily available in our profile. In fact, you'd find everything you need to know as regards to our wants and desires if only you have taken the time to read our profile. It could have been very useful to the reader to make his opening and keep the lines of communication going had he been perceptive enough. Naturally, not only was our hope for a possible swinging experience doused by these questions, but at the risk of sounding rude, we would opt to terminate the chat exchanges since we already know it would amount to nothing. Often times, it's the initiator who leaves us hanging and abruptly ends the correspondence after finding out our ages. Little do they know that they have saved us the trouble of having to dismiss them politely.

There is nothing wrong in trying to make contact and be hopeful that things would progress to our desired outcome. Let us all bear in mind that it takes two to tango. So unless we are mindful of other people's feelings and desires and take that into account, then all our efforts would come to naught!

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