Starting in this lifestyle

Lisnbri

So, I/we are basically new to this lifestyle (I did have some previous experience when a friend invited me to 2 "swingers balls" in southern california about 15+ years ago). So i hate to make presumptions, lets call this an uneducated theory. I'll begin with a question. How did we get involved into this lifestyle to begin with? Here is an idea and I'd like to see if anyone has any feedback. I had it in my mind that most people started because one or the other person in a relationship was either going to cheat or was wanting to step outside the relationship, and used swinging as an alternative. Then, once they had experienced it, they decided that they both enjoyed it..... Im wondering how often that is the case? (Ok, let me be more honest and "transparent") I have been in more one night stands and very short "relationships" (if you can call them that) than anything else by far in my life. I got so used to it that even though im with someone i am devoted to and cherish, I find myself wanting to step outside the relationship for excitement. Now I wouldn't step out on my significant other but I have actually broken off relationships just to be with someone new. This time i decided to talk it out and found that my significant other was open to the idea of swinging. (So i get to have my cake and eat it to!) And also not hurt someone i care about....(yes she spoils me rotten she's a hell of a woman!). But i digress. LOL anyway. Anyone else find themselves in similar situations or am I wrong in thinking that a similar situation is how most people start their journey in this remarkable and fantastic lifestyle?

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