Is it the thought of not being able to move? Is it the deprivation of the senses? Is it about giving up control to someone else? It is different for each of us.
For me, it is about involving the largest sexual organ in the body - the brain. Whether it be to whet the appetite of excitement, to build the anticipation to a mutually satisfactory ending, or maybe its about taking the time to explore with your partner when they have no choice but to be subject to your whims. I enjoy all of this and more. I enjoy pleasing my partner, by pushing the envelope. By finding new and exciting things that we both will enjoy. I want to see how my partner's mind reacts and is stimulated by suggestions, by thoughts, by certain words or anticipations.
In the end, for me it is about having a captive audience in which we can explore our fantasies and depravities without fear of someone being hurt.
