To start, let me share this portion from among the top definitions (Urban Dictionary) of a Unicorn:
That girl that you can't catch. Everything about her is so perfect (divine, if you will) getting with her is unfathomable... Bumping into her on the sidewalk is a good day. Holding a conversation with her... you were probably dreaming. Anything beyond that - good luck. It takes time, effort, and a whole lot of persistency. But never give up; unicorns are said to be "uncatchable," but nothing is impossible. Impossible is nothing. Under no circumstances, never ever, not ever, at no time, should you ever marry a girl who is not your unicorn...
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I know a few things about being that supposed desired player in a swingers' world that is welcomed among couples who look for the female Thirdy, as well as that independent female who really prefers to play one-on-one, and that ideal partner-in-crime for solo guys who want a threesome setup.
1. Playing the Thirdy - Actually, most of the invites end up in the spam section as it was never my goal from the start to join couples. It's not really my thing to approach a couple to proposition to have sex with either spouse for the partner's enjoyment. The married couples I played with had respective rules that helped set healthy boundaries - - - no kissing the hubby (sigh, there goes French kissing! ), wife can watch and decide to join if she pleases (while hubby asks if he can go really deep or do anal? ), or wife can have the free rein to do all the things sinful to the poor (hahaha) hubby (naughty girls unite). Such terms brought its own perks, though you can never really let down your guard because men (in general) and their deceitful ways can be scheming and it doesn't take much to entice a married, albeit swinging man to seek solo encounters without approval. I dunno how many Hub couples can really be happy to have it that way, to be honest, and I simply made it a rule not to get into a situation.
From my encounter with 3 married couples so far (the rest all just attached, play partners), I never ended up being that go-to person for further encounters. I realize from the experience what a beautiful thing it is to see so much love and trust in these married, swinging couples, which seem to be more common for those who took a second chance at married relationships. I also realize, that as a woman, it is usually healthy to connect with the female, as she acts like a barometer in the encounter. As long as they remain aroused by each other after I have gotten up to leave, then I knew the threesome was a success and it made them feel closer. All I need now is that available, solo cock to really feel that I have had my fill. that post-threesome after-fuck, if you will.
2. Playing solo - This is a bit more straightforward. I've had my profile (to be revised as of writing) detail what I look for in a guy. But, since this place us full of men and their deceitful ways, I have always wanted stress-free, no-drama encounters, and that included going with those guys who are single in real life.
Did the self-acknowledged committed guys ever step in? A few did, but I somehow wrote them off as 'for research purposes'. So I asked this married guy, point-blank why he was a womanizer. I couldn't help noticing the passing of a sad, lonely, abandoned expression. Ah, such men can have their share of sad stories, too.
In such encounters, I wish I had the courage then to say that had they fucked any better or did more (or did them at all) cunnilingus, maybe their wives would have kept their bed warm (agree, ladies?). And tighten those abs, why don't you...
Even when I myself experienced a failed marriage, I'd maintain that the lack of intimacy didn't count as a factor in our case. For sure, when there is trouble in any relationship, the sex life gets affected. In my last one-on-one solo play, the respectable gentleman informed me, as an afterthought, if I minded that he was married. I had a moment to ponder to withhold judgement, keep emotions in check, just so I can look forward to an overnight of escape. I responded, thank you for the honesty, I don't mind at all, as I wasn't the one who would have to deal with complications. Deep down, the fact that I didn't find it too difficult to decline meant I had been in the hookup scene a bit too long and I was starting to relax my sense of boundaries.
Even when playing with the free-range grass-fed cocks, it pays not to bring up past heartaches. Sex may be good therapy, of course, but it normally would require arranged sessions with the client on the therapist's couch (FANTASY alert!) to be rid of whatever makes grown men cry when alone at night. I think this might be a new spin on Paid Services - - - tell me all of your woes from ex's and why's for a fee and you can get the sex for free.
As for the rest of the lot, well, the categories can include the younger guys after MILFs, bbc, the haven't-had-sex-in-a-while-can-we-have-fun types, the travelling-for-business purposes, and my all-time favorite, can-you-be-my-BDSM-Mistress.
3. Staying true to my reason for being here - I have learned that it's far more interesting to play for fantasies than spend time responding to lines that offer the free full meal and lodging package for any takers. That is why it makes sense to keep toys on hand at all times to guarantee my solo happy time.
To end...those Unicorn days may be gone, but the stories go on forever.
