Well we want company or meetups in our lifestyle, regardless of it being a bdsm or swinger lifestyle. I have been involved with the bdsm lifestyle for over 40 years, I am described as an Old Guard Dom. Though I have been involved lately in my life with some say fetishes.
I like the pet or little one to dress the part. I'm still in myself, but it is a visual enticement to see the sub dressing up. An addition to the fun.
I have negotiated with my sub for others to join us in scenes, either a couple being a Dom/Dominatrix and male or female sub, or a mixed couple being both switches. Or another mix, like inviting another Dom to double Top my sub. I maintain my sub's safety at all times, but the scene becomes more of a swinger lifestyle scene. In that's what was negotiated.
Other scenes involving humiliation, and may be interpreted as a swinger lifestyle scene is to give the sub to be used in a semi private club by the club patrons, men and women. And in any way the patrons choose. My sub is used sexually as a public sex toy. Of course I maintain her safety, but don't stop the action unless she uses her safe word.
I'm not going to deny that I am not a sadist, I get sexual satisfaction from treatment of my sub to her limits. By spanking, or other forms of . I am interested in training her to achieve subspace, as I achieve Domspace, then the after care is so much sweeter.
Am I a real life Dom? I never have claimed the title of Sir or Master, my dungeon peers referred me to others in those terms. I live the lifestyle 24/7. I know no other way to live, vanilla is like death to me. I would rather be alone than live a vanilla life.
I'm interested in meet ups, but just until I begin a mutually beneficial relationship between a submissive woman who wants to give me her trust. I will be discreet if needed.
More later. I will write my real life story how I got involved with bdsm.