We started swinging in January. Threesome, foursome and a 15 person party in less than 2 weeks. A couple we knew in the vanilla world turned out to be swingers (wife recognized her cleavage on a site and our threesome guy described a local couple he played with that turned out to be them) who really helped us out.
Meeting an experienced couple really makes the transition to the lifestyle easier. You can avoid some of the potential pitfalls and learn to maximize your potential. This is a blog about what we do to meet quality couples that are serious about playing.
Your profile is an integral part. A clear concise and accurate description of what you are and what you are looking for is mandatory. Yes, there will be people that do not read it or think they are the exception (they are not) but most couples will and that will weed out a lot of unsuitable partners. Also a paying member is placed much higher on the search function, that does help quite a bit.
If you want quality people to contact you need to be a quality couple. Two things have worked for us. Good pics and reviews.
The pics are important, it gives people an idea of what you look like. The initial attraction is based on appearances. So you need to put yourself in the best light possible. Hit the gym, it makes a difference. I loathe exercise, until I tried boxing. We both box and look forward to it 90% of the time. Great cardio, core and some muscle development. We hit a gym for weights for 20 minutes to get some definition but boxing provides all the basics and it is fun. All in we exercise 2 hours (1.5 boxing, 20 minutes weights, 10 minutes break), 3 days a week. We look better, feel better and are probably adding to our life span, not a bad deal.
Reviews ..... once we started to get reviews then we started to get quite a bit more offers. They tell other people that we show up and play. So many couples are tire kickers, they are interested but when push comes to shove they bail. Reviews tell other people that you show up. As a personal preference we only review and accept reviews to post on actual play encounters. For us, if a penis has not met a vagina then it does not count (or vagina meeting vagina). We think that until you actually play you are not a swinger and should not be reviewed as one. Also soft swap, what is the point, it is like going to the movies and only watching the previews and leaving before the actual movie.
The TLDR
Meet an experienced couple. Post a great profile. Post good pics (exercise helps). Get reviews.
