IS NSA FUN MEANT TO BE JUST FOR ONE PARTY?

pls forgive my typos, i typed this in a haze.

come to think of it i haven't had someone who totally blew me away from this site its just the normal am getting bored tho.

Lol. I think you've been hit with what I like to call 'The curse of the Beautiful Woman'. See because you're a really REALLY attractive woman, you'd be spoilt for choice with every Tom, Dick and Harry vying for your attention. Naturally, you'd pick the most attractive or most charming guy who is most likely going to be an 'alpha-male' and as such is used to getting his way every time. This sort of guy is usually selfish, self-centred or just complacent (Trust me, I've been there) and would't think about your needs in bed. It really isn't exclusive to Nigerian men. I'm not saying you should lower your standards, you might just need to broaden your horizons or refine whatever criteria you use to select your men.

MoonyK: I thought guys down your way were supposed to be gods between the sheets :-) I sympathize with your plight, but I agree that the proof of the pudding is in the eating, and sometimes the packaging is the best part :-)

I think you have to adopt a holistic approach to get the best out of meets via this site (based purely on my own observation and experiences). If you can share quality time (in a nice environment) with a guy *before* the main event, it allows both partners to get relaxed, and that makes for better intimacy later. That in turn makes it easier to explore each other physically and a creates more enjoyable build-up of sexual tension.

I think the problem with many dates is that if you say you are meeting for "sex only", then it's all a bit clinical, and all those nuances shared between the sexes get short-cutted. Under those circumstances, it's usually the woman who gets short-changed.

I have had a lot of women tell me this happened with their men. I've always been the type to give rather than to receive so I think you should give your pussy to someone who will take time to make you orgasm continuously because they want to please u that much

@Timmy01UK
Its like you are in my head right now, you just summarized my experience,and the more annoying thing is, we did meet up and been chatting all along but once we hit the sheets things changed, he is all Those words you used and more, I even tried making him understand like @boodyraider said but he just carried on as if was some kinnda nagging house wife. In conclusion this has really Been Weekend from hell! And its gonna take some time to Erase this disappointment from my memory like Am so pissed at myself right now cos I really feel extremely stupid.

@Timmy01UK
Its like you are in my head right now, you just summarized my experience,and the more annoying thing is, we did meet up and been chatting all along but once we hit the sheets things changed, he is all Those words you used and more, I even tried making him understand like @boodyraider said but he just carried on as if was some kinnda nagging house wife. In conclusion this has really Been Weekend from hell! And its gonna take some time to Erase this disappointment from my memory like Am so pissed at myself right now cos I really feel extremely stupid.

@Timmy01UK
Its like you are in my head right now, you just summarized my experience,and the more annoying thing is, we did meet up and been chatting all along but once we hit the sheets things changed, he is all Those words you used and more, I even tried making him understand like @boodyraider said but he just carried on as if was some kinnda nagging house wife. In conclusion this has really Been Weekend from hell! And its gonna take some time to Erase this disappointment from my memory like Am so pissed at myself right now cos I really feel extremely stupid.

@Timmy01UK
Its like you are in my head right now, you just summarized my experience,and the more annoying thing is, we did meet up and been chatting all along but once we hit the sheets things changed, he is all Those words you used and more, I even tried making him understand like @boodyraider said but he just carried on as if was some kinnda nagging house wife. In conclusion this has really Been Weekend from hell! And its gonna take some time to Erase this disappointment from my memory like Am so pissed at myself right now cos I really feel extremely stupid.

Lool @inside your head. I could relate cos I've been that guy--'wham, bham, thank you ma'am'. But we live and we learn, no reason to beat yourself up about it too much. Next time (and I do hope there'll be a next time) you'd be more inclined to choose the sorta guy (ME!! lol) who'd 'Finish work'.

clim4x: Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you looking for women, or doesn't that count as sexual activity ? :-)

agreed most of us men, can talk the talk however very few put paid to where the action is .. no use crying over spilled milk, we all at one point or the other have had shitty weekends , terrible sex, foul breath etc ...lol

wont patronize you,i do think you should tweak your criteria sha ... to what? i honestly dont know ... and hey he may just be the worst of the lot available here (assuming he is here that is)bet dude would cringe and plan revenge sex if he is here and has read this ..... besta luck babes !!

Hmm, amazing again to be honest 99% of us men r very selfish wen it cums to tinking abt d oda person only very few make out time to make sure they make d pleasure the lady. Too bad though wish u had a different experience, my pleasure always is seeing n making a girl cum ova n ova, dat amazing feeling of making her feel like a woman is totally awesome.
But like i said its a rare thing to find men dat will not be selfish abt der satisfaction

Unfortunately selfishness is embedded in most psyches. I personally love to see a woman lost in her pleasure. I like to get off too, but my partners pleasure gives me pleasure. It adds to the eroticism.

Unfortunately selfishness is embedded in most psyches. I personally love to see a woman lost in her pleasure. I like to get off too, but my partners pleasure gives me pleasure. It adds to the eroticism.

There must be some love in it. I think that is why sex was designed only for love

That's hilarious haha, well from my point of view anyway. I do feel sorry for you, there are far too many men out there letting the team down.

That's hilarious haha, well from my point of view anyway. I do feel sorry for you, there are far too many men out there letting the team down.

some of us men really get it

As hilarious as this may feel, the ladies ain't mixing words here. It's absolutely true and I agree with you but my question remains,"how do you tell an impostor from mere observation?"
I felt that gap, having been there with some females too, often times not about satisfaction but lack of creativity and laxity. Well to put a leash on your date would be best if you really don't want to be disappointed, spell the routine and guide him through but its sexier if only he had a functional instinct and would let go of pride, morals and ego then introduce passion. But disregard prejudice in assessing your fuck buddy you may just ruin the needed psych. Hope it helps

i think for you to be here and to make an impact is to be good at what u do especially when it comes to sex...i doubt learners are welcomed here neither will they be thought on the rudiment of pleasuring a woman. its take some one good to satisfy and appreciate an equally good person. both creativity and adventure are the condiments needed here to make someone joining this site to relish on being here

Hmmmmm, good sex takes time. Men who cares for ladies' orgasm aren't so scarce. Some of them are here (on this site), they are just hard to pick out.Those who've been privilege to "cross my path" are in a better position to advice other ladies. But that said, ladies, you are entitled to your opinions.

this sounds more of relationship than an occasional meet. seriously if i were a woman the wont be a second time if the condiment of sex are not there before penetration..finally book are not judged by their covers. your comment about it being typical about our men is tilted to favour ur experiences...i belive the average nigerian, can give head for hours, touch, play, tease and play sex games before penetration.. i had a friend back in school...penetration is usually to make me come after hours of foreplay, kissing, creams, blindfold, etc...my take...its been always the opposite of u that has come across ur path

As an understanding man, one's primary aim when in bed with a lady is to ensure she's satisfied first. 'Ladies first', is my motto. And that's the only way to make her remember you and desire you long after the moment. I don't joke with ladies orgasm at all.

We believe in first gut intuition and it has worked well for us. When you probe and ask and wait to get comfortable, you go in with much to many expectations, which leaves you disappointed and when it happens from the other side, you can be sure they are takers and not givers. 
Maybe next time just PING and act on it without much thought, provided the reaction is the same from the other end, I am sure you will meet with satisfaction and success.