So, I thought it would be interesting to explore what it means to me to be submissive? For me, it's just the enjoyment I get from giving intense pleasure to others. I'm sure if you asked a dozen people what being submissive meant to them you'd get a dozen different descriptions, each of which is perfectly valid.
I have to say I enjoy being told what to do as, I know from experience, that the most mind-blowing moments of intimacy come (no pun intended) when the person I'm with is receptive to my responses to what they're doing to me. I'm sure we've all experienced "bad sex" at one time or another but my view is it's disrespectful to the person you're being intimate with not to do all you can to maximise their pleasure, with the distinction that all you're doing is guiding them in how they're doing something (faster, slower, just there, not there, etc.) rather than what they're doing (go to the kitchen and get the electric whisk, etc!).
Further to this basic form of submission, I find there comes a point where trust has been gained and I then, generally, am prepared to push my boundaries further. I owe a lot to an ex-girlfriend who really opened my eyes to the bigger world of pleasure out there. Prior to meeting her (let's call her Alex - not her real name) my experience had been pretty vanilla but I will never forget the first time we were in bed together and she was sucking and stroking me and then licking my balls before I felt her tongue probe my anus - talk about mind-blowing! This was something I'd only read about in porn mags and, I have to say, I did not really see the attraction. However, experiencing it made me realise that if you don't try new things you don't know if you will enjoy them or not.
Since Alex I've only been intimate with two or three women and what's really surprised me is how much they've enjoyed me rimming them. The most recent was Kate (not her real name) who I met online a few months ago and we agreed to meet for a drink one Saturday lunchtime. She was almost 20 years younger than me, was sexy and had a lovely personality and we hit it off straight away - chatting as if we'd been friends forever. I had no expectation that anything happening on that first meet but Kate invited me back to her flat so I could give her a massage (one of my specialities). I'd not brought any massage oil with me as I had not hoped anything would happen but, fortunately, Kate had some at home. When we got to her bedroom we kissed passionately and we each stripped off our clothes and Kate lay face-down on her bed. I poured some massage oil into the palm of my hand and then rubbed them together to warm the oil to body temperature. I knelt between Kate's slightly open legs and placed my palms on her shoulders, spreading the oil over her back until it was all coated. I then massaged from her shoulders down her spine to her waist before moving outwards and sliding my hands up her sides back to her shoulders.
After repeating this for a few minutes I sensed that Kate was relaxed and comfortable so I poured some more oil on my hands and, after one more circuit around her back, when I next reached the base of her spine my hands moved over her bum and down the outsides of both her legs. When I reached her ankles my hands moved back up the inside of her legs until my thumbs stroked her outer labia and slide upwards, encircling her bum-hole on the way back up to her waist. At this point Kate moaned and lifted her hips slightly as my slippery hands moved back up to her shoulders for another circuit of her body, I repeated this a few more times and I sensed that Kate needed more so, as my thumbs made their way up the inside of her thighs, she rocked back slightly so I could gently tease her labia which were starting to engorge and moisten. As she rocked the tip of my finger was slowly drawn inside her, allowing me to stroke between her lips with just my finger tip teasing her at first then, as I felt her wetness, I started to gently push my finger inside. To my surprise and pleasure, she suddenly pushed back so that my finger was completely inside her. As she rocked, effectively fucking my finger, her gorgeous bum-hole was exposed to me and, without asking, I leaned forward and started to tongue it. Her reaction was fantastic - she ground her bum into my face so that my finger and tongue were forced into each orifice.
Perhaps next time I'll continue this story, or perhaps you'd rather hear about my experience with Alex and her bright pink strap-on? 😉
