"Brawn, Brylcreem and Bravado"

9:53 am Friday, 7th February, 2014

Skebbie

Foreword: Can anyone tell me why "Sad" is the default mood setting that appears in the "blog box" when first putting pen to paper? In fact why is there a "mood setting" at all, as readers don't seem to have any way of monitoring a blogger's affective state? If it's of any reassurance, I can assure my fans that I'm always "calm" :-) Anyway......

Lately I've been thinking about us poor blokes on this site, teeming like so many millions of spermatozoa, swimming frantically in desperate search of those elusive and very picky ova, which we vastly outnumber. Thoughts then extend to the criteria by which these picky ova allow those lucky few sperms to.....er......fertilize them: again metaphorically speaking :-)

I've always been very interested in comparing sexual mores, memes and attitudes among cultures, and during the time I've been on this site, I've formed an impression that "Western" women (i.e. for the purpose of argument, the majority of those using this site) have rather conventional and traditional criteria for choosing male sexual partners. The image that comes to mind is one of "Brawn, Brylcreem and Bravado": i.e. a relatively young chap who has nice pecs and biceps, enjoys his sport, cars and bikes, and is full of cheeky Cockney barrow-boy facetiousness and jocularity. He may have spent some time in HM Forces, where he acquired a little tattoo collection, has dark, not too dense designer stubble, and now holds down a decent job with a bank or City firm, to which he wears nice suits and carries a smartphone with all the latest Apps. He likes hair mousse, and thinks wearing sunglasses makes him look cool. He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer, but his broad shoulders, square jaw and ready smile are completely disarming, and women are willing to forgive him anything.

I suppose the reason I'm writing this is that I'm none of those things :-) I haven't done badly for myself in the decade or so I've been "adult dating", but I sometimes wonder if I'd adopted any of the above characteristics whether I'd have done better in the UK ovum-sperm race. OK I freely admit that I'm probably an oddball on this site, and probably somewhat adrift from modern UK attitudes. But one huge difference I've noted when trying to get online dates in Japan is that women are far more attuned to blokes who are a bit "arty" and "sensitive". Talking about seasonal festivals, woodblock prints, movies or food gets appreciated far more than would be the case if I started on similar themes with UK women, and in fact I'd probably be considered "weedy" and "slightly effeminate" :-) So what tips would you women give a weedy bloke like me to improve my chances of "scoring" here in the UK? I promise I won't take offence (haha.......).



Comments

10:28 am Friday, 7th February, 2014 averagejoe99

You're probably right about the "geezer" you describe there skebbie. I'm sure he probably does have more success than us mere mortals, but we can only ever be ourselves.
Maybe us weedy blokes who blog and chat might make it obvious that we have something other than just appearances to offer and sometimes attraction can be more than skin deep.
Personally I'm happy to be me and whatever that brings!
Right I'm off to shave my head and get a tattoo...

P.s. never understood the mood thing either. Is it just one big psychoanalysis experiment?

10:52 am Friday, 7th February, 2014 Skebbie

Don't get me wrong, Joe: I'm happy to be me too. It's just that I sometimes wonder whether there'd be any profit to be had in being more of a "diamond geezer" :-) I refuse to get a wrongly spelt Japanese tattoo, though :-)

11:18 am Friday, 7th February, 2014 eroticgoddess

Skebbie, an interesting question here indeed.

I find there are also two types of men I'm attracted to. One being the big brawny burly type who are sex-only types. They are, I've found, fun to be with but nothing more. My head doesn't get involved at all, only pure lust.

Then there are the sensitive ones, the normal sized bodies and amazing minds who....just do it for me.

So when it comes to men and what I personally am looking for, I'd have to say that depending on what you're (general you) looking for--a night of lust or something more intimate, there's a place for both.

But you already knew that.

12:21 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 Skebbie

"But I'm shallow"

On the contrary, Curvy. If you go for the types of blokes you describe, then you're very deep, believe me ;-)

EG: Does that mean you want burly blokes for sex, but weedy blokes for philosophical conversation? If so, it sort of backs up my thesis :-)

Ron: I think if we both act as each other's publicity agents, it could be profitable. In fact maybe we could operate as a team :-)

Gilli: Ah but y'see one woman's idea of "witty chat" is another woman's idea of "bloody offensive". Therein lies my problem, perhaps ? :-)

Interesting that you set your mood as "excited" when writing blogs. Do you think the setting actually influences our emotions as we write? The reason I like to think of myself as "calm" is that I like to think I'm being balanced in stating my views or replying to others' posts. But I dunno.....do you think choosing a mood is actually relevant? Just curious.....

12:48 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 averagejoe99

There probably would be slightly more profit in being a geezer skebbie but then you'd have to live with being a pillock for the rest of the time.

You could turn it 360 degrees as well and say that blonde bimbos also might get more interest than other women but frankly they wouldn't interest me (well not for long lol) and im sure the women here wouldnt want to be one.

CurvyB i agree with skebbie your words (and most of the others here) show you to be anything but shallow.

We should all follow your example Gilli ;)

1:08 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 Skebbie

"But...... lure me in with a saucy banter ........er......than you're headed in the right direction.......hmm.... to fuck my brains out!"......OK got that.

He mutters to himself as he jots down this tip on his notepad with trembling little fingers :-)

"blonde bimbos also might get more interest than other women but frankly they wouldn't interest me (well not for long lol)"

Well from my own viewpoint I'd certainly not turn my nose up at a blonde bimbo (chance would be a fine thing), but she'd have to be at least into Japanese food, or there wouldn't be much common ground :-)



1:25 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 eroticgoddess

Skebbie...I've never FOUND burly types who engage in philosophical discussion! That's very stereotypical of me, isn't it?

I guess what I mean to say is that the big physical types do it for me physically in an animal lust sort of way, but "ordinary" guys do it for me all around, mentally as well as physically. Assuming they have a sense of humor. And a personality to go along with the fascinating talks after great sex.

Screw it....it all comes down to who the guy is, doesn't it??????

1:37 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 eroticgoddess

you can always woo her with prawns? assuming she isn't veggie

2:24 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 Skebbie

Ron: No not at all. Basically I just thought we ought to rent ourselves out as a "double-team" combi for women who want a bit extra (shallow I know) from some disarmingly charming guys with a mostly Scots background. You know: maybe some delicate southern ladies who've always fantasized about a bit of far northern rough :-) I suppose I could rabbit on about Marcel Proust or something for those who want their minds appreciated too.

2:25 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 Skebbie

EG: You've had one Foo-Yung too many, I suspect. There's plenty of *meat* in my Jappo dishes (lol).

5:46 pm Friday, 7th February, 2014 rigger101uk

Mmmm here's my take on the sperm-frenzy metaphor - and that is I beat millions of others once and I can therefore do it again.

As for combining intellect and brawn I like to think its possible - indeed I try in both departments.

So my next move will be either to lure Gilly with a bit of light hearted banter, or veer enthusiastically to loving long time humpy humpy with Curvy.

Decisions decisions....

3:48 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

"I've mentioned my 'art class' numerous times on the blog and no-one asked .."

There you go, Mac. This is what I mean. And you didn't seem to get much interest in your kilt either (too much like a "skirt" ??) :-) If I mentioned I do watercolours on here, women would run off screaming to the nearest rugby player :-) (Damn, given the game away now..... :-)

8:25 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 averagejoe99

Don't be sad Blueish when you've got all us articulate and talented people to keep you company...

"Appropriate demographic" blimey gdu did you swallow a dictionary before you went to bed? Could've just said someone you stand a chance with!

CurvyB I expect you'll be glued to the tele this weekend and you're next blog to be sport orientated. Sure theres quite a few "geezers" in the Welsh pack but don't think you'd really mind ;)))

8:42 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

Please find me a man who will take me to bed and talk about woodblock prints. Fwoarrrrr ....

8:53 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

Actually I've found that it's the other way around. The woodblock prints spiel is the hors d'oeuvre (or perhaps the baited lure). After that I'm just another animal :-)

9:12 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

Curvy: Bet you a tenner that you wouldn't be in the least interested in getting Einstein explained to you if you were sat down with a rugby player :-)

9:12 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

I've given this one some thought. I suppose the type of guy I'm attracted to has to have that X factor. Not sure what the X factor is, but he's sure got to have it.

As a starter for 10, the X factor must include two essential criteria:

Humour(and I love northern humour by the way)

A massive willy


Good heavens!



9:24 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 averagejoe99

Luv2 we had all worked out your criteria a very long time ago lol ;)

Now just to find out what the X Factor bit is?

Don't think you'd even notice they were talking CurvyB ;)

9:29 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"Luv2 we had all worked out your criteria a very long time ago lol."


Yeah, read me like Kindle.

9:55 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

"Humour(and I love northern humour by the way)
A massive willy"

Good heavens, who would have thought it?? A nice, affluent, cultured girl such as yourself.....

10:28 am Saturday, 8th February, 2014 rigger101uk

Relatively speaking the blogspace has been less spirited of late, so I am delighted to see something a little more lively than blogs akin to Woody Allen (for it is he in the news this very morning) who I think once said Well that's enough about me - why don't you talk about me for a while? has emerged, with some excellent contributions from many of the usual suspects.

This one however might have veered into something of a discussion of blackwhite, brainbrawn, front row forwardeminent physicist, woodblock expertgetting wood.

So I feel it my bounden duty to point out a binding glimpse of the bleedin obvious, and that is (and thank goodness for it|) we are every one of us different and we are attracted to different things. In addition that attraction will alter depending on whatever itch it is that we want to scratch.

I suppose that there is a temptation to try to become all things to all potential bedroom partners, and the grass may well seem greener for others who's approach manner and values are different to ones own. Well good luck to them I say. The blunt and somewhat uncomfortable fact is that there are some (many even) who are, quite simply, more attractive than others (me actually). I am sure there are an equal number who are cleverer, richer, more enlightened and (possibly) even more intellectual.

But life is a funny old game and I find myself subscribing more and more to the idea that one should not worry about things one cannot change. So to the brylcream (other hair styling products are available) and bravado boy - crack on as there is someone out there lusting after someone just like you. To the woodblockers - carve on boys and you will make an impression.

And you girls - please continue to be as picky and choosy as you like. It tend to bring the best out in us sperms.

1:12 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"To the woodblockers - carve on boys and you will make an impression."
Actually, a guy who can work well with his hands is very likely to earn extra points from me (if I was keeping score that is).

Rigger's depending on the 'itch to scratch' theory could have some truth in it (although itches really aren't very sexy).
"He looks like the kind of guy I could fall in love with. Trouble is, he's standing next to the kind of guy I’d like to make love to."

I suppose it's horses for courses ..



I must say though, there's more evidence of guys being picky on this site than girls. For the record: I'm not a well-toned size 8 (far from it) or blonde. I'm a working mum of two ... take it or leave it.

1:47 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 rigger101uk

I'll take it.

Can you gift wrap it for me please?

1:56 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

Come to think of it, I suspect I have more in common with Woody Allen than is probably healthy.....but......

Regret I haven't been able to spend as much time monitoring this blog as I would have liked today, as we've just had the heaviest snowfall for 16 years and I've been frantically shovelling for most of the day to ensure me and and the house don't disappear. The fact I have a date tomorrow in Tokyo has given my efforts added impetus. I'm just praying the rail service is operating by 6 pm Sunday............

2:08 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"I'll take it."
Sold as seen and no money back guarantee.



Skebbie ... snowballs :-)

2:20 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 averagejoe99

Good post Caroliner. Was thinking about writing a blog about whether we have personality types we find most attractive or even if personality can be more attractive than looks but skebbies blog has sort of beaten me to it.
I think most of us here have stated that we don't prefer the geezer and bimbo types but maybe that's because we enjoy the stimulus of writing and reading blogs. We must all want something more or we wouldn't spend our time here but would just be propositioning suitable partners in chat or mail hoping for that one response in a hundred. Yes you probably did remember the animal instinct is for the brawny type but take a minute to think and scratch beneath the surface you may find the less obvious ones are far better.

Probably rambling a bit now but hope you've got the general meaning of my post.....

2:31 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

Vesper: How nice to hear from my favourite Bond girl again. Thanks for contributing.
As I said earlier, I can assure you I'm happy with who I am, and I suppose I *do* feel fulfilled in my own way. However, the reason I wrote this blog was to draw a parallel between what Ms Average expects from men on both sides of the globe. Perhaps lately I've felt myself coming adrift from the UK female mindset, and I suppose I was wanting to put my finger on the pulse of contemporary tastes. The little Avatar I describe is the one who always seems to crop up on this site - at least based on profiles I read and the types of men who crop up in women's guest books :-)

GDU: Yes I agree target demographics are paramount. As I may have mentioned before, I've generally used another site for this game in Japan, and that has accounted for the vast majority of my previous meets. As I spend most of the year there, it's hardly surprising that I'm considered more of a "prospect" than would be the case in the UK, where I'm really just an "itinerant" (women being more hard-wired for some kind of a lasting connection that simply for one-off NSA.....).

The expats you describe have probably been frequenting Asian countries other than Japan, I expect. Japanese women are well educated, and if they decide to hook up with a foreigner, it certainly is not for reasons of security or economics. Therefore the situation you describe simply does not happen; adult dating connections arise through a combination of curiosity and experimentation.

I love women of all nationalities and ethnicities, but I've found through experience that more Japanese women find I'm attractive and interesting than do Western women. It could be due simply to the fact I'm "exotic", but I'd also like to think it's because they appreciate my more sensitive side; on the other hand I've found the UK much harder going.

I know full well that you lady bloggers are not one-dimensional, and that many of you do take a holistic approach to choosing your prospective mates. However, I don't think you are representative of Western women as a whole, and besides, we are now in the "Friends Zone" (thank you Curvy), so can only speculate and titillate each other with what likely will never come about, right ? ;-)

7:23 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"so can only speculate and titillate each other with what likely will never come about, right ?"


What brings you to that conclusion?

11:34 pm Saturday, 8th February, 2014 Skebbie

"What brings you to that conclusion?"

Well......perhaps that's a rather subjective conclusion. For all I know, the rest of you bloggers might be freely inter-rutting, but if that's the case, it's not at all obvious from the banter :-)

8:40 pm Wednesday, 12th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

Inter-rutting!! Mwahahaha ;-)

1:34 am Monday, 24th February, 2014 pippaneedsaspank

I think intelligence is sadly under rated by women when it comes to the sexual partners we pick. Interestingly some psychologists think that women choose different partners for different purposes, ie the men we want to be impregnated by are not the men we want a ltr with. Last Saturday's Guardian had an interesting article saying that the more equitable a relationship was, the worse the sex was. I think there's something in this. I know that the sort of sex I really want is unlikely to be forthcoming in a healthy, respectful ltr. It's a conundrum and I don't know the answer. Wish I did beause then I would have married one of the nice, intelligent men I've dated in the past instead of getting pregnant by 'bad boy' types and then bringing children up by myself.

2:47 am Monday, 24th February, 2014 Skebbie

Pippa: Thanks for resurrecting my blog :-)

What you say largely bears out my hypothesis, as least as far as the UK is concerned. But going back to what I said at the beginning, I don't think that - in the global scheme of things - I've personally "missed out" in the metaphorical sperm-egg race. In the true socio-ecological sense, I've simply found a "niche" that works for me, but it doesn't seem to work as well in the UK :-)

8:08 am Monday, 24th February, 2014 rigger101uk

Mmmm she reads the Grauniad and has a very catchy name. I think I like this Pippa a lot already.....

And before you all start I rate the G because, like me, they are never afraid of the odd typo.

In fact they would probably describe me as a cult.

8:20 am Monday, 24th February, 2014 Skebbie

Doesn't take long before Rigger scents a new pheromone on the breeze :-)

10:56 pm Monday, 24th February, 2014 pippaneedsaspank

you lot are very amusing and entertaining. I'm glad I've stumbled across this blog. I first came across the theory that women want a different type of man for procreationrecreation than the sort they want for ltr when I was studying psychologist. Worst of all from a feminist point of view the hypothesis was that due to our hormones we would choose studly types when fertile and nice nurturing men the rest of the month. I wasn't having any of that crap. I'm not ruled by my female hormones - I'm a rational, sentient being. Having observed my own behaviour in the decade or so since those happy days I'm less convinced by my argument. Quite a lot of studies support this claim, for example it's estimated that at least 30% of children are not fathered by the man supposed to be the father. Some interpretations of that are that women unknowingly have affairs whilst in the fertile part of the menstrual cycle. All I know is there are times when i want it rough and nasty and to be treated in a way in which i wouldn't be comfortable with a lt partner. If i could find a man to combine the two I would probably fall head over heels in love. I haven't got time for falling in love right now (too busy). So I'll settle for a kinky shag session, may instead on three layers of condoms to ensure i don't get
pregnant!. As for you Skebbie, I can't understand why you'd want an English woman when you are surrounded by stunning Japanese types. I feel so clumsy and inelegant and huge compared with those beauties.

1:19 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Skebbie

"women unknowingly have affairs whilst in the fertile part of the menstrual cycle"

Presumably when they are sleepwalking, or under the influence of narcotics :-) Does that mean they wake up one day and find they are miraculously pregnant with no knowledge of previous events ? (sorry - just being daft..... :-)

I always think that humans are skating on very thin ice when they talk about being sentient, civilized and rational. Through centuries of religion and social pressure we have been conditioned into thinking that faithful monogamy is the only acceptable norm, but the fact that we are constantly lusting after new partners may actually be Nature telling us that more promiscuous behaviour is perhaps what she really designed us for. I sometimes think that we ignore these urges at our peril.

I seem to recall that I once caused mild amusement on these pages when I referred to my mating strategy as "scavenging". It's well documented in the animal kingdom: a wily and wiry male who is good at applying his wits hangs around in the vicinity of big butch grunting alpha males at a distance that is safe enough to ensure his safety, but close enough for him to pounce on females who get drawn to the testosterone :-) To use a crude analogy in the context of this site, it would be the equivalent of me sifting through the hotlists and friends of our more muscle-bound members (yeah, don't worry guys, it's not you I'm interested in...... :-)

Although I have to admit that I've grown to love the charms of Japanese women, I still continue to be fascinated by the endless anatomical variation of women of all ethnicities, and besides if I find myself stuck in the UK for a month with no hope of a shag, it's a slightly irritating prospect. Another thing is that I love the wit and banter I can only enjoy with a woman who comes from my own culture. It's like touching base with my youth.



5:50 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"Through centuries of religion and social pressure we have been conditioned into thinking that faithful monogamy is the only acceptable norm, but the fact that we are constantly lusting after new partners ..."


Skebbie, you will be wanting us to draw on cave walls next ;-)

Personally, I believe that there are some things that separate us humans from beasts: Whilst the animal kingdom still has to search the jungle for that perfect hole, man has created it for himself: The Fleshlight.

6:51 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Skebbie

Aw gawd......you can't be serious.....haha..... :-) The day I go out and buy one of those things, it'll be time to retire.

Of course there are some things that separate us from beasts. What I'm saying is that we can't completely divorce ourselves from our evolutionary origins and drives. I suppose you could argue that this site caters for people who acknowledge that perpetual monogamy is a social sham.

8:52 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 rigger101uk

Working the room? Working the room????

I am lost for words (actually that's not true....)

I just like people to feel welcome and included. Where's the harm in that?

9:47 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Skebbie

That was the name of the town :-)
Somehow, "Fred Flintstone" doesn't have the same ring to it :-)

Perhaps worth a reminder at this point that I'm a self-professed contemporary geek who is merely stating that our ancient instincts still affect us. If any of you are familiar with that ancient and fairly dreadful film "Caveman" with Ringo Starr, I would consider myself to be equivalent to the protagonist, who gets the girl through guile despite being the physical underdog :-)

10:05 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 averagejoe99

Hengist Pod? ........

10:25 am Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Skebbie

Joe: I think by the time the Romans invaded, even the Brits had managed to figure out how to build things with roofs :-)

2:28 pm Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Skebbie

Oooo-er.....I seem to have picked up a bit of stuff :-)
I'd like to think I make people laugh too sometimes, but either they don't "get it" or it's too dry or acid.
I'm beginning to wonder what kind of an image I'm creating for myself here. In actual fact I'm a normal bloke and not some lofty philosopher or Nobel laureate :-) Get a few pints down me and I'm anybody's :-)

6:38 pm Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

I personally find myself being drawn to men who have a degree of
wit & intelligence rather than bronzed Adonisdiamond geezer types.

I think intelligent men can be some what tortured as they live
in their head which i find endlessly facinating.

I love to be stimulated by their brilliant mind as they are great
passionate conversationalist which really turns me on.

Skebbie: make mine a G&T when
your at the bar getting the
pints in lol ;-)



6:44 pm Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Luv2sucU

"Get a few pints down me and I'm anybody's"

To be fair, this probably applies to a significant number of us.


Sunshine, Skebbie is the one with intelligence and wit; Dixon (the evil twin) is the bronzed Adonis diamond geezer. ;-)

7:14 pm Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

Luv2: "Dixon (the evil twin) that did make me laugh lolol.xx

7:31 pm Tuesday, 25th February, 2014 Roger035

Skebbie, have to agree with the thin ice statement, you only have to watch a wildlife programme on chimps for an hour and you can observe every aspect of human behaviour in full. All the cultural and social embellishments we have surrounded ourselves with, in what is a very recent past, are just a thin veneer that can be observed in the 1 hour film I refer to. Does not sexlove, call it what you will, drive the entire world and might I add,may it long continue to do so.Its removal or redundancy is one evolutionary step I would prefer to miss lol I mean, who would want the sex life of an aphid! Then of course there are the bonito chimps (think thats what they are called) now they have it all sussed lol

12:42 am Wednesday, 26th February, 2014 Skebbie

ealish: Yes it was still there last time I looked :-)

Actually I've been off the booze for a fortnight, partly because I'm marooned without any alcohol supply in my mountain abode after a record-breaking winter storm on Valentine's Day, and I must admit I do feel more "sparky" as a result. Maybe it's a blessing in disguise and will give me some impetus to live a healthier life in 2014. Mind you, that will soon crumble when I get back to UK in April:-)

Sunshine: G&T? OK....(jotting down the order on his notepad) :-) Actually there is some truth in Luv2's statement. Dixon is Mr Hyde to my Dr Jekyll, and the tussle between analytical logiccommon sense and selfish rampant lust often creates inner conflict. As Roger states, despite social decorum, a primal beast from the id lurks in all of us :-)



10:17 am Sunday, 9th March, 2014 ShymanNew

It has to be brains.

If it was brawn then I'm in deep trouble.

The mind is where it all starts and where the attraction and passion will grow.

The ability to interact and communicate is what will make something tangible and exciting as opposed to a one nigher after a skinful down the local (not that that doesn't have it's own merits occasionally).

Talk, engage, connect properly - the outcome will be much more rewarding on many more levels

1:55 pm Sunday, 9th March, 2014 Skebbie

Well.....thought this blog had sunk without trace. Of course weedy intellectual guys will heartily concur with the last three posts (haha....), but - as I say - I've found that the standard UK female mindset with regard to prospective sex partners tends to centre around tattoos, Abs, uniforms, 5 o'clock shadows and designer underpants :-) (And this includes a number of the regular lady bloggers :-)

Am I pissed off? Yes of course I am, but at least I have the consolation of knowing that the UK is not my main niche. In Blighty I'm still waiting for some physical affirmation of all this lip service that's paid to the irresistible brain (haha.....).

12:13 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

BBlish: So what happened, then? Did you start yearning for a "bit of rough" ?? :-)

I'm not saying I have some unique power over ladies in Japan (heaven forbid :-) but on the whole western guys get more attention there. OK even in Japan there will always be those who want "biceps and BBCs" (alliteration can be such fun, don't you find? :-) but a far greater proportion than their western counterparts place value on intelligence, sensitivity, and (dare I say it??) maturity. They're hardly queuing round the block, but it's certainly easier for me to get dates. I suppose Dixon helps a bit too (haha......).

12:15 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

"It's what's inside them that matters ;-)"

Could that be applied to male heads as well, I wonder ? :-)

12:17 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

wingit12: I'll be just up the road from you in April, so some lip service definitely wouldn't go amiss if you have an hour or two to spare :-)

7:14 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Fetch1

Skebbie. I was very interested to read your comment about Japanese ladies. I've played most of the male lead roles in " The Mikado" over the years.Do you think that would go down well in Kyoto,Hokkaido or Honshu ? Perhaps I should become more of " A Wandering Minstrel " then I may have a chance to meet " Three Little Maids "

7:40 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

Fetch: I'm a G&S fan (which probably serves to repel even more UK women on grounds of geekiness :-)
The story of the Mikado in Japan is an interesting one, and probably far too long to allow me to digress on this thread. The Brits performed it back in the old days when they had a "concession" down in Yokohama, but it had to be done on the quiet because it was considered disrespectful to the Emperor. After that it was never performed in Japan for decades until 2003, when I had the privilege of attending the first-ever performance in Japanese by an all-Japanese cast. It was absolutely brilliant. You see, the place where I live is considered to have been the model for the "town of Titipu", and the story of how G&S came up with it is a tale in itself. I can also claim to be the only Englishman who had "three little maids" who went to school there :-)

I think the production I saw was a one-off that has never been repeated since. It was well received at the time, but the costumes were all authentic, and not the strange half-Chinese, "vaguely oriental" ones that have traditionally been the custom for UK productions. I reckon there would be no real problem doing the Mikado in Japan now, although I think people would still be a trifle bemused by it.

If you decided to become a Wandering Minstrel here, I'm pretty sure you'd meet a maid or two in due course, but with everything else in Japan, integration and acceptance is the key. Unlike other places in Asia, women are not to be had as readily; they are well educated and don't shack up with foreigners for economic reasons. They're as discerning and sophisticated as Westerners.

8:25 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Fetch1

Skebbie.I do hope that afficionados of G & S are not considered to be geeks by the ladies.Apart from the excellent and beautifully scored music by Sullivan,Gilbert's sublime use of language is great art in itself. That coupled with satire which is quite biting at times,serves to de-bunk institutions which are still relevant as targets today.The Law, Royalty,Inherited wealth,The Church,Politics,Aristocracy to name but a few. Any lady who can appreciate the wit therein cannot surely, consider us to be geeks, can they ? I shall now retreat to my tree by the river and intone " Tit Willow,Tit Willow, Tit Willow "

8:42 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

Fetch: I hate to disillusion you, but I very much suspect that is the case. But I enjoy being quirky, and quirkiness will always have its fans if you wait long enough: Because of my rural location, genteel Japanese ladies in Tokyo think I'm a hoot because I come out with all this "farmer's vocab", which sounds weird coming from a foreigner :-)

But I agree with you: G&S are brill and repay listening again and again. On the satire side, it's interesting that the Japanese production I saw was geared towards a modern audience, and the libretto had been doctored to include jibes at contemporary politicians, personalities and news stories.

I'd be careful how you intone "Tit-Willow" if I were you, lest you be reported as some kind of perve wandering aimlessly round the local park :-)

9:38 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

BBlish: Well.....as I've said before to others who feel I've rubbed them up the wrong way.....if this was a pub, and you could see my face, you'd know I was not being offensive :-) In the context of this blog, to me - at least - it seemed worth a tentative giggle :-)

As for your erstwhile partner, I really have no idea who he might be, and I would not wish to inquire further. That is entirely your territory.

11:32 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

DrP: I rest my case :-)

11:35 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

wingit: As Dixon's agent, I take full responsibility for handling his affairs, so I'm happy to field any inquiries you might have :-)

11:51 am Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

DrP: Sorry, you'll have to spell that one out, I'm afraid. I'm on a beginner's learning curve for UK acronyms :-) Hint: use of animated GIFs doesn't convey much to me - I'm old fashioned that way. I need English :-)

12:19 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

Skebbie: "As Dixon's agent,i take full responsibility"

(Dare i ask, for fear of the tongue in cheek humour being overlooked.)

So as Dixons Agent are you responsible for the ostentatious "Bravado" displayed by Dixon on occasion? Or is Dixons large amount of flamboyant swagger all his own doing lol ;-)

12:36 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

DrP: Ah.....all is now illuminated. Thank you so much. Yes I can see where confusion might have arisen :-) Exit, crooning "Alone again - rachrallee" as opposed to "Tit-Willow" :-)

WingitSanshain: I must apologize for Dixon: he's a rather difficult person to work for, and sometimes he leaves me with a lot of clearing up to do. He is indeed inclined towards swagger and bravado, but this is the facade behind which he feels most comfortable, so I'm left as his "frontman" and "conscience". Lately he's been taking a hard line about who gets precedence in my profile photos, but I strive to maintain a balance. Some new media may be added fairly soon, which I hope will present a more balanced picture. Thanks for your concern.





1:40 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

Sukebe: Oh Goody new pics lol

Although i wonder if they shall include the up & coming Sakura in full bloom? Now that would be a beautiful sight to behold, Dixon captured surrounded by soft pink colourful splendor would deffo be rather captivating ;-)

1:53 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 Skebbie

Sanshain: Sadly it looks as though I'll be lucky to see any sakura before I leave for the UK. There's still 50 cm of snow in my garden and it's bloody freezing, so spring feels a long way off. However, as you know, snow can present its own photo-opportunities :-)

2:50 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

Sukebe: hopefully you will feel the warmth of sunshine very soon to melt the snow and hasten the Sakura bloom (very tongue in cheek)and warm your cockles lol. I always appreciate tasteful winter scenes, especially when the photographer has suffered for the cause ;-)

10:13 pm Monday, 10th March, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

BBWloving: why thank you but your too kind as always.

6:05 am Tuesday, 11th March, 2014 Fetch1

Skebbie.Upon mature reflection I have to concur that I am indeed,a geek !When I was at the Military Academy,we were given a 24 hour leave pass,so a bunch of us headed up to London.Most made straight for the Soho strip clubs and clip joints.Myself and one other went to the Adelphi Theatre to see the D'Oyly Carte production of " Pirates of Penzance " There was a young soprano making her debut in the principal part of Mabel.She made her entrance, stuck her tits out and belted " Poor Wandering One " at the audience. I instantly fell in love with her. Years later,I had the pleasure of performing with her and recounted this tale much to her amusement.This saga I suppose makes me,if not a geek,a very,very sad person.Ah well,I suppose feminine charms manifest themselves in many different ways but that does not make them less valid if sorry sods like me, derive much pleasure from them.
This does not mean of course,that flirting with Curvybird,is any less exciting.

6:59 am Tuesday, 11th March, 2014 Skebbie

Fetch: Strangely, the first record (EP) that I ever bought in my teens was "Excerpts from the Pirates of Penzance" by the Linden Singers (in Woolie's record section....haha). I think that definitely qualifies me for geekdom.

But there are some very attractive sopranos - and female musicians. There's certainly no shame in fessing up to having the hots for those types. I think this may have been covered in another blog, but I have a thing about women who are artistically accomplished in some way. I get really hot watching female violinists and pianists, for example. Call it a fetish if you will.

Actually I think Curvy would make a fantastic soprano or mezzo. Perhaps if you asked her nicely she'd upload a video of herself singing "Poor Wandering One" :-) Certainly a change from the usual amateur porn, but I'm sure none the less arousing :-)

10:14 am Tuesday, 11th March, 2014 Skebbie

I just had a bizarre flight of fancy: Maria Callas singing "Wheels on the Bus".

12:07 am Wednesday, 12th March, 2014 SunShineGirllUK

Undeniably a "Bizarre flight of fancy". Maria Callas singing "Wheels on the bus" but i am sure she would still have had her audience transfixed with her beauty and that stunning unforgettable voice. WOW Madame Butterfly

5:45 am Wednesday, 12th March, 2014 Skebbie

We have just lost one Luv2 from the blogs, and by coincidence another one appears. How curious :-) Yes the asterisks are automatically generated if the system suspects some word or letter strings are unacceptable. However, when (human) Admin people scan the blogs later, you'll find the asterisks disappear. So don't worry, it's quite normal :-)


Haha.....sounds as though some of the people you've been mingling with are exponents of Schopenhauer's "38 stratagems for winning an argument" (if you do a google you'll find them listed). This means that they are determined to win at all costs and will use unfair means to do so if necessary.
Intelligence is one thing, but being overbearing and arrogant is another. I think some alpha-type males who can't bear losing tend to adopt such tactics even if they are not particularly intelligent. So I don't think the characteristics you describe are necessarily the preserve of bright people.

As I've got a scientific background, I like to think I can keep an open mind and decide according to the facts and data presented. I'm as willing as anyone to admit when I'm wrong, and I'm not opinionated, even though I definitely have opinions. Some people might misread this as arrogance, but a lot of the time on a site like this you find that communicating purely through the written word can lead to misunderstandings of nuance. Anyway.....welcome to blogging and thanks for contributing to this one.

7:44 am Wednesday, 12th March, 2014 rigger101uk

Welcome Luv2...

I am with you on the "my brains bigger than your brain" approach. I have met folks who lead nations who, quite frankly, are not fit to tie their own shoes.

As one wise old warrior once opined when the latest thrusting military brain floated to the top of one particular pile "mmm now there's a man who has muddled up his ambitions with his capabilities"

Oh and are other hair styling products more "now" than brylcream? The barber in the little town that passed for civilisation when I was a nipper would say "anything on that?" when the short back and sides was done.

I may use that line when I finally get to play riggertime with Kate Humble, or, more specifically, her hair....

8:32 am Wednesday, 12th March, 2014 rigger101uk

ooo just had a thought re. Kate Humble...

On reflection that might be an ambitioncapability mismatch....

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Skebbie
Skebbie

I'm 56 years old, living in the Bradford region.