HAVING SUCCESS SO FAR?

We have read many blogs here on the difficulties of meeting prospective playmates and the reasons vary from person to person. What most of us probably don't get is that there are factors to consider before anyone would want to share intimate moments with us and that the opportunity to play would not come at a drop of a hat. Although we are not expert on the subject, please allow us to share with you some helpful tips to get things rolling. Mind you that these are only based on our limited experience in this site, to wit;

1. PROFILE CONTENT: Some may argue that, “less talk equals less mistakes”. In this case, the lack of information in our profile message gives some a pretense that everything will be revealed only after a lengthy chat or in due course. If it reaches that stage! Remember, “yours” , is not the only profile that people look at. If the message in your profile, or the lack thereof, does not elicit the initial curiousity of a prospect, then they'll just move on to the next. Another reason for substance is that you can write down everything, from your age preference to your other requirements which would help guide prospects in making initial contact. A perceptive person can pick up a thing or two from your profile message to make a good opening. A perfect example would be profiles of those with age limitations. Common sense dictates that if you are beyond their age requirement, then you shouldn't bother writing them because it will most likely be ignored, hence, a waste of your time.
2. PICTURE: All of us value our privacy, and most if not all, would not post a face picture in our profile unless it had been edited or obscured. Others, prefer posting pictures in a more revealing nature. Whatever approach the member utilizes, we should just respect and appreciate the motive. However, once you have made contact with the member, whether thru IM or other means and they require you to submit a clear unedited/unobscured photo for their appreciation, then you must comply. Protocol dictates that whoever made the initial contact must submit photo first, since you showed interest first. Also, some would still insists on sharing only edited pictures, which leads to disappointment of the other party and dissipates interest.
3. RESPECT: Always be respectful of people. We can't be attracted physically to everyone and vice-versa. If that be the case, we should politely decline any offer to play without making any snide remarks. Likewise, if we get rejected, then we should accept it gamely and must not take it to mean that the other party is a snob or think highly of himself. It simply means they are not attracted to you. It may be hard to admit but that's reality. Remember, you can't coerce anyone to like you nor you to like them. There are instances, as it is not in our nature/culture to frankly reject the soliciting party that we simply ignore messages. No one should feel slighted by this, as it is easier for some not to reply, than outrightly reject your advances.
4. COURTEOUSNESS: We have had our share of communicating with unpleasant and obnoxious people from this site. Some even have the temerity to criticize your profile and are so full of themselves despite initiating the contact. It would be best to remain courteous in our interaction with people and charge everything to experience. One thing is for sure, even if we are not the most attractive members out there, courteousness is one quality people respond kindly to. So who knows?, we might just get lucky simply by having the right attitude.


These are just some of the things we can improve on to make that final step to swinging successfully. We hope you find these simple things useful in your interaction with other members. GOOD LUCK EVERYONE AND LET THE GAMES BEGIN!

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