You'd talked for a while, seen photos, sent endless messages, maybe spoken on the phone then arranged a meet. And not just a local meet either. They were travelling specially from the other end of the country/another country and spending a fair amount on travel and accommodation.
You're looking forward to it but nervous too. Spend time getting dressed, picking out your favourite underwear, smothering yourself in delicious smelling body lotion, a glass of wine to calm the nerves. What could go wrong?
Well, how about if you turn up to meet the person you've been planning to meet and clearly their photos are older than your grandma's favourite tea set?!! They're not bad looking and the personality is the same...but they're definitely a good 15/20 years older than they claim to be. You're sitting in the taxi and wondering what to do. Drive on or front it out? Damn, too late. They've seen you.
Do you say something? Or just go with it and think it's superficial to be put off?
Inside the restaurant. Talking, laughing. This isn't so bad...oh wait, "Hugh Hefner" is attempting to slide his hand up your leg. Ugh. You feel like everyone is staring as he keeps leaning in to kiss you and you turn your cheek, wishing you weren't so damn nice and scared of hurting peoples feelings
You cut the date short, make up an excuse. Feeling like the worst person in the world because you just do not find this person attractive no matter how much you want to or how much effort they've gone to. But on the other hand, don't you have every right to be angry that they clearly haven't been honest to start with?? That you could have spent the evening with someone in the age bracket you originally wanted. And before I get accused of age bashing some guys in their 60s look amazing! But my dad is 65 and I don't want to feel like I'm on a date with my dad thank you very much!!
Maybe you (and really I mean me if you hadn't already guessed) should insist on FaceTime or at the very least a photo with name and date or ask the person to hold some weird object to verify they are who they say!! Lol.
So my question is, is there such a thing as being too polite? Is it kinder or better to say immediately that they're not what you're looking for and leave??! Interested to hear other stories of disastrous meets! Make me feel better...pretty please?? 😀
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11:33 am Friday, 29th September, 2017
You've done the right thing. Fuck that fool! (verbally not literally) 🙂 |
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1:28 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
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2:29 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
You need to be honest with yourself and them, and of course at least you never let them sit I restaurant or pub alone waiting by themselves. |
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3:31 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
I think the strict rule of thumb is to look at your own age and then add ten years. If a bloke falls within that range, then you have to ask yourself "do I really want to meet him, even assuming he's being truthful?" If there's the slightest doubt in your mind, and considering that he could be totally misleading you, then you should not meet. Alternatively, you should openly discuss the matter in mails, and if on the basis of recent photos you reckon it's not going to work, then say so. I think some older guys are sufficiently together to simply enjoy a night out with a younger woman without expecting anything further. It could be that through mail chat or face time there is some attraction and rapport, but nothing overtly sexual. If that is the case, then it is sometimes fine to meet as friends, have a great night out, and chat about the crazy world of adult dating. If a line can be drawn in the sand at the outset, then there's no tension and it can be worth doing. |
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6:21 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
Wouldn't it have been better for him to be honest in the first place ???? Just a thought x |
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10:26 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
I think you did the right thing. Your here to have fun and not be uncomfortable or weirded out. Plus he did technically lie. It's ok to have a pic up that's maybe been taken 2 years ago or little bit more, but not 1520. Keep safe and have fun. |
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11:03 pm Friday, 29th September, 2017
Read you blog ive experienced that ! |
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9:29 am Saturday, 30th September, 2017
m3gun: Age may be just a number to you, but sadly this is the real world. I'd have thought that the first law of sexual physics is that the bigger the age gap becomes, the less likely two people are going to gel sexually - unless of course the younger female party is motivated by something else (fame.....money......status). Of course it's a "given" that most men would never say no to a considerably younger woman, but it's to be hoped that their sexual ambition is tempered by a sense of reality, and that's not always the case........ |
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10:39 am Saturday, 30th September, 2017
Next time chat via whatsup video incase daddy turns up instead lol xxx |
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4:42 am Monday, 2nd October, 2017
Well to save time and your effort, you could just be honest yourself and tell him exactly what you have written here. No point worrying about HIS feelings - he LIED to you.... |
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4:42 am Monday, 2nd October, 2017
Well to save time and your effort, you could just be honest yourself and tell him exactly what you have written here. No point worrying about HIS feelings - he LIED to you.... |
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3:37 pm Monday, 2nd October, 2017
You've every right to be angry if you have been deceived.🙃 |
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7:18 pm Wednesday, 4th October, 2017
15+ years difference from what they claimed? That'd definitely be a bit of a deal breaker. Who knows what else they'd be lying about! |
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6:51 pm Thursday, 5th October, 2017
I would say something , because they are clearly being misleading about how old they are ,so if there prepaired to lie about something as simple as how old they are ,i wouldn't trust anything else they say about themselves either,, ifsomeonsaid |
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6:58 pm Thursday, 5th October, 2017
if you have been in contact for a while ,& you arrange to meet up ,& they say i have to let you know i'm older than i have told you ,but i'm in good condtion& feel still as young as i did at 21 ,also i can promise i'm a wonderful lover with a body & i don't need anything to make my manhood bigger or keeping as big for a long time |
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7:24 am Saturday, 7th October, 2017
I would agree with you getting them live on cam so you can verify they are genuine. As for cutting a date short, if you don't feel right or safe, you are doing the right thing in my opinion. Get out of there with a polite excuse, so you do not aggravate the situation and go. Always trust your gut feelings. x |
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8:17 am Saturday, 7th October, 2017
Spot on!!! |
