Dirty Dreaming - Making Those Fantasies A Reality Blog Discussion

Hi guys,

You may have those dirty dreams which you visit in your mind when you’re so unbelievably horny but have no partner, porn or images to ‘help you along’ and you’re left with the most overwhelming desires. Before you can think about making your dreams a reality, you’ve got to find the people to do them with.

Finding a partner is hard enough in the vanilla world, but sometimes it can seem near impossible in the realm of kink. You want to find someone who shares your unique sexual tastes, that you enjoy spending time with and also doesn’t mind giving or receiving a good spank from time to time, or tieing you up and blindfolding you, or filling a bath-filled with melted chocolate, dipping you in it and then licking you like the irresistible, human confectionary that you are...whatever you’re into.

Finding others with that perfect blend of kink and mutual interests so much so that they’re willing to undertake sexual acts which may be your own or everyone involved’s fantasies can seem overwhelming. So this week we have some spanktastic pointers that are often overlooked but can make the world of difference to whether you find much reciprocal interest.

Picture This

Using pictures is essential to attracting responses. People are much more likely to reply to a profile if it has a photograph. The more - the better. Just think how many blank profiles there is out there, there’s also lots with pictures - the ones with pictures are always going to have the edge on those without. Make sure you use a picture that is accurate and up to date. There's nothing worse than meeting someone in real life who is 20 years older than their profile suggests. It's also important to take a clear photograph. You may not want to show your face in your profile - although you are much more likely to get a response if you do - but it's important that it shows some detail about what you actually look like, even if you only wanted to show a bit of flesh without putting your face on for all to see - a bodyshot is great! Although note that only bodyshots showing from at least shoulders to knees and not displaying genitals will be accepted by the mod team as a main profile picture.

For the gents out there looking for ladies, avoid being too aggressive with the cockshots. The ratio of cock images to other images should be quite low, so say you have 5 images uploaded perhaps only one of them a photo of the phallic-kind. There may be some ladies out there that say their motto when it comes to cock pics is ‘the more the merrier’ but if you ask the majority of gals, chances they’ll tell you to ease up and keep it to a couple maximum. Alternatively if you’d prefer to totally leave them wondering about your wang, you could always upload a few but set them as private so that no-one can see them but you, then include within your profile description that whilst it seems that you have a meat-free profile, there is a non-veggie option on request - being your covert cock pics!

Be Unique

There's no doubt that the greater the detail in your profile, the higher the probability that you'll get replies. Try to make your profile unique so that it stands out from others. It's important to give a description of your physical features such as height and build. Such things matter to many people and are not necessarily superficial. Also, let people know some details of your fantasies. If you're dominant, describe what sort of scenes you enjoy, what you like to wear and what you're looking for in a sub. Whatever your fantasy, such details may make it more likely that you'll receive replies and, most importantly, receive the sorts of replies you want.

Fellas, comedy is the way to a girl’s...underwear - psyche! Oh yes, the ‘G’ in G-spot actually stands for giggle, make a women laugh and you’re already making a great start towards making her moan. So maybe include something witty in your profile so that she can really start to imagine the whole process, everything from you tickling her funny bone to you prodding her with yours.

Honesty Is The Best Policy 

It's also important to be honest about your fantasies so that you do not mislead the person who you're messaging. For example, a submissive may pretend that they're dominant (or a switch) and then only reveal their submissive nature later on during a hookup. This is not an honest approach and is unlikely to produce a good response when you finally meet someone.

By being truthful about your fantasy you are being true to yourself, you may find someone willing to try and help you fulfil your horn-filled dreams even if they’d never considered it before themselves or then again, you may find someone who has that exact same fantasy and you catalyse one another into an intertwined burning flame of lust. Also, there is strength in numbers - perhaps you want a whole group to take part - if you have someone else to help you with your randy recruiting, wouldn’t that be just brilliant?

You may consider that your fetish is extreme and not want to share all the details of it if you’re embarrassed. As long as your fantasy wouldn’t hurt anyone else and doesn’t infringe on any laws, then honesty really is the best policy.

The importance of your profile and your approach to other members cannot be understated,Do you have a kink you crave to explore? Have you met your ultimate kinky partner and want to share advice for anyone looking to do the same? Let us know in the comments below.

M x

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