Meets and honesty, it's not hard?

Dear Stevex, If I was given a pound for each rant here.....lol

The truth is when I came to the site I used to assume all were honest and adults and transparent. Far from the truth, the online world has many people that I once called 'dreamers'. They come here to live an alternative life where they enjoy pretending, lying or someone living a life they can't. Therefore, there is no way you do not meet them so the best way is just to be easy going. Do your homework and check if the person is genuine and hope for the best. Good luck!

i always find if you ask to swap phone numbers right from the start that sorts the fakes out from the real ones,if they are not prepaired to give you thier number there is no way they are going to meet.

Completely agree with freeforpleasure many on here are living an alternative life be it behind a computer or individualistically socially. It is matter of reaching out to the right person and honesty being paramount, however sometimes a paradox argument is when one bends the truth to obtain their goals! I don't see the need to lie (tempted) though Lol

We agree take your time it's not all about the sex, but meeting new people and having fun.

We totally agree with that, which normal couple would refuse a fem to fem chat to confirm both parties are for real when there are no guestbook verifications to see. We are with you on the making new friends and broadening our circle, it's also good to have a rant now and again just to get it off your chest lol xxx Hope you are both well xx

Somebody coined a phrase I like " keyboard fantasists" !

Totally agree, just joined recently but me and my partner and finding this more difficult than we thought! Lots of spam and fakes so far 😩

I totally agree with this I tend several times to meet but as normal no luck

0% success .....a lot of talk on this site & no action, massive shame but oh well....

We are brand new to this site, and already in 2 days we've had people message us, we respond and then it all goes quiet. We have read some of the responses and like the idea of suggesting an immediate phone number swap to see who is genuine and fem to fem chat for verification as well.

I've sent out over 70 messages and most don't even send a reply which I find strange. It's not difficult to spell yes or no.and I agree with previous bloggers there a a lot of " Keyboard Fantasists". Hope you all find new friends.

I have been thinking about all the comments here. The truth is there are amazing people here. Very intelligent, kind, fun and just genuine. I was just unlucky once to find someone who was not really truthful but other than that it has always been easy to find people who share common interests.

I have learned that if a person is genuine, they usually write a proper message that reflects they have read your profile. They are willing to exchange other means of communication and definitely cam at some point. The chatrooms used to be a good place to observe people too. I tend not to go there too often and just stick to blogs. I still think many people meet here, as Sassy mentions Social are also a very good place to see faces. Wishing u luck!

I have only been on here a couple f month but have found that most people on here seem to be either fake, photo video collector and dead accounts. I'm a serious person and frustrating when you write something and it get ignored or unread.

Hi everybody, fab blog topic. There is a great community of genuine people on the site, and it is a shame that it is spoiled sometimes by those who create profiles with other motives in mind, but sadly that is the same with every site of this nature. As a site admin, the best advice I can give is to always get to know as much about a personpeople as possible. Anyone wanting to throw their personal details at you and meet immediately I would be wary of. You will find that the more genuine people will make a bigger effort with their profile and contribute to the site in various ways, such as regularly connecting with people in the chatrooms, and putting their thoughts and feelings into a blog like yourselves. For those of you struggling to make a connection on here - don't give up. Make sure you have created a good profile containing lots of info about yourself and what you are looking for, so that you stand out from the crowd and the genuine people can find you. If you are struggling with where to start, send me a message and I will try to point you in the right direction with regard to your profile and other things you can do to try and make a connection. Good luck everybody and hope you find the fun you are looking for. x

I find it interesting that a number of people ask to be friends or send a friend request but subsequently dont respond to messages saying 'Hi' .. Why bother?
Am with Nebo too.. There are a lot of dead profiles and it would be good to be able to identify them or at least know when they were last on. Perhaps a last online search filter?

Hi im a new joiner who is sceptical about sites like this.I have fallen fowl of another site taking my money and quite frankly have been full of fakers..To the genuine people who it says have viewed me or sent a message i wish you good luck.

I agree fully. Thing is the truth is abundantly clear upon the meet and is usually followed with a dramatic parting of ways no one happy. Maybe I'm a bit naive but I am totally honest. Is this wise? .

I thought it only fair and right to put on my profile I wasn't and wouldn't do meets (though realising I would be tempted).
If others are not going to do meets or are very unlikely to do so, why not put it on your profile.
Bit of honesty doesn't hurt yourself or others.

OK,It6's time for me to own up. I am so lacking in any sort of personality that I send my hologram to do my work for me on here. He's a much nicer and more interesting person than I am. lol

i would like to add that i have met some fantastic people on here and some have become very good friends.It seems to me out here in spain it is a very small comunity and most people ive met have know other people ive met so a good way of finding out if people are genuine is to ask your friends if they have had any contact with the people you are in contact with.Alot of my meets have been because people i know have recomended me to others that they met.I also notice that alot of classic members in the chat room complain that they never get any meets, in my experience most of the people ive met never go into chat it is all arranged by mail.

Me and my partner are looking for a girl but soon as we suggest swapping numbers they dissappear are ther any genuine girls out there helway

For the number of fakers we have had the annoyance of being let down by, and believe me it's a lot we have now grown wiser to the "system" long gone are the lets exchange lots of pics at the request of the third party. If they want to just have a spank bank collection and push us for it we tend to ignore the pleas and ask for a meet. This method sorts them out, even had meets arranged for them not to arrive and hence mobile numbers are good, and following that course of action still the third parties haven't turned up. The best to date is his girlfriend finding out that he was on a swinging site pretending to be him on his phone when he was asleep and sending a picture of me back to me claiming that was her. We knew then that no matter how far down the line you go some people are in it for the thrill. And so far the three meets we have had all parties have been pleased with all aspects. We know that we are serious about it, and yes it's frustrating but you quickly find the people who are great and new friendships are forged.

Stay safe and happy bank holiday L X

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Lack of contact from people adding us to hotlists and friends requests is frustrating . So are the tiresome auto messages . We admit to being busy but try to at least acknowledge message . I think the profile picture says it all , ok that is what it is meant to do but for us a picture of a nice couple says a lot and the same goes for other pictures on a profile . We are not gynocologists and are drawn to pictures of people dressed or in sexy underwear rather than open leg shots . Our profile pretty much sums us up and is specific about what we are looking for shame people do not read the profile properly sometimes . There are the fakes but thankfully been lucky so far ....... Not that we have met many people. Personally we do not think that we are photogenic and hate to think what we look like on cam , like goldfish in a bowl I should think . We do ask for further contact details and always get the girls chatting . That usually weeds out the fakes as others have already said . D&J

What is the best route to take when the people contacting you are not your ideal age , size or attractive to you?
Do you not reply or be honest and say you are to old etc etc or just say you are not meeting people at the moment ?

ok so i've been sat here for a short while reading all the way through the comments here and i guess i've learnt something well a few things ... firstly im going to have to write more on my profile :-) and second i have nil email ability haha if you recieve i hi from me ive probably written 5 different paragraphs then settled with just saying hello.. anyway we're a genuine couple looking to meet up n lots of fun x

I have to say - I am new here myself so I suppose what I have to say should be taken with a grain of salt. Personally I need to be sure I click mentally with a person - really feel them out to be sure they're genuine before I go handing out my number. Just because I don't give out my phone number like candy doesn't mean I wouldn't want to meet, as someone earlier in the thread suggested. It means I'm being safe and thorough, and finding someone who suits my needs.

And if I wanted a random cock to fill me or a hole to lick, I'd get a toy.

Is it too much to ask for intellectual conversation and a mental chemistry first?

At the end of the day it doesn't really matter - everyone has their own flow.

I'm starting to think this site is a joke. I'm honest im married but looking for no strings fun in my area, however all women seem to say they want the same but when it comes down to it they disappear or want you to pay money to verify ur genuine!!

I'm new to this and I am hoping that I meet honest people. Hopefully what we see is what we should get X img src="imagesadultemoticons008.gif"

Great blog - although it is not the first time that the topic has been aired! There is no easy solution the dilemma, it is a free cyberworld after all and one expects that we are all here to have our own version of fun. For some that means actually getting out there and meeting up, for others it is simply a case that a persona that differs greatly from their real life is sufficient a buzz for them. Odd as it may seem, if we are truly more liberated than normal we should in fact welcome all types, whilst doing our best to distinguish those on the same wavelength as us from those on a different one.

I do actually rate the verification system, and it is always worth a peek at the guestbook of a potential player to se what is there (if anything!) Also an earlier blogger wondered if they should say thanks but no thanks to a contact - the answer is you bet! If the other party is wounded by that then they probably were not worth the effort anyway.

So to all of you new or veteran, young or old, whoever you are, stay cool, hang loose and let folks be folks. The site may not be perfect, but it kinda works and trust me - if I can get laid here anyone can!!

Live and let live....and read profile with a pinch of salt.... Though a paid site half of the fakes are eliminated but yhen single guys will always gives it a try and we can easily make out how genuine one is or not. There are people who write an essay on yheir profile just to scare the fake ones but then this is called alternate lifestyle and hence just let it go ...... We know guys who give us the number and goes on and on snd on but not willing to meet .... Just let go of these guys.....

I spoke to soon in a early post on this blog saying we have not had much issue with fakes , never mind but as people say if you mention a phone number and calling to have a chat about a meet it will certainly find the fake . I got fed up with messages go back and forth and have had nothing since we mentioned chatting on the phone.
You could say we have a essay on our profile but we know the type of people we want tp meet.

Think we just had fake number 2 . Are there no genuine single women under 45 wanting to play ?

Time wasters? Luxury! I used to be glad of time wasters, at east it was somebody replying.
I've had some amusing conversations with some folk...God knows who or where they really were, but I suppose as long as they're happy.
There are literally some genuine people on here though, just trust your instincts on who they are.

We always prefer to swop numbers very early on so the girls can have a chat. Then email or whatsapp chat to exchange pics. This always sorts the fakers. We learnt early on there are a lot of those about. Men pretending to be a couple. You just have to not take it to seriously and enjoy the ride - ha so to speak!