Part 3
From the male perspective, when a bloke gets a stiffy his basic (primeval) urge is to insert his member in to a nice warm juicy pussy and release his life giving load. In principle he won’t be too concerned about which juicy pussy he uses to release his load but social and other dogma, stipulate that he should make use of his “mate for life” partner. Unfortunately this is not always an option so he has to find alternatives. On the other hand, the bloke might be thinking about the “pleasure” aspect and then the game changes!
From the female perspective, when a woman gets horny it would be difficult to imagine that they go on the rampage looking for a nice stiff cock to sit on. I imagine it would be clit massage and dildo but I might be wrong :-) (help me out here girls) I think it quite likely that the horny woman would put on the war paint and dress to kill to attract a suitable target! Unfortunately, blokes don’t seem to make as much effort!
The dating game, finding a mate for life etc - we’ll skip that because if you are reading this, you are on a swinging site not a dating site and you are looking for sex for pleasure; you are looking for NSA sex with other like minded people.
When you arrange to meet with other couples/singles it is for one purpose - sex for pleasure. Ok, some of the basic instincts might come in to play but you are looking for sex for fun not to procreate. This is a whole different ball game where you can indulge in your fantasies, you are not limited to sex for the basic urge. Quite often it will be a once only meet but hopefully you will meet some shagging partners where you will arrange to meet often ish and have a lot of fun. Swinging enables you to expand your boundaries and do things that you only think about; provided that your limits are respected you can have a sex life that would make Lily Allen green with envy :-)
I’ve mentioned labels earlier and for the record, I would consider myself to be “anything goes” apart from pain and bondage. I think the labels “Straight”, “Bi”, “Bi Curious” are a bit limiting. Swinging needs an open mind otherwise you fall into the “sex the basic urge” mindset.
Like the Lesbian in the part 2 joke, I think about women constantly and my favourite meal is pussy; I never have desires for a bloke. I just love kissing pussy and gorging on pussy juice, I also love having my cock sucked and on occasions when I have had my face full of pussy I have had an orally Bi experience - basically I don’t mind who has my cock in their mouth! On occasions I have returned the favour so sex for pleasure can and should be “anything goes” - within limits. So as in the Howard Jones song (new song) “shake off your mental chains”, relax, enjoy yourself, have fun and make sure the pleasure is mutual.
When you arrange a meet, make it a special occasion. Meet up for drinks (but not too many) n chat and maybe a meal. If your meets are with newbies, take it steady they will be as nervous as hell. Do it right and swinging is fantastic but do it wrong and it can be very disappointing.
When you are looking for meets don’t forget this is not about dating it’s about finding other like minded people who want sex for pleasure and whilst we’d all like to find the most gorgeous woman or man to shag, you would likely be looking a very long time if that is your only criteria. There are a lot of gorgeous people on the site but as the saying goes in Yorkshire “beauty is but a light switch away” ? The same goes for “age brackets”, you will surprise yourself by not having too many limitations. Sex is sex, cocks are cocks, pussies are pussies. Good looks and youthfulness are no guarantee of having great sex for pleasure. A joke to finish off with: -
The old bull and the young bull are grazing in the top field and the young bull looks round and spots a lot of cows in the bottom field. He says to the old bull “shall we run down there and have a few of them cows” and the old bull stops chewing the cud and says “no son, we’ll walk down nice and steady and have all of them”
Hope you enjoyed reading and that I have opened your mind to sex for pleasure.