Just how far would you go?

i totally 100% agree with this ladyx

Turquiose: Nice to see you blogging. I totally agree about chatting. Some people are very articulated and amazing with words. However, it does not mean you feel the same when you actually meet them. Many things could put u off or just a handful of events together could make a day go wrong.

I confess I have always followed my guts and found out that I am always right about people after I chat with them for a while. I do agree with you, meeting them for a coffee does not equal to sex though. However, if you decide to go for a long way, it must mean your guts are telling u there is a high possibility you may create sparks.

Now, what about these thoughts?
1. If both parties have interest then why not meeting in a middle point? After all, it shows both sides have got equal amount of miles (lol)
2. Also, if u do go far for someone who know will not stand u up, you just need to be clear it is subjected to chemistry when face to face.

If I am totally honest, usually men have traveled to meet me and not the way around. Not because I am a feminist btw. Just because it has happened. They offered and for me it meant they were really interested and were willing to go the extra 8000 miles lol

Finally, a while ago, I personally was willing to meet someone once and travel continents for him but it never happened. Would I do it? Definitely for the right person. Scare if right after all, "nothing ventured, ......"

"no matter how attractive the phrasing or the flow of compliments (to which I freely admit to being entirely susceptible!), does not automatically mean I will be physically attracted to someone when I meet"

How very true :-)

No more than half hour drive for me

But still not had then chance yet

I suppose if there's a attraction and same thoughts as to what you want you'd travel as far as

I live in Kent and had s regular FWB in Glasgow

Great question Turquoise..
How far is too far if the attraction is there??
Me being an ol' romantic fool, I wanna know there is a connection before I would even consider travelling five miles or travelling five hundred more....
I can usually get a good feel about someone quite quickly and know if they are completely insane and we will get on, meeting suitable people was far easier before bedlam closed..
but I ain't infallible...we are all human.. Well most of us.. So mistakes can be made but nothing ventured nothing gained.... You ain't ever truly gonna know until you meet in the flesh.
So once you found that special person
Hold that woman, hold that man
Love him, please him, squeeze her, please her,
Hold, squeeze and please that person, give 'em all your love
Signify your feelings with every gentle caress
Because it's so important to have that special somebody
to hold, kiss, miss, squeeze and please
Cos, everybody needs somebody....

Sorry if I made a song and a dance about it...

Welcum: Nice to see you around again....Do I feel love in the air? I wonder if a lucky lady has managed to make u eat a whole cake? and now u r burning calories by dancing? :)

Free,
lately I have been feeling the Blues...brother
So to console myself, I will have a little gin, about 10cc, cos,
I'm not in love
So don't forget it
It's just a silly phase I'm going through...

Oops, I did it again

It is a hard one (no pun intended) I used to have a girlfriend who lived in LA and I visited her and she me and that was 5-6K miles but for an initial meet no more than about 30-40 miles

As a rule of thumb, half an hour's travel is about right. Less and discretion can be an issue. I'm in north Oxfordshire so London is easy, as is Bristol, as I go to both a fair bit anyhow. Where to meet? I suggest the Burford Wild Life Park, if the woman prefers to travel. It's fun and if the chemistry is not right, still a happy hour or so. More likely is that it will heighten the urge for some animal fun! That said perhaps the hottest afternoon of nsa activity that I can recall started with a meet outside Tesco in Slough.....

I will say half

The bottom line here is how forthcoming people are prepared to be about their physical appearance. Sexual attraction lies in whether people are matched in terms of character, attitude, humour, intelligence........and physical appeal. All but the latter can be revealed in stages through email and messaging. People can get on like a house on fire via the written word, but there is often reluctance on the part of either party to do "bare all" and swap unambiguous facebody photos. Maybe they simply want to prolong the thrill of fantasizing (?) The reality is that in most cases people could save a lot of time, unnecessary travel.....and potential angst.....by being totally honest. I make it a matter of principle to supply face and body pics at a very early stage, simply because I would rather elicit an immediate judgement (for better or worse) than persevere with a communication thread that might lead to a shipwreck further down the line. People generally have pretty specific tastes when it comes to physical appeal, and so I'm totally philosophical if - after I go to the trouble of revealing my physical self - the response is silence (and I'm sure we have all been there :-) By the same token I have sometimes been left seething after meeting someone who totally misrepresnted herself in photos, or who insisted on not supplying any, and I was fool enough to give her the benefit of the doubt. Sure, I would travel a very long way for someone who was worth it, and indeed I have done so several times in the past. But those people gave me ample reason to travel and I was not disappointed (and neither - I think - were they). I think you have to regard this as analogous to buying a house: You wouldn't invest in some scraps of semi-favorable info and a few fuzzy images - or none at all :-)

The bottom line here is how forthcoming people are prepared to be about their physical appearance. Sexual attraction lies in whether people are matched in terms of character, attitude, humour, intelligence........and physical appeal. All but the latter can be revealed in stages through email and messaging. People can get on like a house on fire via the written word, but there is often reluctance on the part of either party to do "bare all" and swap unambiguous facebody photos. Maybe they simply want to prolong the thrill of fantasizing (?) The reality is that in most cases people could save a lot of time, unnecessary travel.....and potential angst.....by being totally honest. I make it a matter of principle to supply face and body pics at a very early stage, simply because I would rather elicit an immediate judgement (for better or worse) than persevere with a communication thread that might lead to a shipwreck further down the line. People generally have pretty specific tastes when it comes to physical appeal, and so I'm totally philosophical if - after I go to the trouble of revealing my physical self - the response is silence (and I'm sure we have all been there :-) By the same token I have sometimes been left seething after meeting someone who totally misrepresnted herself in photos, or who insisted on not supplying any, and I was fool enough to give her the benefit of the doubt. Sure, I would travel a very long way for someone who was worth it, and indeed I have done so several times in the past. But those people gave me ample reason to travel and I was not disappointed (and neither - I think - were they). I think you have to regard this as analogous to buying a house: You wouldn't invest in some scraps of semi-favorable info and a few fuzzy images - or none at all :-)

If it's for a Tuesday night of hot nookie, I put a 300 mile limit on my travel (if the other party agrees to stay overnight & PHYSICALLY sleep with me!)! I'm off from work Monday (after 2:30pm) thru Wednesday.
But if the party is 70 miles or less away (& can host!), late night Monday &or Tuesday night sex encounters are possible!
The Tuesday night encounters @ a hotel would be either the 3rd or 4th Tuesday of each warm weather month (April thru October!)! Maybe the 3rd Tuesday in November (weather permitting!)!

Travel isn't really an issue for me as I've always driven a lot of miles, but there are many true comments in answer to this great post and it isn't a bad idea to meet on neutral ground, somewhere mid-way. The furthest I have driven to meet is nearly 300 miles, and we didn't "click"; that was a bummer, but at least the lady wasn't inconvenienced. As I'm here to find friends or a fuck buddy, it wouldn't be practical for me to be meeting more than about 40 - 50 miles away on a regular basis. Great thread!

likewise 40-50 miles but only if there was a definate attraction from both sides

If someone will travel hundreds of miles specifically for a shag, one interpretation it is that heshe must be pretty desperate :-)

Maybe he was a billionaire, a Christian Grey type and you've lost your chance of that lifestyle. Lol

"a Christian Grey type "

You mean a manipulative psycho ? Best stay at home and have a little wank over some porn :-)

travelling is no problem to us, we usually make the most of the time by seeing what's nearby and having a butchers, having said that we always talk on phone before arranging anything, those that don't want to are time wasters and you get a genuine feel if they are for you or not x

I guess each to their own in this case. I've travelled up to London before to meet someone, had a nice afternoon and evening out, stayed at her place and went home the next day. She decided that nothing physical would actually happened between us, but that was fine it was her call. To me it's always the lady's that decide if anything will happen. I have friends in various parts of the country, so if I was to travel further I'd probably use the trip to visit them as well or maybe take a few days and use it as a small break away.

Another thing is, it seems there's not many that actually are online let alone meet in my area, so if the miracle was to happen , I'd hazard a guess I'd have to travel a bit anyway.

How about getting a group of your friends together and come to Australia
well worth it

heaps of hot horny people in the one place

Rungirl,
A knowledge of cpr may also be useful.

Gosh, you guys have been busy on here! I feel a bit bad that I put the question out there and haven't been back to check for responses until now. I honestly didn't expect many comments. Thanks everyone for all your thoughts. And thank you free for the welcome!

I agree with most people who are saying that they would consider it if they felt there was a strong connection.

Oh, as an update, I have now had to block the bloke from Yorkshire. He was bombarding me with messages and saying he understood I like to take my time getting to know someone and then in the next sentence, telling me he is free for the entire weekend in a couple of weeks and I can come stay with him then! For that and other reasons, I ended up having to block him....not something I am forced to do often.

By the Skebbie, I'm hoping it's not necessarily true that being willing to travel hundreds of miles hints at desperation. I'm bored and restless not desperate, honest! (Uh oh, am I overprotesting?)

"By the Skebbie" - crikey, that's a heck of a phrase. I did actually mean to type "By the way Skebbie" but I quite like the way my error reads! Wonder if it'll catch on?

Ms. T: My comment wasn't directed at you specifically - just a general bit of facetiousness. I suppose any decision about long-distance travel would centre on how firm a grasp one has on reality (your Yorks gent being a case in point). As I stated above, I *have* travelled long distance, but the decision was made after much mail correspondence and a mutual conviction that it would be worth it for both parties. However, even that assessment process has let me down a few times, and I have a couple of horrror stories, which have been a good lesson and made me more cautious. I'm probably less cautious about more local possibilities, so perhaps in my case laziness is probably getting the upper hand over desperation :-)

Rungirl,
That's useful to know..
As I am getting on a bit now, I find that good looks, charm and a massive sexual appetite are becoming far less important.
It seems that someone good administering drugs at the correct times and being able to perform CPR is also high on the agenda..
Now, the desire for a woman in a nurses uniform is driven less from the kinky side and more from necessity!!

Doris..
I hope when you came to London it was for more than just getting your pockets filled..
And I am a little curious about what you are having them filled with!!

Seems one strange fetish if you ask me..

Most cockneys can be a bit dodgy.. In an artful way of course..
Think it must be the how we were dragged up..
Going out on the streets having to earn a crust..
My old sis had a bit of a reputation too..
Written on all the bog doors in the best gin palaces "she may not be a thief but you should see her snatch"

----- walking off into the smoggy sunset singing in his best Fagen style..
"gotta pick a pocket or two"....

Anyway I’m in Kingston if you feel like a drink xx